I was developing a relationship with a transgender man for about three or four months. He decided to break up with me. His excuse was that he didn't like the size of my breasts. I think any woman, transgender or cisgender, would be thinking that was a slap in the face. Yet, with someone with gender dysphoria it isn't very helpful, especially coming from another transgender person whom you'd think would be more understanding.
He went as far as saying that I shouldn't be dating at all until I finished transitioning. I'm not even sure what that means. Does it mean when I get all the surgeries that I want or after my gender dysphoria and social anxiety goes away?
Some peoples who transition are getting too far in the stereotypes of their gender. For ftm it sometime result in mysogyny (hopefully it's far from being a general behavior).
If you're confortable with yourself actually, I don't see any reason to stop dating. Ofcourse, it's a bit more complicated without the surgery as you're gonna have to explain everytimes. If your date doesn't involve anything sexual it might be good to get rid of your social anxiety, just don't let the bad comments pull you down.
I started dating after 1 year on hrt (no serious date before srs). It helped me a lot to have comments, I learned to drop my "too much" and look at myself differently. I decided to wait srs before serious dates because I didn't feel like explaining all the thing to them, but it's personal.
It means don't let others influence yourself too much.
If you are a nice person you have something to give.
Just be yourself and look for a person who will value you.
I'd say just keep looking and be yourself :)
Have some fun along the way :)
hugs
Hugs. You don't have to put up with that.
It is nonsense. If it happened to me, I'd just think person wanted to dump me and didn't want to tell me the real reason.
Anyhow, I wouldn't want anyway to be with someone who would judge me by size of my breast.
My capacity to love has evolved way beyond body or gender stereotypes, and I consider everyone who thinks like that person who dumped you ran away from you to be severely emotionally challenged.
In your place I would not feel bad about them running away, but rather about not having realized earlier what kind of person they were.
As long as you respect and love yourself, nobody can "slap you in the face" by showing their own immaturity.
Grow some (girl) balls.
sounds like just another person with their own problems projecting on others to cause them to be as depressed as they are. I worked with a manic depressive for 8 years, I'm lucky to have survive the onslaught of daily belittlement.
Some guys are just d**ks. Obviously some Trans guys included
You are worth more than your chest
Quote from: iKate on October 07, 2015, 05:00:26 PM
Some guys are just d**ks. Obviously some Trans guys included
You are worth more than your chest
ducks ?
:)
*hugs*
Quote from: Pinkkatie on October 07, 2015, 11:44:35 AM
I was developing a relationship with a transgender man for about three or four months. He decided to break up with me. His excuse was that he didn't like the size of my breasts. I think any woman, transgender or cisgender, would be thinking that was a slap in the face. Yet, with someone with gender dysphoria it isn't very helpful, especially coming from another transgender person whom you'd think would be more understanding.
He went as far as saying that I shouldn't be dating at all until I finished transitioning. I'm not even sure what that means. Does it mean when I get all the surgeries that I want or after my gender dysphoria and social anxiety goes away?
Send him a thank you note, dear. He did you a huge favor. He let you know what kind of an @$$ he is, so that you can wash him out of your life and find someone who is worthy of you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=odcCzb-h3Fo