Hi all,
I was not sure what to put as a heading so I went with this "An unexpected outing." Not an outing to the shops but with one of my children asking me what was going on with dad. My daughter of 22 yesterday asks me out right what is going on in my life. She said she had been worried about me and had spoken to my wife about me, "was I having a mid-life crisis?" she asked my wife, not as such was the reply. Anyway my daughter said she didn't care what it was and that she loved me unconditionally. I was not expecting to say anything to my children for a while at least. I had been worried about losing them forever or seeing me as a freak of some kind.
Without any prepared script I asked if she new what gender dysphoria was, she had heard of it but was not sure. I went on to say that this was hard for me to say out of the blue but I told her that I was transgender. Lots of questions followed and I gave her a book on it. She said she still loved me very much and that I was stupid to have kept it to myself all these years and not being able to be me, WOW.
I was taken aback. She then went on to say that she new several transsexual's, but be careful if I wanted to get SRS as she new someone where it had gone wrong. What a conversation, later on in the evening we got talking about how I kept my legs smooth. I can not believe it, but yesterday was really great and it has made us closer. It is silly of me to have been silent for so many years and yet it was the fear of the unknown.
hugs
Nigella
Hi Nigella,
Isn't it funny how some people who we really care about are really accepting and really don't care, just want you to be happy. You feel like that commercial on TV, I should have had a V8. This is wonderful news and I hope the rest will be just as good. I have had the same reaction with all my relatives except one. I'm so happy for you, you must be on cloud nine or ten.
Love Sheila
Quote from: Sheila on September 09, 2007, 12:07:43 PM
Hi Nigella,
Isn't it funny how some people who we really care about are really accepting and really don't care, just want you to be happy. You feel like that commercial on TV, I should have had a V8. This is wonderful news and I hope the rest will be just as good. I have had the same reaction with all my relatives except one. I'm so happy for you, you must be on cloud nine or ten.
Love Sheila
Thanks Sheila,
Yes yesterday was the best day I have had for a long time. Also told her about my appointment this coming Friday with a counsellor for transgender. I can laugh because yesterday evening my son was in and when we were having the conversation about our legs my son said, "I can't believe you two are talking about smooth legs." lol.
hugs
Nigella
I'm happy to see this news, Nigella.
I think it's great (of course it's great). You must feel like some of the burden is off. I know you have others to go through, but you know at least one person accepts you for who you are. Also, each little 'outing' teaches you something that helps in the next one.
Good for you, Honey.
Rebis