Today while waiting at a bus stop a guy in his car wolf whistled at me I was like wth lol
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looks like your going to have to start getting use to it.
I get the middle aged guys walking with their wives smiling and staring while their wife is looking in the opposite direction.
I get hit on by the weirdest people sometimes. The other night it was the guy at the drive thru. Week before it was an old guy at the checkout line.
And let's not forget social media, where I would get 2-3 friend requests per day from random men. I had to restrict my list because of that.
Got beeped at while crossing the road (legally!) the other day. Just ignored them...
Quote from: iKate on August 22, 2015, 05:48:00 PM
I get hit on by the weirdest people sometimes. The other night it was the guy at the drive thru. Week before it was an old guy at the checkout line.
And let's not forget social media, where I would get 2-3 friend requests per day from random men. I had to restrict my list because of that.
I know what you mean got video called 10 times yesterday 😔
I got whistled at while I was at my mailbox awhile back. Honestly it didn't even register in my consciousness until a few minutes later, then I was like "Wait. ..... Did that guy just. ........."
Yeah, I'm oblivious ;)
You do get used to it, but it can be annoying at times. Last night I was hit on by the gas station attendant. (In NJ, by law they pump your gas), but at least he backed off when I told him I was married. (I guess he didn't notice my ring.) Then my wife and I were walked down to the local convenient store a few block from our house. I had been working out so I was wearing yoga pants and top with my hair in a pony tail. This guy walking on the sidewalk across the street was staring at me and talking to himself a little too loudly to the tune of "Yeah, look at that woman, I gotta get some of that..." Yeah nothing like being objectified.
Are we all delusional though? I feel like I am stuck wondering is it a straight man who sees me as passable that's hitting/whistling at me, or is it a ->-bleeped-<- who knows I'm trans? Seriously though, a girl can drive herself nuts trying to figure this out!!
I don't mind it at all if someone wolfwistles me or whatever. Someone thinks I am hot and that is okay regardless of if they are a ->-bleeped-<- or not. It is the people that come back and have another go that makes me uncomfortable and the ones that don't let it go after you show disinterest in them. Everyone else is fair game to me :laugh:
I know lots of us might find it validating on some level but to be quite honest I absolutely totally detest cat calling and dont tolerate it.It's sexist and demeaning and has to stop. Thankfully it's not really a part of the male psyche here in NZ.
Having guys looking at me all the time makes me really self conscious. I've only been cat-called a few times and no one has actually approached me. It always makes me feel like I've been clocked. Everybody that I've asked says that I pass well, but I think that people many times choose to be nice more often than honest. I guess time will tell.
Quote from: AbbyDS74 on August 23, 2015, 09:29:28 PM
Having guys looking at me all the time makes me really self conscious. I've only been cat-called a few times and no one has actually approached me. It always makes me feel like I've been clocked. Everybody that I've asked says that I pass well, but I think that people many times choose to be nice more often than honest. I guess time will tell.
yeah this is what I'm thinking
Quote from: hvmatt on August 23, 2015, 02:17:54 AM
I know lots of us might find it validating on some level but to be quite honest I absolutely totally detest cat calling and dont tolerate it.It's sexist and demeaning and has to stop. Thankfully it's not really a part of the male psyche here in NZ.
Well all due respect, but I don't believe it's sexist or demeaning, primal perhaps but that shouldn't be considered bad unless the whistle is followed by offensive remarks, and I mean real offensive remarks, not what we might believe or construe as offensive due to our "mental guard dog being constantly on watch for clocking and anti-LGBT-ism ( I know, not a word)" but I think we all do it to a degree. From men to women to gay to trans I've seen every "label" do it. And I honestly believe that 90% of them did it because they saw someone at a distance they found attractive enough that they really wanted to get their attention. As for the remaining 10% (probably a**holes, I can neither defend or speak for them. Personally I say enjoy the whistles and ignore the whistles with bs attached to them.
Actually come to think of it that's how I met my oldest child's mother. She whistled for me after I'd walked my ferret past her house, I'd gotten about 6 or 7 houses down when I heard her. I turned around and went back cause nobody else was in my direction so I figured she could only be whistling at me. When I got back to her she said she wanted to see my ferret cause she loved animals of all kinds, yeah ok but I'll bite. We exchanged numbers and later when she called she disclosed that she just whistled to get my attention and it worked, that she didn't really give a damn about the ferret at the time even though she did actually like animals.
Yenneffer, if your avatar picture is you, then you better start expecting a whole lot more of that sort of reaction, like it or not. I'm not condoning men who objectify women but your avatar pic is of a pretty young lady who's going to attract attention.
Yeah, this happens, More then I exspected.
Was walking home from work, And I swear every 7 cars, Beep, Beep, Honk. urg. And the only thing I can think about is, would they still off beeped if they got a closer look and or knew more about me. Thats what gets me the most though.
