It went surprisingly well actually. Curse my feeble mind in thinking of the worst in the situation.
But when I did first explain that last night's hypothetical question, wasn't so hypothetical to start, and that deep down I do want to eventually full transition, of course first led up to the denial step of "it could be just about anything from physical to other emotional issues". Then when I start explaining about the whole as of my dreams that seem to reoccur(naturally not in full detail but rather the whole belted crotch and taking it off, or ripping my skin to reveal the me inside, and just being female in the dreams). Including my dream in which I had claimed the name Kate, which I thought I had mentioned that to her at least a week or so of it happening.
The whole of not being comfortable in my own body, clothes (until I started wearing more girls clothes then normal) even though I've been clearly wearing girls jeans for the past few days now, and she didn't think anything about it. Or not even questioning my pea coat for that matter when it is clearly female in looks. Of course on the matter of clothes, she did mention "they just don't make men's clothes as to your body shape" which is very true, and she does support me in my ventures of girls clothing. Though not sure exactly about the whole dress or skirt types of what she would think, but my assumption is that she would support me wearing such.
So through explaining about everything that I have been going through, or most of the instances (didn't really want to tell her about the scissors incidents that almost happened or sleeping with the scissors under my pillow that many years ago), due to that would just cause unnecessary worry, which I am way past now.
When it came to school in another state, since I am planning on going to MSU for undergraduate, and possibly either sticking there or finding somewhere better suited for wildlife conservation. She did express worry about transitioning, and how different states are about the protections, crimes, prejudices and all of the sort. And of course I know I will be careful where ever I go no matter where I am.
She also did ask, of what entirely made me join the army when I did, and how the future to that would go for transition, and I told my mom in a nutshell, the reason I joined. I was a stupid 20 year old that got hooked in from the recruiter, a little bit of it was to break free from the mold, that of my life literally well was just the same routine, go to work, go home play games, rinse repeat. I made decent money for not having any large bills, and just I was going no where. Other than that that it was plain and simple escapism.
As for the future of the military, it's either they implement the protections in the time it takes me to transition fully or I'm done with it. I am kinda officially stuck in another 4 years minimum in my second contract of 6 years so they don't take away all my benefits, along being in the reserves, and in decent areas may be a little more understanding in subjects of transgender and rights, I know once I start therapy, and having a close to top secret clearance, I will no longer be deployable, and possibly get reduced to a simple tier one secret clearance as for what's needed for my primary job in the army.
Next step, tell my dad, and brother, maybe my half sister when she's a little older (she actually turns 5 tomorrow).
I'm happy that things went well with your mother :)
Dealing with family can be tough. I know that I spent months trying to think of a way to come out to my family, and I've still not come out to the majority of them.
I can't speak the the military aspect of things, as I've never served myself, but I hope things work out for you in that regard as well.
-Felicity
So happy {{hugs}} Family is sometimes the hardest to tell ... and can hurt the most if they don't receive the news well. When the do accept the news well it is a wonderful feeling
I'm so glad, because that was eating away at me. Since I do stay with my mom at the moment. So I can finish my earlier classes before I move to Michigan for University.
I will at least be able to be more so myself around the apartment. :)
She knew about me wearing girls jeans but not in the whole for skirts.
Oh god, which I know immediate family will be a lot easier than the whole family. Let's see on my mom's side there are my mom, two more sisters and two more brothers. Cousins, let's just call them dozens... crazy amount to count. Other than family friends , like for instance my brothers friend and his wife were friends with my brother since middle school, they are considered family. And a multitude of that all over within the family. We are counting somewhere around up to 200 if not more family members.
It would just be easier going just about all out at a family reunion, wearing a skirt or so, and having a proper name change/gender marker change for it to be easier.
Felicity, Thank you! I hope all goes well with your wonderful transition! Including finally coming out to the rest of the family with no qualms :)
I mean I don't have issues with the military until it gets in the way of my happiness, and well, that's coming sooner than later with the steps I have begun stepping.
Tiffanie, Oh girl you better believe it. It's kinda like weight lifting, bad news adds weight that can't be lifted, and good news taken in or everything goes well and that weight ends up lifting easy peasy.
Kate