I came out to my mum the other day and she said something at yhe time that freaked me out but i put it in a box labelled most likely a joke and let it slide. She said she gets dibs on calling me "freak boy".
I messaged her the day after asking about it and asked if it was a joke.
She said no, and when i said actually i find that offensive she started having a go at me about being sensitive. Now im prety sure im not being sensitive, and that im allowed to be offended by that, but what she said has made me uncertain. And im not sure what to do. I wont be talking to her for a while at least.
I guess what i want to ask is how you would feel being given that moniker and then being told you were being sensitive and choosing to be offended....
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Words do hurt and even after 33 years, being called sir still bothers me. One thing that I find helps is I don't consider myself normal because I consider my self to be special. I have done something few other people have done and it makes me a far better person because of it.
I don't know if it will help, transexuals are born transexual and nothing will change that. The only treatment is to transition to a new life style. The link will take you to a discussion of the medical proof.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexualism (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexualism)
The fact that your mom has mocked you about your gender identity first, then again about your taking offense to her first "joke," is what I would call bullying. If she picks on you, and you are hurt by what she says, she has no right to complain when you stand up for yourself—especially when her choice words were "freak boy," which just disgusts me, given that she has told you it wasn't intended as a joke. People aren't allowed to choose how what they say/do is taken or interpreted, which is something my graphic design teacher taught me, too: once you release something into the world, it's no longer yours to interpret for others, and you've lost all rights to demand how someone understands it. I think offensive language is the same way, for the most part.
As for how I'd feel in a similar situation, I'd be pretty sore, just like you. It's hard to say how you're mom's taking all this news, it might be a form of grieving that takes the form of lashing out, but again, it's pretty difficult to tell from where I'm standing, and you'd be the best judge of that. In any case, I'm sorry your mom seems insensitive to your feelings, I know that can be incredibly hard.
Here are a few resources that could help:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,180045.msg1658077.html#msg1658077
Well its up to you what you say since you know them best...
I'd talk to them, showing them the brochure, and explaining...
and then asking why they react this way...
they might not want to talk about it first, asking sensibly while watching out for oneself might help... not getting in a fight but asking...
they might have restraints because of what neighbours say (there are many tg people now so people get used to it...)
they might have some ideas from a book or wherever... (well tg people are people like others...)
etc...
it might be possible to remain calm and respond from a position of knowledge, having gathered quite some information...
and some people use a letter, and show some materials like vids later...
hugs
Thank you. Ithink it will have to be an email i send with resources etc and a calm explanation of how it made me feel. I know that right now i cant talk to her. Luckily my brothers both took it in stride, only comment being that if i grow a beard before them annoyance will occur. So even if it takes her a while to come round ill still have them ☺
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Honestly, I would be hurt. That is something I could take from friends who knew, but not from my mother. From friends it would be more of an inside joke, but its no way to show respect when coming from a close family member.
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