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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Non-Transitioning and Detransitioning => Topic started by: 1xxMiaxx1 on May 22, 2015, 01:33:06 PM

Title: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: 1xxMiaxx1 on May 22, 2015, 01:33:06 PM
I would like to hear if your transition has been a happily ever after story, did you find the love and fulfillment you wanted as a woman? My husband wants to be a woman with a loving man by her side. Has it happened for you? I would love to tell him it is possible.
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: Jenna Marie on May 22, 2015, 01:49:43 PM
Well, I am, but with the same person I was before transition - and not with a man. So maybe not what you had in mind, but I still think we had a happily ever after.  :)
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: 1xxMiaxx1 on May 22, 2015, 02:21:41 PM
I don't know if you would answer this but do you still have a sexual relationship? That part would end for me, I'm a straight girl.
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: kittenpower on May 22, 2015, 05:07:50 PM
I met my husband after I went full-time in 2007; we are happy and in love with each other :)
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: pretty pauline on May 22, 2015, 05:53:11 PM
I met my husband in 2008, we married in August 2010, we're now still happily married 5 years as husband and wife.
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: Jenna Marie on May 22, 2015, 06:21:09 PM
Oh! Yes,  should have mentioned that - we're as romantically and sexually involved as before. (Maybe more so, actually; my wife is bisexual and found sex painful back when I was a guy.)
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: JoanneB on May 22, 2015, 09:38:12 PM
I first dated my wife in 1978, 10 years pre SRS for her. Almost 40 years later we are still together. Almost 6 years after me dropping my own T-Bomb, we are still together.

It takes work, and we think it's worth it. We both also know all too well what may develop on my front. One day at a time
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: antonia on May 22, 2015, 11:54:00 PM
Met my partner after I transitioned, but I'm still pre-op, lesbian relationships are definitely different but can totally work.
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: kelly_aus on May 23, 2015, 12:11:13 AM
I met my last partner after I transitioned, if she hadn't passed away, we'd probably still be together. We certainly loved each other..
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: AbbyKat on May 23, 2015, 12:32:14 AM
Quote from: 1xxMiaxx1 on May 22, 2015, 01:33:06 PM
I would like to hear if your transition has been a happily ever after story, did you find the love and fulfillment you wanted as a woman? My husband wants to be a woman with a loving man by her side. Has it happened for you? I would love to tell him it is possible.

You mentioned in a later post that you are a straight woman and, in this post, you mention that your husband wants to "be a woman with a loving man by her side".

So does that mean she doesn't want to be married to a woman?  I mean, if she wants a man and you want a man... that might put a dent in things.  My wife is very supportive and she digs the ladies as much as I do so we're good there.  However, if I preferred men, I'm not sure where that would go.

Just remember this: Your marriage is defined by you guys and you guys alone.  Some couples have to convert into an open relationship type of marriage.  I can't imagine that not being at least a little fun to see if it improves or salvages things.
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: 1xxMiaxx1 on May 23, 2015, 10:04:56 AM
He says he is over transitioning, but he has changed his mind so many times so I'm trying to figure out how to make him happy and me at the same time. If he had transitioned I know he wanted to be with a man but he picked me and didn't tell me about the woman inside him till after we were married. We are working though all this one day at a time. We love each other and  discussing this daily and are going to stay married. I just need to ask question to people that live this life. Love is so hard to find no matter what we are. I understand so much more about him now. Thanks for all your replies.
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: Leki on July 08, 2015, 10:30:50 AM
Quote from: JoanneB on May 22, 2015, 09:38:12 PM
I first dated my wife in 1978, 10 years pre SRS for her. Almost 40 years later we are still together. Almost 6 years after me dropping my own T-Bomb, we are still together.

It takes work, and we think it's worth it. We both also know all too well what may develop on my front. One day at a time

wow, that is an incredible story, did you know you were trans the whole time?
Title: Re: who is in a loving relationship mtf after transition??
Post by: JoanneB on July 08, 2015, 09:22:37 PM
She mostly knew. About as much as me I guess. By that point I had "experimented" with transition, twice, and reconciled to "I'm just a cross-dresser". She knew it all. Just neither of us knew how much it would bubble back up when the excrement hit the air handler, big time, once again for me. I had a good 30+ year run. I came out alive  :o