Just curious when would you feel yourself to be fully transitioned. I guess it might be slightly different for non op and op maybe not.
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At a little over 2 years postop, in a stable job and living environment, I'm about as done with transition as possible. I don't think much has changed since I was about a year postop.
Life is a continuous transition - I'm looking forward to retirement as my next big transition, hopefully that other, less wonderful, transition won't happen first...
with, the eb and flow of life we are all constantly transitioning, from young to old, student to teacher, visa versa. I know this is not what yohu ment.
I will consider myself fully transitioned when, i dont have to worry about my clothes, e.g does this cover my faulsies, are these panties secure enougth.
Pretty much when i can fit into that tiny tiny g-string and nipple clamps. without having to worry if i show a bulge down low, and lack of bulge up top.
Probably when I just don't worry about gender anymore.
Quote from: iKate on August 03, 2015, 10:34:06 PM
Probably when I just don't worry about gender anymore.
This ^^^
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I 've got a ways to go ,but I'm getting more positive Ill get there each day.
This is a difficult question in my case. If money and health concerns weren't an issue, my transition list would look like this:
1. Laser/Electrolysis (in progress)
2. HRT (ongoing)
3. Orchiectomy (next week!)
4. FFS - forehead, nose, upper lip, chin, trachea
5. Voice therapy/surgery if necessary
6. All the other mundanities - gender marker change, name change, etc
But, money and my health ARE issues. It's difficult to put me under anesthesia because I have a very narrow mouth opening (making endotracheal intubation impossible) and neuromuscular depressants are unsafe for people with my condition. I'm considering having my front teeth removed and replaced with removable partial dentures, which may solve the intubation problem. But if money and/or health remain insurmountable obstacles, my transition will be limited to:
1. Laser/Electrolysis
2. HRT
3. Orchiectomy
4. Upper lip lift (as far as I know, the only FFS procedure that can be done with local anesthesia)
5. Voice therapy
6. All the other mundanities
Six feet under?
I don't think of transition as having an endpoint, as life itself is a transitioning process.
Turns out that I have actually been female this whole time but wasn't sure of that fact until a couple of years ago.
Quote from: Jill F on August 03, 2015, 10:56:09 PM
Six feet under?
I've always wondered are all graves measured to 6 feet ? and are graves dug in China a +6 feet
Now.
Psychologically I have made it, even though physically I am still transitioning.
I no longer desire surgery, and I am getting on with life.
Quote from: Zoetrope on August 03, 2015, 11:17:51 PM
Now.
Psychologically I have made it, even though physically I am still transitioning.
I no longer desire surgery, and I am getting on with life.
you look good
Quote from: stephaniec on August 03, 2015, 11:32:19 PM
you look good
Camera was at just the right angle ;~) Thank you though!
Most definitely this. When I first started I would have said after SRS, but as I have grown and learned more about myself I have discovered what Jill said to be the true answer. Hugs
Mariah
Quote from: Jill F on August 03, 2015, 10:56:09 PM
Six feet under?
I don't think of transition as having an endpoint, as life itself is a transitioning process.
Turns out that I have actually been female this whole time but wasn't sure of that fact until a couple of years ago.
For me,it is a continuous process which I don't think about much and for some they have defined end points which of course vary from person to person.Physically,having SRS and becoming used to and learning to enjoy my new body was a milestone or going back,being accepted as a woman in everyday situations would be a social milestone.I guess thats what it is,a series of events of varying significance that mould and shape us and I dont really see that changing.
This is not a single answer
Internally I have never transitioned. I've genuinely always thought I was female.
Socially I began age 5 in 1965 in and completed aged 25 in 1985.
Physically I began with HRT in about 1983/4 and completed in 1985 with SRS. In many respects I guess this was the point where physicallly everything passed the point of no return.
Legally I began in 1965 when my mother started registering me for some things by initials only, to avoid any later problems, (All my original and unaltered school transcripts and exam certificates for example bear no first names - just my initials JPH - which is unusual). Since 1984 I have had female documents of identity. The legal transition was completed in 2004 when I became one of the first 60 people to obtain UK Gender recognition and an ammended birth record.