The beeping before they know anything about me, save it be how I look.
Quote from: hvmatt on August 23, 2015, 02:17:54 AM
I know lots of us might find it validating on some level but to be quite honest I absolutely totally detest cat calling and dont tolerate it.It's sexist and demeaning and has to stop. Thankfully it's not really a part of the male psyche here in NZ.
Yup. sexual aggression. yuck.
ps, I'm a kiwi too :)
no whistles yet, I did realize more people stop to let me cross the road though. and I remember one guy last week that said something like "thanks babe" and I thought to myself "if i wasen't so excited to be clearly addressed female I would be upset at that sexist comment" eventually my crazy little brain will get over the excitement and just be offended but right now anyone who says thank you miss or excuse me ma'am gets a pass in my book.
Serena
Lol me and Kimberley went to car boot sale but she's was in boy mode and I was being me and this guy said would your lady like a bunch of roses I was like 😊
i wish normal MCP's would cat call me instead of getting hit on by ->-bleeped-<-s.
I've never been out in public in my female form, but I think I'll find it very exciting when someone honks or whistles at me. Don't know if it will get irritating after a while, but I'm really looking forward to it. Probably because it will feel like an accomplishment if a guy finds me 'hot' or attractive.
I went to Bournemouth air festival on Saturday with a crowd of 100000 people so yeah I have super confidence
This stuns me and continues to stun me! While out shopping or at the mall, I notice cis females checking out my breasts. Actually, I get a kick out of it. It's not that they're huge, I just notice that they glance there first, then toward my face. If we happen to make eye contact, they usually smile or say Hello! I live in the southern part of the USA, we're pretty friendly down here! ;)
I'm actually rather surprised y'all are getting so offended by the attention, though I don't know which way y'all swing either. But if you're straight, well.. wanting to change sexist behavior is certainly admirable, but not very practical. If you're gonna interact with men ever, you're going to have to learn to roll with certain behaviors and refrain from being too sensitive, otherwise you're going to be cold and miserable... Men will be men. You'll find disgusting behaviors and attributes in many, but at varying degrees. And you'll find that there are differences and degrees in those behaviors. A guy that's soliciting sex right away is not going to be the same as one that may get flirty and request a dirty pic. It'll depend on your interactions. In both cases, you could get annoyed that he's jumping to a sexual topic, but that's typical guy behavior. And if he's otherwise been nice and you two have been getting along, it makes all the difference. Catcalling is very mild in my opinion. I'd just appreciate the attention and not read too much into it, or ignore it altogether, and just move on if you aren't interested.
Quote from: HourGlass2B on August 24, 2015, 01:46:19 PM
Actually come to think of it that's how I met my oldest child's mother. She whistled for me after I'd walked my ferret past her house, I'd gotten about 6 or 7 houses down when I heard her. I turned around and went back cause nobody else was in my direction so I figured she could only be whistling at me. When I got back to her she said she wanted to see my ferret cause she loved animals of all kinds, yeah ok but I'll bite. We exchanged numbers and later when she called she disclosed that she just whistled to get my attention and it worked, that she didn't really give a damn about the ferret at the time even though she did actually like animals.
Walking your ferret haha!
Walking your ferret sounds like a euphemism for something that can get you arrested when performing in public. :-)
Serena
Quote from: Ashey on August 25, 2015, 11:17:09 PM
I'm actually rather surprised y'all are getting so offended by the attention, though I don't know which way y'all swing either. But if you're straight, well.. wanting to change sexist behavior is certainly admirable, but not very practical. If you're gonna interact with men ever, you're going to have to learn to roll with certain behaviors and refrain from being too sensitive, otherwise you're going to be cold and miserable... Men will be men. You'll find disgusting behaviors and attributes in many, but at varying degrees. And you'll find that there are differences and degrees in those behaviors. A guy that's soliciting sex right away is not going to be the same as one that may get flirty and request a dirty pic. It'll depend on your interactions. In both cases, you could get annoyed that he's jumping to a sexual topic, but that's typical guy behavior. And if he's otherwise been nice and you two have been getting along, it makes all the difference. Catcalling is very mild in my opinion. I'd just appreciate the attention and not read too much into it, or ignore it altogether, and just move on if you aren't interested.
Agreed, in all seriousness I love being catcalled and objectified, makes me feel good. ;D
Sigh!!!!??
I can't say I'm a particularly big fan of catcalling, but if I get one when I finally start going out in public as a woman I know I'll be pleased as pudding.
I agree. I would be very pleased. I get them when I go out all fixed up. I know it's a good sign I am passing. In my area, it's pretty closed minded and small town mentality. It's scary when/if you get clocked. The only time it really bothers me is when they get too close to my personal space. Get really really tense.