Please, I'm not trying to make a hostile thread. But I want to ask why I would want to just wear the clothing of the opposite sex, as found in the common proper definition of cross-dressing.
Shouldn't many people who just crossdress be able to decide to take hormones and live full as the gender they please, also? That's what I'd decide maybe, but no cross-dressing person can have access to that. >:(
You have to actually be a man/woman inside to take a step like that. Am I being wrong though?
Yeah, you are being wrong. :) Don't worry about it though!
A crossdresser can go to an informed consent clinic and get hormones. Anyone can. Here's a helpful link to some great information in the site Wiki: https://www.susans.org/wiki/Informed_consent
Hugs, Devlyn
While the only option for me was surgery, that's not true of everybody. Cross dresser may feel comfortable in their life most of the time but only need a few hours or days to fill the need to be the opposite gender. This difference exist in transsexuals as well but the terms are different. I wasn't very uncomfortable with my body but I was with my life. Some people are uncomfortable with their bottom, others with their face and some with the shape of their body. We all have much the same feelings but how we express them is greatly different.
The one area that is the most interesting is the gender fluid. It is hard to imagine living a life where one day you feel female and the next male, but some of the people on this site have to contend with that type of life. They find ways to deal with the discomfort involving shifting their appearance between male and female.
If you spend some time in the cross dressing and non binary areas of the site, you will find some interesting people who have found much different ways of dealing with their discomfort. Is it right for you? Probably not but it was right for them.
I would not say you are wrong as there seems to be no wrong answer cause everyone is different. I dont want to transition but i have a fem side that it helps me relieve stress since i dont drink, smoke or do drugs. But i have two personalities and when being the macho image gets to much i dress up and go out. Therefore my alter ego then leaves everything behind. So what may work for one doesnt work for others.
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Quote from: redhot1 on September 26, 2015, 09:45:58 PM
Please, I'm not trying to make a hostile thread. But I want to ask why I would want to just wear the clothing of the opposite sex, as found in the common proper definition of cross-dressing.
Shouldn't many people who just crossdress be able to decide to take hormones and live full as the gender they please, also? That's what I'd decide maybe, but no cross-dressing person can have access to that. >:(
You have to actually be a man/woman inside to take a step like that. Am I being wrong though?
There is no standard life style or model answers. You choose what you really like. This is not a question of good and evil.
barbie~~
Thanks peeps. I'm sorry if my OP came off as haste.
Thanks Dena for those thoughts.
I absolutely love my body as I was given it. It seems that my assignment to female is more in my genetics, chromosomes, brain development as I see it.
I support my super high effeminate life by dressing. It varies, but every day I'm in my girly clothes, doing girly things, and thinking of meeting my future and dedicated alpha M/F partner. The Bond to that partner is the key. It's the loving, caring, supportive relationship that ultimately we all desire, correct?
I'm a loner for the most part lately, but that needs to change, as time Is running out for this girl!
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I am starting to think that since the situation is the way that it is that if I start to take hormones once I see a Gender Therapist one of these days that I will take them while I am still a man and then once they gradually kick in and I get comfortable with the new me I will slowly transit to more feminine clothes and manners if that is how I feel. I mean if you feel womanly inside your soul why do you have to prove that by always wearing woman's clothing?
Don't get me wrong I LOVE femme clothes and want to wear them full time but sometimes you just cannot do that or at least in my situation its harder to do. I mean if I gradually grow breasts while a man then I will deal with that when it arrives and once I become more comfortable and gain the confidence then I will deal with it.
I honestly don't think there is a right or wrong way to do anything when it comes to the feelings that you have.
I can stay in the closet about sexual orientation. If I change genders, people will notice. Besides which, "passing" is really a great deal of complicated, hard work, often painful, sometimes physically risky.
That said, I wanna be female, full-boat, XX chromosomes, no androgen damage, no testoserone behaviors. I also very much wish I could fly, be invisible. Not likely,
It's NOT that we want to wear women clothing. We want to be female, clothing is one means to move toward "female" -- arguably a "fetish," but it's just not so simple as an objectification of gender through wardrobe choice.
It's about being who we are.
There was a cross dressing professor at my university. He identified as male, had a female wife, used male pronouns but cross dressed all the time. He gave lectures in "women's" clothes. There's no rules, you can do what you want. Just be you. You want to take hormones? Take them. You want to cross dress all the time? Do it. Life is too short and ->-bleeped-<- to sabotage your own chances at happiness
Quote from: Allison Wunderland on September 30, 2015, 08:20:10 PM
It's NOT that we want to wear women clothing. We want to be female, clothing is one means to move toward "female" -- arguably a "fetish," but it's just not so simple as an objectification of gender through wardrobe choice.
It's about being who we are.
Having been down part of the road you walk many years ago and with what I know now, I would never call it a fetish. You don't do it for sexual pleasure, instead you do it to calm a need you were born with. It is something you need to do like eating and sleeping and the fact that you can live with it as long as you have is admirable because I couldn't. As somebody who has been post surgical for a long time, I know what you are feeling is a true feminine identity and not a sexual desire.
Quote from: Dena on September 30, 2015, 09:54:11 PM
Having been down part of the road you walk many years ago and with what I know now, I would never call it a fetish. You don't do it for sexual pleasure, instead you do it to calm a need you were born with. It is something you need to do like eating and sleeping and the fact that you can live with it as long as you have is admirable because I couldn't. As somebody who has been post surgical for a long time, I know what you are feeling is a true feminine identity and not a sexual desire.
Took me figuring out that I can ("It's OK ! ! ' ) be both, and that the "both" is one, integrated, authentic "me" --
I wish I could fly, wish I could be invisible. I wish I had periods, looks un-assailed by androgens. Not me in that, but it's me in both.