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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Yenneffer on October 10, 2015, 01:29:24 AM

Title: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: Yenneffer on October 10, 2015, 01:29:24 AM
I really thinking about leaving here because I pass now and not many people talk to me on here so yeah I'm just going to say goodbye and good luck
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: Serenation on October 10, 2015, 01:49:45 AM
What has passing got to do with being here
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: Yenneffer on October 10, 2015, 01:52:52 AM
Quote from: Serenation on October 10, 2015, 01:49:45 AM
What has passing got to do with being here
i feel like I don't need this anymore
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: Katiepie on October 10, 2015, 02:07:36 AM
Well aside from being here for support going through the daily life and struggles of being transgender, this place is much more than just to kick us off to where we want to be. It is also a community, it is a family. You pass, and that is a goal of what you wanted. Success!!!
It doesn't mean though that it ends here. You could stay, help as others have done, and as others will. You are always welcome back of any need arises, as well as to just chat.
I hope you don't leave, or if you do you would come back.

Kate <3
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: Sarah82 on October 10, 2015, 02:51:27 AM
Stay Yenneffer. You may be able to give someone the advice or encouragement they need to succeed in their transition.
Someone could benefit from your experience because you have reached the point where you pass, the point that many of us consider success.

I hope you stay, hugs,
Sarah
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: Frae on October 10, 2015, 03:46:14 AM
As a long time lurker I've enjoyed your posts and I'll be sad you're going just as I start :(

At the end of the day you have to do what makes you happy but know that you've inspired and touched more lives than you can know. So thank you :D
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: Miss Clara on October 10, 2015, 05:51:02 AM
I pass, and just signed up.  It's not so much what I can get out of it, as to be a part of this community.  Stick around, hon.  You're a big sister now, Yenneffer.  Hugs
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: SofiN on October 10, 2015, 07:22:39 AM
Obviously this is your own choice and if you decide to do it we have to respect it but I just want to say this.

I'm a relatively new member early in transition and seeing posts from people further along really helps me push forward as it shows that there is hope for a successful transition and that the early painful days will pass.

You and many other members here are an inspiration to me. Whether you leave or not, I hope you continue to have that success in life. You deserve it!
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: Sandy on October 10, 2015, 07:36:46 AM
Quote from: SofiN on October 10, 2015, 07:22:39 AM
Obviously this is your own choice and if you decide to do it we have to respect it but I just want to say this.

I'm a relatively new member early in transition and seeing posts from people further along really helps me push forward as it shows that there is hope for a successful transition and that the early painful days will pass.

You and many other members here are an inspiration to me. Whether you leave or not, I hope you continue to have that success in life. You deserve it!

SofiN:

There is quite a bit of "churn" here.  And that isn't really a bad thing.  This place is for support during a time in life that is traumatic and very few non-trans people understand what a difficult thing it is to come to grips with.

Transition, by definition, temporary, and once you have navigated the storm, you have a life to live.  And sometimes that means not looking back, but looking forward.

And there are those who stay.  Some of us remain long after transition specifically to show that it does get better, you can do it, and there is color and joy on the other side.

We support each other.

-Sandy
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: iKate on October 10, 2015, 07:37:01 AM
Good luck. Your choice, enjoy your life.
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: Miril on October 10, 2015, 08:27:01 AM
Yennifer,

I get what you are saying.  One wants to have some sort of positive acknowledgment that what we say (post) has some sort of value and is recognized by others.  Personally, I like it when somebody says "good point" - or even "sorry, I don't agree" because it makes me feel like I have had some sort of impact and cant help but feel a little disappointed when my comment or post passes unnoticed. 

That said - and remember, I am a still a relative new comer here - I am starting to figure out how Susan's works.  There is an incredible flow of new posts every day on so many many many different topics.   Even though I try to get into Susan's every day there is just no way I can ever hope to read, let alone respond, to all the new posts.   So each of my own posts enter this noisy river of commentary, sometimes to be noticed but often not.   But every post and comment goes into a vast pool of shared experiences, opinions and knowledge - there for your taking, at your leisure and when you need it.   I am learning to treat Susan's as a valuable source of knowledge and a way to connect with a community that doesnt really exist in the New Hampshire country side.   I may be just one of many in a crowd but I feel less alone and I am getting smarter about many topics!

So, please know, your posts do have value to the community and I personally appreciate that you have taken the time to make them.   I hope you decide to stay!
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: Eva Marie on October 10, 2015, 10:18:03 AM
Quote from: Sandy on October 10, 2015, 07:36:46 AM
And there are those who stay.  Some of us remain long after transition specifically to show that it does get better, you can do it, and there is color and joy on the other side.

We support each other.

-Sandy

What Sandy said (a person that has been a long time member here).

I hardly post here anymore because I have completed a big portion of my journey and I have figured out what I needed to know - I don't really need support anymore. But I still stick around and respond to an occasional post that catches my interest, paying it forward. Since I have "been there and done that" I may be able to help someone - after all, people stayed and helped me (many of those members are long gone now) and its only fair that I use what i've learned to try to help others.

Leaving is your choice, but may I suggest that you take a break for now and leave your account active, and then when you are ready come back and visit occasionally?
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: stephaniec on October 10, 2015, 12:13:00 PM
I feel like a dead duck in the water. I've posted over 7000 questions and other things and as far as posting questions related to my transition I think all my questions have been answered so I have no questions to ask any more. I post if I think I can help someone and will continue to stick around because I believe in what Susan has created. We all need to live our life the way we see fit so be happy and Susan's will be here if you need anything like a cup of tea or something.
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: herekitten on October 10, 2015, 01:25:22 PM
Stay and have some virtual tea, as Stephanie said. Ive enjoyed your posts and questions. I may never comment or pose questions much but I do read everything and I was enjoying your views on transition.

What kind of tea Stephanie? I'm in the mood for chamomile tea.
Title: Re: I don't know if I want to be here anymore
Post by: Wynternight on October 10, 2015, 02:26:31 PM
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