so I recently went full time and that's all good but I want to take it up a level I love skirts you see but I'm afraid to wear one out
Being afraid just makes it more memorable.
Totally understandable. You will be able to when your ready to though. Is there anything in particular that makes you afraid to wear one? Hugs
Mariah
There's only one way to get over a fear like that - in the words of a large sporting brand, just do it.
Quotejust do it
That's what Barbie said...
there's nothing like jumping into cold water
Quote from: Mariah2014 on June 29, 2015, 03:21:17 PM
Totally understandable. You will be bale to when your ready to though. Is there anything in particular that makes you afraid to wear one? Hugs
Mariah
It's just taking that femininity up a level
Jumping in is best then. Once you do you will choose to where them when you want to after that. Hugs
Mariah
Quote from: Yenneffer on June 29, 2015, 03:44:32 PM
It's just taking that femininity up a level
We are exact opposites I'm deathly afraid to wear pants or shorts out in public. I have such a nice pair of shorts just can't work up the courage to wear.
Although I am full time en femme (with the exception of some of my athletic sneaks sometimes). I too have not been out much in dresses. For one reason, I don't have many & no skirts yet. Don't know if it is a fear factor thing or because my legs are like bean poles. Love wearing them around the house, but out, ummm maybe I'm just not ready. Keep sayin I'm going to the thrift shop and get some, but haven't done that yet either. Why I care about how others would perceive me if I had a dress on and could care less about someone seeing me in with a top on and obviously a bra underneath, I really don't know. What I do know is that I'd be a lot cooler in this humid Houston summer heat. It's coming though, I know it! Let me procrastinate about this a bit.
Hugz,
Joi
It took some courage for me before I wore a dress in public. I then realized it was better than wearing pants.
With pants, there is still some room for gender ambiguity because men wear pants. With a dress/skirt, you scream "female" unless you're wearing a Scottish kilt.
My mom also said that the pants don't look so good on me, and she's right I think. She said that the dresses look far better on me. Could be hips or other stuff. But now I am shifting rapidly to wearing mostly skirts and dresses.
Not for nothing, don't expect perfection. People will stare, people may laugh, people will do things. Especially if like you and me you're relatively early on. I'm only 6 months HRT. Don't worry about them. Be yourself and be confident. Once you learn to tune them out it is very liberating.
For me, wearing pants was a crutch. And it was very silly using it as a crutch, because I want to be perceived as a woman, right? So why was I dressing in a manner that had people doubting that I was one? I basically wore pants because I could "fall back" to looking like a man when I needed it. But what I was doing was pretty dumb in my opinion. When you free yourself then you can be yourself.
Quote from: iKate on June 29, 2015, 05:22:42 PM
It took some courage for me before I wore a dress in public. I then realized it was better than wearing pants.
With pants, there is still some room for gender ambiguity because men wear pants. With a dress/skirt, you scream "female" unless you're wearing a Scottish kilt.
My mom also said that the pants don't look so good on me, and she's right I think. She said that the dresses look far better on me. Could be hips or other stuff. But now I am shifting rapidly to wearing mostly skirts and dresses.
Not for nothing, don't expect perfection. People will stare, people may laugh, people will do things. Especially if like you and me you're relatively early on. I'm only 6 months HRT. Don't worry about them. Be yourself and be confident. Once you learn to tune them out it is very liberating.
For me, wearing pants was a crutch. And it was very silly using it as a crutch, because I want to be perceived as a woman, right? So why was I dressing in a manner that had people doubting that I was one? I basically wore pants because I could "fall back" to looking like a man when I needed it. But what I was doing was pretty dumb in my opinion. When you free yourself then you can be yourself.
True I do love leggings though 😊.i do need to wear a skirt
iKate you are so right! I had to use a crutch for yrs. due to back prbs. & surgeries. I was so glad when I had recovered to the point that I didn't need it anymore. It was liberating. As you said, I'm using pants as a crutch and although I love the perception issue from the waist up why the reluctance on the bottom half. "With pants, there is still some room for gender ambiguity because men wear pants." Right again Kate! Being ambiguous is faking it.
Gotta go shoppin!
Hugz,
Joi
Take small steps...wear a skirt inside, then step out a short distance, to the car or mailbox...
Then take a short walk to the corner to "look at something interesting" (ie, your place from that angle). From there go to a 7-11 nearby (by car, but go inside and buy some orange juice or some such).
Good luck!!
I am the opposite sense I started presenting as myself all I wear out of the house it's skirts. Pants show of hips and waist things I dont have and with hormones and weight loss my size could easily change so skirts just seemed better plus I like the free breezy feeling.
Serena
Quote from: Yenneffer on June 29, 2015, 02:55:25 PM
so I recently went full time and that's all good but I want to take it up a level I love skirts you see but I'm afraid to wear one out
I worry about jeans, slacks and shorts
OK girls! I did it "today!" After musing on this post yesterday decided to go for it. Put on a nice sun dress and some cute sandals went to have my 1st mammogram. Now granted, I was definitely in good company at the clinic (not many guys there obviously) but it felt really great. I'll call it kind of a baby step. but, I'm so glad I did it. Next time it will be easier and perhaps not so much fun. I was "screaming" femininity (inside).
Hugz,
Joi
PS: The mammogram was a breeze! ;)
Quote from: Joi on June 30, 2015, 05:49:50 PM
OK girls! I did it "today!" After musing on this post yesterday decided to go for it. Put on a nice sun dress and some cute sandals went to have my 1st mammogram. Now granted, I was definitely in good company at the clinic (not many guys there obviously) but it felt really great. I'll call it kind of a baby step. but, I'm so glad I did it. Next time it will be easier and perhaps not so much fun. I was "screaming" femininity (inside).
Hugz,
Joi
PS: The mammogram was a breeze! ;)
good for you.i tried going out in a skirt today but my support worker never turned up so I got my confidence knocked
Quote from: Joi on June 30, 2015, 05:49:50 PM
OK girls! I did it "today!" After musing on this post yesterday decided to go for it. Put on a nice sun dress and some cute sandals went to have my 1st mammogram. Now granted, I was definitely in good company at the clinic (not many guys there obviously) but it felt really great. I'll call it kind of a baby step. but, I'm so glad I did it. Next time it will be easier and perhaps not so much fun. I was "screaming" femininity (inside).
Hugz,
Joi
PS: The mammogram was a breeze! ;)
That's awesome!!!
Eventually you will see that nobody cares. And those that do care, well, that's their problem, not yours.
I didn't know that one could delete a post. I guess you can if you are the one that started it. Oh well! I'm just a "newbie"
I've worn dresses and a gypsy skirt in public, and I'm not even remotely passable at the moment. I just feel better in girl mode, even if I don't pass. Your pretty, you'll do fine.
Quote from: Joi on June 30, 2015, 09:10:58 PM
I didn't know that one could delete a post. I guess you can if you are the one that started it. Oh well! I'm just a "newbie"
Hugs it's okay
Quote from: rachel89 on July 01, 2015, 12:23:38 AM
I've worn dresses and a gypsy skirt in public, and I'm not even remotely passable at the moment. I just feel better in girl mode, even if I don't pass. Your pretty, you'll do fine.
Thanks.i believe anyone can be passable and pretty
I Would love to wear a skirt of Dress out but My wife will not allow it she is really struggling with My transition and skirts and dresses push her well out of her acceptance zone . So for now I am stuck in trousers and blouses that look like shirts "Sigh" I find it so hard not being able to wear all the pretty things but if I want to save my marriage I need to make compromises that She can live with LOL
Hugs Toni