Poll
Question:
How many of you have marked a change in your self-image with transition/HRT?
Option 1: I had a good self image and life beforehand
Option 2: My self-image has a taken a turn for the better when I decided to embrace myself
Option 3: I had a drastic change! I could never think of living a day like I used to
I was wondering how many people here have had a boost of their self-image, self-respect or self-perception with embracing your feminine side (transition), and HRT?
As the title goes, how many have have frowned upon their image in the mirror in their pre-transition life, but actually had considerable turn for the better when they transitioned?
How many have actually had a good self-image (and LIFE) before transitioning?
I would also like to know the extent HRT has had on your reaction to the person in the mirror.
Thank you, have fun!
Kind regards,
Vanya.
P.S. Hope I didn't make a mess of this post and managed to get the right idea across.
a lot, from Mr. Grumpy to Miss Stephanie
I had a good life and self image all along. Not a transitioner, though, hope I didn't skew the information you're looking for.
Hugs, Devlyn
Had a good self inage beforehand - and an even better one after...
Obviously I prefer myself as I am after HRT and SRS but that doesnt mean that I felt bad about the person I was before. It was just something I had to do to be true to myself and I would only have felt bad about myself if I had run away from it or been prevented from pursuing it for some reason. Neither of those things really happened so all was good.
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on September 08, 2015, 11:41:46 AM
I had a good life and self image all along. Not a transitioner, though, hope I didn't skew the information you're looking for.
Hugs, Devlyn
Not at all! I'm eager to hear every possible opinion and yours is welcome.
Also, as
general disclaimer - the
embracing female side and
transition should be viewed as
and/or option, in order to be accomodating to those whom transition is not mandatory.
Quote from: Rejennyrated on September 08, 2015, 11:48:44 AM
Had a good self inage beforehand - and an even better one after...
Obviously I prefer myself as I am after HRT and SRS but that doesnt mean that I felt bad about the person I was before. It was just something I had to do to be true to myself and I would only have felt bad about myself if I had run away from it or been prevented from pursuing it for some reason. Neither of those things really happened so all was good.
Should've set up another option on the poll, but it seemed a bit too much. You could use option 2, though. What I had in mind with is pretty close to "I was ok earlier before, but I like myself more this way".
Anyway, anyone is free to use the poll as they see fit.
My self image improved when I decided to stop living as I perceived others believed I should be, and decided to live for myself.
I actually expected more of a feedback, but ok... Not that I'm complaining.
Anyone care to expound on the effects HRT had on their self image?
I was successful before. I drove myself incessantly to learn and work hard in a futile attempt to get the thoughts out of my head. As for self image, I had absoulutely none. I mean, I was a fine looking "gent" but I felt in the midst of a pit of guilt and self pity. My church (LDS or Mormon) considered this, in my case, a sin second only to murder. Yes that is what my excommunication papers say. As a cultist member, I truly believed it all.
So next to the suicidal depression that the dysphoria created, I had the suicidal guilt of religious damnation hanging over my head. I became self destructive. I didn't use drugs or alcohol. Rather, I pushed myself too hard in the attempt to comply to the set standard. In fact, I told a prominent church leader while I was serving a mission in Chile about my problems and he advised me to finish my two year stint and go home to my sweetie, get married, and have kids. I followed his advice and it only got worse.
That doesn't mean that the road bumps in life don't bring me down. I've faced a major roadblock to happiness this past year. I'm pulling through it.
HRT did absolutely nothing for me physically or mentally. That happens. It also made my change that much more difficult. However, with all that said, I've never looked back and my life is much better. I am self assured, confident, and generally considered a nice person to hang with. I gain good solid friends wherever I go (a couple I met here along with other "normal" people) and I always keep in touch.
Cindi
@Cindy Jones,
It's somewhat similar to my case; I would as well describe my old status as: No self-image.
Thanks for your interesting story.