I would say for myself that my most positive experience so far since transitioning is being able to sit in outside tables in front of a café and working on my computer and enjoying who I am. I was sitting here in front of a café in the downtown area of Evanston and one of the social workers that helped me through a suicide nightmare just walked by. He's never seen me as I am and I'm sitting here typing this and I looked up and saw him take a double take when he saw me . Pretty funny.
well so far it has been the compliments I've received on here. I really hope they weren't just gratuitous.
The first week I got the wig I had now, when I still had no clue I might pass, I went to a workshop. The men all made a fuss over me. One of the ladies continued a conversation with me right into the women's room and while she was in a stall doing her business. I totally passed and everyone totally treated me like a woman and I LOVED it.
sounds great
Bit of a toss up for me.. Either finding someone who loved me for me.. Or when her eldest daughter adopted me after she died.. Never thought I'd get to be a mum.
Biggest positive is my wife staying with me ;D
Other than that I would say on a trip to Dallas for a company conference I was treated like a lady at the airport, the hotel ... the entire trip. A huge confidence booster ;D
the wife was a big boost, but my son wanting to do things with me when i feel good makes it better:)
funny story, (but he didnt mind) I just recently took him to vegas for his 21st (to see chris angel). later that night, the wife decided to goto bed, and my son and i stayed down to gamble, first table, both of us were carded? im 41! i loved it, but my dl is 6 years old of the old me.. i was still happy..
2nd was that he wanted to try table poker. we went to a quiet table id been at before since it was late. This table i had been before the previous night and made friends with fellow vets. this one vet i met the night before looked at my son and said i had a handsom boyfriend? my son laughed, and i was shocked and explained this was my son that i told them about the night before.. i didnt know you could see dark skin people blush, but he sure did:) poor guy was in his 60s and all upset now, but he realized my son was at least laughing too.. we all got a good laugh and had fun playing a while.
im just glad this worked out better than i imagined! i hope this happens more, just not him being mistaken as my date!
I'd say its been working with the public and being well received by so many customers. It got driven home lately because I left that job for about 8 months and everyone was sooo glad to see me today when I started back working there again. Many know I am trans as well since its such a small community.
My closest friends are fully supportive and love getting complements on my outfits.
Hey there Miss Stephanie! In reply to your question: My single most positive experience since being born, without a second thought, is meeting my husband. When we met for the first time and our eyes met, it was as if a virtual bubble encapsulated us. The world has fallen away. Many years later, it is like that first day.
I'm very happy for you. it's so good when you can find love like that.
It happened yesterday when I was shopping around during my lunch break at work (I'm full time) so as I was walking inside Express to look at some nice blouses. For a moment, I was able to glance myself in the mirror and I asked myself "who is that?" and I smiled after. I am seeing the real me for the first time.
Passing all the time isa great sign that HRT is doing it's job right. I celebrated my 9 months on HRT last Thursday xoxo
Love,
April
Getting 5 books published and seeing my writing career take off. :)
So many but which one to choose. There is this doctors office I take my mom to every 3 months. First two times they could still see the person they knew before even though I clearly looked different. This last time the nurse was completely stunned and thought I was completely different person.
Mariah
Quote from: Mariah2014 on May 30, 2015, 01:01:27 PM
So many but which one to choose. There is this doctors office I take my mom to every 3 months. First two times they could still see the person they knew before even though I clearly looked different. This last time the nurse was completely stunned and thought I was completely different person.
Mariah
yea, that's happening to me too, it's fun. The receptionists at my therapists office have been looking at me wondering for a few seconds who I was even though I've been going there for 2 years.
The stunned looks on their faces would be worth seeing.
Mariah
Quote from: stephaniec on May 30, 2015, 01:40:59 PM
yea, that's happening to me too, it's fun. The receptionists at my therapists office have been looking at me wondering for a few seconds who I was even though I've been going there for 2 years.
So far nothing has compared to the relief and peace I felt when finally accepting myself as transgender. That was a life altering change in course and recognition of identity.
Some other positives are being called "my wife" by my wife, seeing more of my real self in the mirror, more curves and just the day to day of living freely as Tessa.
Quote from: Mariah2014 on May 30, 2015, 01:44:06 PM
The stunned looks on their faces would be worth seeing.
