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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: stephaniec on August 04, 2015, 01:07:52 PM

Title: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: stephaniec on August 04, 2015, 01:07:52 PM
I just go as my everyday wear. a nice casual dress and light make up and sometimes fish net stockings and flats. One of these days if I ever find a beautiful fancy dress or lace dress I'm going to do that just for fun.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Emjay on August 04, 2015, 01:54:21 PM
It's pretty much just every day wear for me, something casual and comfy.  :)
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: jeni on August 04, 2015, 01:59:47 PM
Not at all, whatever I'm wearing, don't even think about it. For me, it's a place that's supposed to be comfortable so thinking about dressing for it would be counterproductive.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: ainsley on August 04, 2015, 02:21:57 PM
Whatever I wore to work that day; business casual (anything from pants and a top to a dress with heels...depends on my mood and the laundry situation. :) ), unless it's Friday, then casual.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: KristinaM on August 04, 2015, 02:48:57 PM
I usually go during mid morning, so I go to work first, as a guy...  I wear girl pants and heels and earrings and nail polish and sometimes a little makeup to work though, lol!  I also carry my purse now.  I'm so over this hiding thing, but I'm not outright coming out about it at all yet to people at work.

I have been known to change into a bra and girls shirt in the car before going to see my therapist though, then changing back before heading back to work...
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: stephaniec on August 04, 2015, 03:37:18 PM
I just had my appointment today. I wore a little make up and a nice casual dress and my boots. She said I looked very pretty.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: JenAtLast on August 04, 2015, 04:14:46 PM
If I am going to work, I am dressed as a guy as I am not out there yet.

If I am off or working from home, I will usually wear something nice more in celebration of the freedom than anything....normally a casual dress or skirt, but sometimes just girl jeans and a cute top.  Just depends.

Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Carrie Liz on August 04, 2015, 04:55:14 PM
I think I only wore makeup to my therapy appointment once. And it was because she requested it, because she wanted to see how I'd look with it before she signed off on my declaration of gender change form for the BMV.

Aside from that, I've worn semi-decent clothes like once also, again, because I wanted to show her my work attire. Aside from that it's consistently just been t-shirts, jeans, and no makeup, not even really making an effort to look half-decent or "dolled up" at all.

I'm not very fashionable. What can I say? :P
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Emileeeee on August 05, 2015, 08:21:11 PM
I used to get all gussied up for them, but now I just grab a pair of jeans and a t-shirt. I don't even care which gender the clothing is for anymore. I'm me no matter what I wear and it didn't stop me from finally getting that letter.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Mariah on August 05, 2015, 08:28:11 PM
Whatever I feel like wearing that day is what I wore when I was still in therapy regularly.  I never went out of my way to dress up for them. Hugs
Mariah
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: iKate on August 05, 2015, 09:48:55 PM
Quote from: ainsley on August 04, 2015, 02:21:57 PM
Whatever I wore to work that day; business casual (anything from pants and a top to a dress with heels...depends on my mood and the laundry situation. :) ), unless it's Friday, then casual.

Pretty much this, except that I don't really wear pants anymore. I don't really like heels much either.

Before I went full time I was more androgynous because I had to conceal my clothing.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Paige on August 05, 2015, 10:06:14 PM
Hi Stephanie,

I tend to put makeup on and my casual women's clothes on.  I haven't transitioned and don't ever get to talk to anyone as my true self.  Both of my therapists are great letting me dress at their offices before the appointment.   It just makes me feel more at ease when I talk to them about gender issues.

Paige :)
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: KittyKat on August 05, 2015, 10:08:17 PM
Pretty much what I wear everyday which has been shorts and a tank top with sandals since summer came around.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Zoetrope on August 05, 2015, 10:33:19 PM
I wouldn't say dolled up, but I always made a point of seeing therapists dressed as a girl, even before I got approved.

It was one of many things I did to strengthen my case. I ended up being approved within 3 months.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: JLT1 on August 05, 2015, 10:56:52 PM
I go there from work.  Depending on what I'm doing at work, it can be business formal to jeans and no makeup.

Jen
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Valwen on August 06, 2015, 02:39:17 AM
Before I fell out of the closet I dressed male, then I fell out and have dressed however I was going to dress that day, though I do often use that day to try new things, like today I wore a dress for the first time. But no not anything special but nothing special just my usual 2ish hours of getting ready between waking up and leaving the house.

