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Title: New and need help
Post by: Sevens on September 12, 2015, 04:03:15 PM
Hello , I'm from Perth, Australia

I am 37 and have been a lesbian my whole life .
I have recently realised that I identify more comfortably as a guy . I have a loving gf who I've known for nearly 10 years but we have only been a couple and going out for two yrs . I recently told her I think I'm having a gender crisis thingo and thing I want to become a man .
She is very understanding and said she will love me as female or male it doesn't matter . I recently told my mum after having a tearful breakdown, my mum said is that all I'm crying about . She is very understanding to !!!!
I believe I have repressed my wanting to be male and as a result I have suffered major depression because of it and not feeling comfortable as a female like forever.
I feel a sense of relief telling my gf and mum . But my depression has gone into overdrive.
Where do I start my journey and start the ball rolling ?
Thanks for reading , I'm scared , anxious and worried.

Sevens






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Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: Laura_7 on September 12, 2015, 04:17:29 PM
Here and at the links there are a few resources that could help you:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,194986.msg1737439.html#msg1737439

Well concerning the process in australia you could have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?topic=79423.0

If you have questions just ask...


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Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: Dena on September 12, 2015, 05:35:36 PM
Welcome to Susan's Place. First you need a good Gender Therapist who will help you with the medical side of treatment. When you are ready you can start living in the male gender and later you will be able to receive the surgery you desire. The FTM section has many really great guys and they are very helpful to somebody new. If you don't see what you want to know, ask and you should have an answer pretty quick. The others can help you with doctors should you need one. Enjoy your journey and let me know if I can help,
Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: Mariah on September 12, 2015, 05:36:50 PM
Hi Sevens, Welcome to Susan's. A therapist would be a great place to start. Congrats on being out to your mom and GF.  I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah

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Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: Laura_7 on September 12, 2015, 05:48:16 PM
Quote from: Mariah2014 on September 12, 2015, 05:36:50 PM
Hi Sevens, Welcome to Susan's. A therapist would be a great place to start. Congrats on being out to your mom and GF.  I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah


Congrats to 5k helpful posts  :)


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Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: V M on September 12, 2015, 06:01:59 PM
Hi Sevens  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

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V M
Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: Rachel on September 12, 2015, 06:50:44 PM
Congratulations, you have done the hardest part, getting started. As others said, see a gender therapist to start with the whole process.
Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: Sevens on September 13, 2015, 01:59:09 AM
Thanks guys for the support and giving me the 'where to next ' step . I suspect I shall be on here a bit as its good to not feel completely isolated. It's nice to know I have support .
Love , peace and all that jazz .
Sevens xx


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Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: katrinaw on September 13, 2015, 05:59:10 AM
Warm welcome to Susan's Sevens

And especially another Aussie xx

So good to have your mum and girlfriend supporting you... so important moving forward

Thanks for your intro and I look forward to seeing you around the forum's

L Katy  :-*
Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: Sevens on September 13, 2015, 11:34:25 PM
Thanks again guys , I've been told that there isn't a gender therapist here in Perth , WA .
My questions are ...
How long until I can have top surgery?
How long until I could start on T ?


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Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: Dena on September 13, 2015, 11:44:06 PM
That depends on your therapy sessions. Sometimes only a few sessions are need to determine that you are ready for T and sometime it takes more. The therapist wants learn about your understanding of the process and make sure you are able to make wise decisions for yourself. Surgery tends to have a much longer window of as much as a year but I don't know the timing for FTMs so somebody might give you a better number.

As for therapy, if you are unable to find anyone near by, there are therapist that work over the internet. This would save you from traveling long distances or relocating for treatment like I had to.
Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: Stacey_Celeste on September 18, 2015, 12:43:43 PM
Scared anxious and worried is normal.  But you've taken a great first step.  Well done x
Title: Re: New and need help
Post by: Rockatansky on September 19, 2015, 03:16:59 AM
Hello, Sevens!  I'm new here, and new to transgender things in general, but I wanted to say your post resonated with me; I share your anxieties, though I have yet to talk to anyone about it, so you're way ahead of me, man!  You've already got your journey started just by recognizing it and talking to people about it, and I suspect Susan's Place is a great place to start getting answers and advice from people who know what they're talking about.  Wishing you luck!