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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: armanddelange12 on July 07, 2015, 12:08:38 PM

Title: Tired of boundaries
Post by: armanddelange12 on July 07, 2015, 12:08:38 PM
I want to have freedom from my parents. They are too old fashioned and they don't understand what I'm going through. I am not allowed to do anything remotely "girly". How do I go about getting freedom. I also have to say I'm a diabetic which means i should take insulin which ties me even more to the old folks. And i also work for my father. Any advice from you gals...?

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Title: Re: Tired of boundaries
Post by: Dena on July 07, 2015, 12:28:05 PM
You may not like my advice but as long as I lived under my parents roof, I lived by their rules. Once i was on my own, I could make my rules. I was never very wild so I didn't have problems with the rules my parents had and once I was on my own I still live much like I would with my parents.

As you work for your father, I suspect you father will not allow you to transition on the job so it look like for full freedom you are going to need another job.

As for the fact you are diabetic, that shouldn't stop you from living by you self as long as it's well controlled. If it's not you may want to consider a roommate which would also reduce your living expenses.

The last option if you are transexual, you might use the link to help change their mind.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexualism (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexualism)
Title: Re: Tired of boundaries
Post by: armanddelange12 on July 07, 2015, 12:56:54 PM
Thank you

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Title: Re: Tired of boundaries
Post by: Laura_7 on July 07, 2015, 01:34:05 PM
Here are some resources that could help you:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,180045.msg1658077.html#msg1658077

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,190486.msg1697083.html#msg1697083

Well I cannot tell you what to do... its up to you...
if you are dependent you might consider...

just take the time you need...

hugs
Title: Re: Tired of boundaries
Post by: suzifrommd on July 07, 2015, 01:56:50 PM
I suggest trying to educate your parents. Make sure they know:
* Being transgender is serious. Gender dysphoria can literally become unbearable. Depression and anxiety are common among those who suffer from it.
* It typically won't go away on its own and it can't be "cured".
* It isn't something you chose.

Try to get them to understand that by not letting you be yourself, they are abusing you, the same as if they denied you your insulin or other medicine you needed to live healthily.

You may need to say these things multiple times - sometimes it takes a while for something to sink in.

Can't guarantee it will work, but it's worth a try.

Hugs, armanddelange12. It's awful when people who are given your care refuse to acknowledge your identity. Give yourself credit for living in an a difficult situation.
Title: Re: Tired of boundaries
Post by: armanddelange12 on July 08, 2015, 12:22:04 AM
Thank you so so much Suzifrommd! Appreciate your help and support

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