So I'm wondering if anyone who has made more than one attempt at transitioning has used a different name each time, or if yall used the same name each time.
I'm asking because I'm getting closer to being ready for my second attempt and am considering an out with the old in with the new approach. What do yall think?
I never stopped but I would like to change my name to Rachel Lynn. I am holding off for now.
I know several trans woman that changed there names and some several times.
I knew one trans girl who letter started calling herself "genderless" insisted on a different name every times we met so legitimately like sixty names... smh....im not kidding
The only thing I changed was the middle name. The first name I knew was a good fit by the time the second time came around even though I wasn't fully ready to be referred by the first time. Now having said that the middle name I chose the first time by pure accident is included in my legal middle name now. Hannah. Family distaste for the middle name and welt felt right is why this time around the choice was different, but ultimately what felt right to me is what one no matter what family said bu honoring their wishes in this case felt right. I wish you the best of luck of finding a name your comfortable with. Maybe it's the one you used term and maybe it isn't. It could be some variation of it. Good luck and Hugs.
Mariah
Second attempt, fortunately successful this time. As you see by my sig I went by the name "Julie" the first time I tried. Not quite sure how or why I chose that name and even after I decided not to transition I went by Julian (Julie-Anne, geddit?) for at least three years before I went back to my male birth name. When I realised transition was on the agenda for a second go I decided there was not way I could go back to Julie, too many bad memories from that attempt. Which is good... got me to a better place and better name.
Three attempts - One name
The name had absolutely zero reason nor bad associations with my aborted transition experiments. In fact, perhaps one can say it was the one other small piece of "Me" that survived whole, intact. Joanne was the person I always dreamed of myself becoming. If not this lifetime, perhaps the next
For me I have changed my name that people call me three times, but when I do a legal name change...it will be permanent . The legal name will be a deviant of my male name; and include my mothers middle name as I believe it has a nice ring to it
This is my second and permanent transition trajectory. I kept Tessa as I was renamed at age 3 by my sister. Some of the most beautiful aspects of transitioning are finding your voice, your style, your identity and your name. Sing it out sister.
This is a wonderfully insightful and creative process and I think you have the right to be yourself. To badly paraphrase Shakespeare; A rose will smell as sweet by any name.
Quote from: Mariah2014 on May 30, 2015, 12:51:31 AM
The only thing I changed was the middle name. The first name I knew was a good fit by the time the second time came around even though I wasn't fully ready to be referred by the first time. Now having said that the middle name I chose the first time by pure accident is included in my legal middle name now. Hannah. Family distaste for the middle name and welt felt right is why this time around the choice was different, but ultimately what felt right to me is what one no matter what family said bu honoring their wishes in this case felt right. I wish you the best of luck of finding a name your comfortable with. Maybe it's the one you used term and maybe it isn't. It could be some variation of it. Good luck and Hugs.
Mariah
I may try that approach... My first name is actually used by women these days. But my middle name is my dads name. I could change that to another name. This way when the newspaper notice goes out it doesn't scream trans.
Quote from: iKate on May 30, 2015, 12:42:46 PM
I may try that approach... My first name is actually used by women these days. But my middle name is my dads name. I could change that to another name. This way when the newspaper notice goes out it doesn't scream trans.
Yeah the newspaper thing is a part that I'm dreading. Yeah next to no one reads it anymore, and people barely read the obituaries and announcements on top of it, but I feel like some of us work so hard to stay stealth, just to be forced into publicly outing ourselves by posting in the newspaper that Jonathan Robert Doe is wanting to change his name to Peggy Sue Doe.
It's cruel in my opinion