Serena
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Jean24 on August 06, 2015, 02:47:25 AM
I've never presented as female in my life. The plan is to just go as male until I can pass.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Oriah on August 06, 2015, 02:52:12 AM
I dress to the 9's when I go.  Any excuse to get dolled up is a good one, right?
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: KaylaMadison on August 06, 2015, 03:01:26 AM
My very first one I went in male mode. My next one I went all out, after that i just sort of went casual. Sadly I had to cut my sessions due to finances, really need to get back on that horse, but when i do i'll keep it casual, i love to dress up but most of my sessions end up being 2-4 hours away and being dolled up for that long starts to get uncomfortable lol
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Valwen on August 06, 2015, 03:47:16 AM
Ahh one of the great truisms "beauty is pain"
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: stephaniec on August 06, 2015, 03:50:06 AM
Quote from: Oriah on August 06, 2015, 02:52:12 AM
I dress to the 9's when I go.  Any excuse to get dolled up is a good one, right?
true
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: judithlynn on August 15, 2015, 07:20:55 PM
I have only ever presented as female to all my therapist appointments and seeing my doctor too. I think its really important to look your best and comfortable with it.  One very important thing for me though is that I always ensure that I have had a full manicure and pedicure before I go to my visits and I believe that colour co-ordinated lipstick, nails and toes   and your overall outfit is important. (Obviously no pedi necessary in winter)
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Dodie on August 15, 2015, 07:47:05 PM
I am full time so I don't step out of the house not dolled up... But before I was full time no, not ever....
Keri AKA Dodie
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Serenation on August 15, 2015, 08:06:19 PM
My friend got gate keeped for wearing jeans (at least that's what she told me) at the same place I went to, but when it was under different management. I did dress well as I always do in Melbourne.

On the other hand my endo asked me to wear dresses a couple times, and I just didn't because he was at a large hospital, every one else is sick and in track suits, Just seemed like a really inappropriate place to dress up. I seen another TS there once, look liked she had come from the horse races in the outfit she had on. She was about 6'3 stood out so bad with that dress on.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: stephaniec on August 15, 2015, 08:57:07 PM
That's the thing I'm so glad I never dealt with having someone tell me to do something like wear a dress. I wear dresses all the time because I like wearing dresses not because I need some idiot telling me to wear a dress. That's my doctors office in my avatar.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Isabelle on August 15, 2015, 10:35:43 PM
In 6 years, I've only seen a therapist once, for one hour. That was to get an SRS letter. A couple of years back. Other than that, never. If I did, I'd wear whatever I felt like wearing that morning. F**k dressing up for people. For those that do, do you feel like you're putting on a performance?

QuoteOn the other hand my endo asked me to wear dresses a couple times
That's one of the creepiest things I've ever read on this website. I'd lodge a formal complaint. You endo's only business is monitoring your endocrine function. That's it. He works in the Endocrinology Department. Not the "Endocrinology and outfit ideas" department. Seriously, I'd make a complaint. 
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: stephaniec on August 15, 2015, 10:45:52 PM
I don't feel its a performance for me . I wear dresses most of the time and On the days I have an appointment her office is across the street from a movie theater that has a nice bar with wifi and I always go there after the appointment for Irish  coffee and wifi. It's got a big mirror on the length of the opposite wall and I like seeing how I look. Maybe a little narcissistic.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: JoanneB on August 16, 2015, 12:03:37 PM
I guess you'd call it Business Casual which is aligned with my girlie-girl self.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Emileeeee on August 18, 2015, 09:44:29 AM
I've had therapists in the past demand that I play dress-up. They're not my therapists anymore. I'm me no matter what I'm wearing. Maybe I'm not out to work yet, or maybe I just like to look like The Duke. It doesn't change who I am and it should have no bearing on my transition. Having to play dress-up to fit a part is what I've been doing my whole life pre-transition. Why would I continue that in order to transition?
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: stephaniec on August 18, 2015, 12:37:55 PM
My appointment is today and I put my makeup on in the coffee shop I go to and I found I forgot my eyelashes , so I'm forced to improvise with eye pencil around the eye instead of the bottom. Looks pretty good. I also am wearing my new psychedelic colored dress I bought at Target and fishnet stockings and my old  black work boots. I wear the boots because I need a new pair of flats. I found I need a wider width because my feet swell from arthritis.( I just figured that out)
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: CrysC on August 18, 2015, 12:50:01 PM
Often I just have jeans and t-shirt.  Today I wore boots.  Often just keds.  Always light makeup and matching earrings. 
Once I start going to work as a woman I'll likely just have on what I am wearing to work.
Title: Re: how dolled up do you get for your therapy appointment
Post by: Sigyn on August 18, 2015, 11:27:03 PM
I usually go to the gym at Davis-Monthan Air Force Base just before my counselor meeting. Since I don't know how the military will react to it, I've always dressed male. However, I have some semi-permanent...um... appearance modifications that are tell-tale, to wit: I have long hair, polished acrylic nails, and a gold stud in each ear.

The point being, on those days, I'll dress in male clothes. The two other times I went to my counselor, I went completely "en femme". My counselor mentioned that in my letter to my physicians.