I officially reached a point where I finally felt done within the last month, after 2.5 years of hormones and 15 months of being full-time.
That was when I started realizing, I really had made it, I was seen as a woman by everyone, and I finally started really feeling like I actually was one, and finally being happy with myself and feeling like I really was seeing myself in the mirror.
That I believe is the "fully transitioned" point... when you're finally at peace with who you are and at peace with your own body and own reflection.
Self-doubt had kept me from feeling "fully transitioned" before then.
(Still planning on SRS in the future, but really I don't feel like that keeps me from feeling fully-transitioned regardless... I already have the cake, it's just the icing on top of that cake.)
Quote from: stephaniec on August 03, 2015, 10:14:01 PM
Just curious when would you feel yourself to be fully transitioned. I guess it might be slightly different for non op and op maybe not.
My surgical status had nothing to do with my transition. It was something I did for myself, not part of the transition process.
I'm not fully transitioned. I will be fully transitioned when I no longer feel like I'm a man some of the time. I don't know that that will ever happen.
My name and gender change hearing is this Friday, so once I've finished sending off the judge's writ to all the proper places I'm done legally [emoji19]
I'll still be going through other life transitions though, even when I'm done with the surgeries I'm considering. So I guess never, and Friday night? [emoji6]
Hugs,
- Katie
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I'm still currently working on legal documents and stuff. Even though I am planning on surgeries as I can afford them I would consider myself personally transitioned when I am able to look in the mirror every day and I don't see him every once in a while. Luckily those days are fewer and far between since going full time.
When no one clocks you no matter how at ease you act and you feel in peace with your mind with all surgeries you think needed to be done.
In Australia we get a telegram from the Queen.
Oh wait, that's when you turn 100...
Hello Everyone, I finished my transition to full womanhood on the day I underwent SRS. Now I am a transexed woman dealing with everyday woman issues. Hate my face, hair, can't find shoes, guys don't like me, need bigger breasts, do I look fat. You know regular woman stuff.
Thank you,
Anne
Hmm... that is a tough question.
Right now I don't know if I will have GRS or not. I consider myself to be maybe-op. I began living full time in September 2013. I received my name and gender change decree and began HRT in February 2014. Began my first job as the real me in November 2014. I am fully accepted and a woman by everyone except my mother.
So maybe I will be fully transitioned when she accepts me?
Once I was living full time and legally changed my name and gender (so about six months after I came out at work, in my case). I did have GRS, but what marked the end of transition for me was the moment when I never had to worry about presenting male ever again.
I feel good about my progress , but I'm realizing from things everyone is mentioning I have a ways to go . I think when I legally change my documents it will mark a giant leap and the only other thing would be GRS and a beautiful black lace knee high low cut dress with white peal necklace .
In a way I am still evolving. The major dividing line in my life was SRS because when I first woke up, all doubt was gone from my mind and it never returned. I am still evolving because I am improving my social skills that weren't developed before surgery. I am taking an interest in my appearance and working on a cleaner image. While I vowed that SRS would be the last non medical surgery I would have, I discovered voice surgery and have vowed that will be the last non medical surgery I will have. For now transitioning will consist of improving that aspect of my life that was still born due to the intense dysphoria I had in my younger life. Will it ever end, I don't think so but it also will never occupy a major portion of my life again.
For me, I will consider myself fully transitioned when I am out at work and dressing full time. I don't know when that will be, maybe 6 months, maybe a year, maybe more or less, who knows! I can't be full time though without a proper wardrobe at the very least. Longer hair, improved voice maybe, maybe not, and at least a reasonable smattering of physical femininity.
My journey will not be over though, probably never. I still want to get SRS and someday fit into a sexy bikini, but all women desire to improve themselves in some way, and I don't presume to be any different. I just want to be seen on the outside for the woman I feel like on the inside. That will be when I have "transitioned".