So I'm trying to figure out if my parents have any clue about what is going on my life. my parents have been exposed to two transsexuals in the past two hours. i was watching Orange is the Black episode 3 with my parents (who just started watching the series). Episode 3 largely focuses on Sophia Burset played by Laverne Cox. Surprisingly, she got no reaction out of my parents. A couple hours later, my dad is watching the Daily Show, featuring a segment on poking fun at the media for their coverage of the Caitlyn Jenner story and their intense focus on her appearance to the exclusion of her past accomplishments or serious coverage of trans* issues. Anyways, no reaction from my parents. I tried to gauge their feelings about trans* people, but I'm apparently not getting anywhere. I've left plenty of clues, I'm wearing girl jeans. I have occasionally left makeup laying around. I shave my arms and legs and wear women's deodorant, my hair is longer than they have ever seen before. I obsessively shave my face and have women's razors in the bathroom that my dad also uses. My mother has occasionally found women's clothes mixed in with my man drag in the dryer, and one my shaping panties was drying in my moms bathroom, she found it, but never asked me about it. My dad even knows i'm seeing a shrink. are my parents really this clueless, am I doing a better job of staying in the closet than I thought, or are they ignoring the elephant in the room.
Three thoughts come to me on this one.
1) They are avoiding the elephant,
2) Clueless, or
3) They know, but don't want you to know that they know, and are waiting when you feel is the right time you are willing to open up to them.
These are opinions that of my own.
Kate ♥
Avoiding it until you say something, and even if you have they may not accept it until it becomes "real" (meaning full time).
Avoidance is a widespread coping mechanism.
I can imagine your parents not wanting to comment, since you've telegraphed that you have gender issues, but their not quite sure exactly what's going on.
Rachel, there really is no substitute for communication.
Quote from: Katiepie on June 03, 2015, 08:41:42 PM
Three thoughts come to me on this one.
1) They are avoiding the elephant,
2) Clueless, or
3) They know, but don't want you to know that they know, and are waiting when you feel is the right time you are willing to open up to them.
These are opinions that of my own.
Kate ♥
This.
I think they are waiting for you to raise the subject Rachel.
Maybe it's time you choose a moment and tell them everything?
You might have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,180045.msg1658077.html#msg1658077
Well its up to you what you say since you know them best...
just take the time you need...
some people come out in a letter or via text, and show some materials like vids later...
and you might talk it through with your therapist...
hugs
Although it's possible that they really are clueless I am in agreement with the rest. I would suspect they are waiting for you to come to them. They probably don't want to scare you off and may not know the best way to approach you over it and be supportive at the same time. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah