Hello everyone,
Me again. As I said in my presentation post, "I don't know neither how much I'm trans ;D But when I started to question my gender, I started to be Trans...". Even if I am still ONLY questioning myself, I am already growing my hair out and considering seeing a therapist about that. I am already Transitioning from what the NORM wanted me to be into what I actually want me to be.
Last time I was drinking my coffee at the office and talks went to "the new girl joining the company next week" and guys were happy to say "First girl of our floor! We are going to have more visitors. :angel:". And lot of question came :
- Should I tell them that I am also A Girl.
- Am I really A Girl ? Or am I just a Trans?* ?
- Should I explain them all of my mind ? Should I make them understand that all this talk sounds sexist to me ?
I will try to make a normal sentence out of that.
If I know already that I am Trans*, without being 100% sure that I want to transition into what they call "a girl". Should I tell everyone that I am A Girl ? And perhaps, the real question should be : "Should I tell everyone that I am Tran?* ?". But this new formulation came a new question : Why did I simplify "Trans?*" to "A Girl" ? ( Could have been "A Boy" if I had been assigned Female at birth).
So I let you pick-up the question you prefer ;D and replace the title of this post by our question and consider I have said nothing.
I'm in a similar spot, i.e. I have totally accepted myself as trans and do intend to get on hormones, but I'm not sure that I will transition.
I personally wouldn't discuss any of this with anybody that didn't need to know unless a transition was imminent. That's really the only time it matters enough to tell anybody aside from relationships. Also keep in mind that you can't take it back once you say it. It doesn't matter if you ultimately decide not to transition, they will forever view you as that person that once said they were trans, but aren't because they didn't transition. I know that doesn't mean you're not trans. You probably do too. But I've been explaining that to my close friends I told for the past couple weeks and they just don't get it. They can't get "transgender = transition" out of their heads.
I think your first stop should be to a gender therapist. They can help point you in a direction that lets you explore without getting yourself into too much trouble before you're ready.
Definitely wait until you are sure and beginning transition because if you ultimately don't transition they will be confused. Start by seeing a therapist and wait until you begin transition. If you need to tell some close friends, that's another story, but I wouldn't out yourself at work until they are going to see the changes HRT is going to engender. Then talk to HR to decide how best to announce to the company.
I have told two people in my office but they also know the reasons I'm not yet transitioning. But as for a general announcement, I would hold off.
Best wishes on your journey of discovery!
I definitely agree with emilee and traci. I just don't see much on the upside for making any kind of announcement before you have decided where you're going with it.
All the best,
AshleyP