Mariah
It's funny
Another big positive experience is meeting everyone on Susan's
My most positive experience so far happened just a few days ago, when I had a really busy day of grocery shopping, clothes shopping, running errands, etc. It was such an exhausting day, but from the moment I stepped outside the door I was read as female by everyone I interacted with, which was AMAZING, and which makes me feel like my voice is really holding up well after all! Of course I am happy to be transgender and it's not always about passing for me, but just to get those little external validations means so much... When I was talking with my friend (who has known me for quite some time) on the phone that day and I answered and she said, "Is this Ashley?! No way, this can't be you!!" because my voice apparently sounded so different? That was a close second. :)
To be honest the whole thing has been positive for me. My life has blossomed and I feel more open and more alive than I ever have. I love shopping for clothes and shoe - used to hate it; I love going out with people and chatting - could hardly work up the enthusiasm before; I care about my appearance now could barely be bothered previously. Apart from one or too not great experiences (gyms, family) it has been very positive for my self esteem and emotional well being.
There was one thing though that just stands out - it was such a little thing, near the end of my first week full time... I was in the ladies at a large public facility where my work was holding a function, while I was in there checking my make up one of my work colleagues came in and just started chatting with me as if she'd always known me as a woman. Only lasted about 30 seconds or so but wow it made my day and I've never forgotten that feeling of acceptance and inclusion.
Having my name and gender marker changed. I remember skipping down the street like a total dork on those days. :D But, I didn't care.
I'll just be totally superficial and say -
All the little private (and not-so-private) messages, and the expressions of interest, from boys <3
Waking to up 'Hey sexy', and requests for dates ...
*sigh* ... this is how I always wanted to spend Sunday morning!
The most gratifying moment since the start of my transition would definitely be during the hardest part of my transition (so far). It was a day written with lots of staring and snickering, and even a shop owner telling me I couldn't try on clothing where I needed to, simply because "men shouldn't dress like women". Set aside that, I mustered whatever I had left of my energy, and ended up buying a beautiful dress. (A real horrid piece of cloth frankly!) But it was my first dress, and not my last either! I felt revitalized, like I championed that day! There hasn't been many a day that great, but it will surely be remembered!
a big yes to dress buying
Quote from: stephaniec on May 30, 2015, 09:04:06 PM
a big yes to dress buying
Oh my goodness I will never forget buying my first dress!!! It's still my favorite! :D
I think the single best thing that ever happened to me came from my church. I wrote and email to everyone telling them what was going on and explaining a little about my decision to be known as Melitta and no longer by my birth name. I clarified my desired pronouns and attached links for information about what being transgender is and how you can be an ally. The responses that I received were unbelievable. (Now let me stop to add that this church is online and I have only met under 10 of them in person, however I do plan on traveling this summer).
I received warm welcomes and even an invite to our woman's space. All the girls told me that since I publicly identified as a woman they wanted to extend the invitation to me to join the ranks of female Druids within our organization. Their kindness and acceptance, without hesitation, was so heart warming that it still touches me deeply to this day.
Melitta
The most positive experience?
There has been lots of plateaus and milestones and good feelings for sure, but getting on 'mones to alleviate the dysphoria so that it was even possible to reach those plateaus and milestones and good feelings, y'know?
The big change transitioning had on my life. I went from a shy withdrawn guy to a outgoing life of the party woman. I have way more confidence as woman than I ever had as a guy.
Also, being accepted as one of the girls. I never really had any friends as a guy. Now as a woman I have a close circle of female friends, who dont know my secret. I love shopping with them, shoe shopping is my favorite. we are all very girly girls and have ball with makeup, shoes and clothes.
Women accept me as one of them and see me as just another female. It was a long road to get to that point and there are still more milestones ahead, but so far, acceptance is the biggest thing.
Hello Everyone.
Its been a while since I've posted on here. Been going through a lot lately. I have two significant positive
experiences since beginning my transition. The lesser one: finding a pansexual genetic woman who was
specifically looking for a MtF trans-woman to date. We've had our issues and are currently dealing with a few right now
but I wouldn't trade my relationship with her for anything. We are such a compatible match. I'm more girly than her.
Because of my appearance, the way I hold myself, act, and dress she fully sees me as a woman. She has told me on at
least 2 occasions that she forgets that I was born with male anatomy and that I'm more woman than any woman she
has ever known.
The biggest positive experience since transition: my ability to pass. When first meeting me, people cannot tell that
I'm trans and they assume I'm a genetic female. If I had to guess, I'd say I pass 70-80 percent of the time. Being
around me long enough some people figure it out. Most don't ask, they feel its none of their business. Even at work
the women are comfortable around me both the ones that know and the ones that don't know. In the year and half
I've been working at my current employer I have been using the women's room since day one. Not once has anyone
said anything about me using the women's room. Not even the women that do know I'm trans. They have no problem
with me being in there at the same time they are. I was so worried about not passing but through transitioning and
the female hormones I pass very well. By far that would be my most positive experience in the last 3 & 1/2 years.
Began transition: 10/1/2011, began female hormones: 10/2/2012, re-assignment surgery: undecided.