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Hi I am 18 years old transgender woman I am living in Turkey I don't start transition yet but I will soon, I am lucky because I have supportive parents and my city is respectful for LGBTI people not much but avarage. But there is discrimination and transphobia If they don't give me a job I may have to be sex worker I don't want this. I certainly support sex workers but I don't want to be a sex worker  :(  people look me like a sex object they don't care If I have emotions and It make me feel scared . I don't know what to do I would be happy If you suggest me a job I want to be my own boss so I will not scare about being rejected from a job . Is there any job like this?  or what can I do ? Thanks

you can always try creating some sort of web site to sell merchandise .

Fluttershy,

I know very little about your country and it's interaction with our community. I think someone else(Kittenpower maybe?) suggested on one of your other posts support group local to your country.

I don't know how many people on this site have information for your area. However, it seems like you should find a local or native for this question.

I cannot help you but can feel for you and the dehumanizing fear you must feel for that possibility. I wish you luck in finding a job(is University out of the question now?). I also wish you a smooth journey, wherever transition may take you.

With warm thoughts and concerns,

Joanna

We all face rejection. Sometimes you have to learn how to deal with it and move on. A therapist can help with that and possibly with employment suggestions as they would know more what you are dealing with.

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Welcome to Susan's Fluttershy

really nice to have you aboard

L Katy  :-*

Hi - welcome to Susan's. I understand your fear of rejection - it is a real gut punch and end even if it has nothing to do with you being trans it can really undermine your sense of self worth and confidence.

I've recently been reemployed after a four month stint out of a job, I would consider that I have a lot of confidence but even so that four months was not great and I got pretty depressed in April. I live in a reasonably accepting city and was applying to fairly open minded organisations and I don't believe the fact I was passed over in interviews had anything to do with me being trans - even so it started to play on my mind a bit. I found that I was more open, confident and connected in interviews presenting as female than I ever was when I was pretending to be a dude - I think it just boiled down to the fact that there were better candidates than me.

Problem is if you decide to not try because of a fear of rejection then you may miss out on an awesome job and a good work experience. Working for yourself can yield great results if you have the passion and drive and (usually) money behind you but it is often a very difficult enterprise - who will do the work for you when you are sick or need to take a break for example, who will do your finances, etc. But if you are talented in a certain area then focus on that as a potential avenue for revenue - just don't expect it to support you straight off the block, you may want to consider a part time job regardless. If you never try you'll never know. :)

Even I can relate to you Fluttershy, to my very first post here on the forum but, when I came out as a Transgender, all my friends and colleagues at my current job were supportive. So I know the feeling of rejection from my past. :)