Poll
Question:
where does the importance of physical attraction fit on the scale
Option 1: Physical attraction is of absolute importance
votes: 2
Option 2: Physical attraction is imortant , but not the most impotant factor
votes: 3
Option 3: I think I perfer a 50-50 mix
votes: 4
Option 4: I like greater than 50% mental
votes: 0
Option 5: I perfer a lot more mental than physical in determining partners
votes: 6
Option 6: The pysycal is really not that important to me
votes: 0
Option 7: I totally perfer mental stimulation rather than physical in partners
votes: 1
Just wondering, maybe because I an old lady and I went through a heavy physical period when I was younger, how do you determine the partners you want to share time with . For me at this stage in my life, I'm far more interested in finding someone I can endlessly talk to or just remain silent with. The physical part is nice , but its far less important to me now days . Physical beauty is nice , but realistically I'd just like someone compatible to dissect human existence with.
HRT may alter my perspective. But as of now, I definitely have a good degree of that visual orientation that drives me. Of course, I've always been one that almost equalizes that with personality...someone who is fun to talk with, or just hang out with as you mentioned.
Well this is an interesting. I think most romantic connections start with a little physical attraction, that strong eye contact, smiling, it definitely starts visually many times. However a guy who is sweet, caring, funny but average looking would probably attract me more than a really hot guy who doesn't care about me. Attraction may start physically but personality is definitely important for emotional chemistry and can be the deal breaker.
Physical attraction for me belongs in the realm of the sexual. Mental attraction is the psychological side.
Yes, I differentiate between sexual and psychological attraction. Wooo ...
A person can either look for one, or both things in a partner. There are probably more kinds of attraction as well ...
when you meet someone , I guess a whole onslaught of senses come into play. For me When I meet someone my brain takes off like a super computer calculating all the possibilities. I'm attracted at first sight by the persons looks , but each moment after the layers start to unravel and the possible percentages of moving forward get calculated and then the reality part of the equation gets played. It is because of my age right now that I'm far more interested in mental satisfaction mainly because the physical in my passed has just caused problems, even though fun, its just more comforting to delve into personality to establish a more meaningful relationship. If I was back to being 20 years old it would probably be for me just trying to satiate the physical fire, but that always ended in the missing pieces causing major problems.
My attraction to them as a person is far more important. I will admit that some just by how they look do tern me off and isn't necessarily one thing particular and I might even be taking into account how they act and move about in there space into that. It really is a package deal, but definitly who they are as a person trumps everything for me.
Mariah
There are many time that I met someone and I didn't feel any attraction on him. But after sometime knowing him and be around him, I found that he is really attractive, and I want more of him. So at the end of the day, it just all about mentally beauty.
But I still enjoy fancy physical guy sometime though LOL ;D