Not sure if I should have posted an introduction somewhere, apologies if I should have.
I met my ex partner in 2008 who at that point identified as male. Two years into our relationship he told me that he should have been born a girl. I supported her through mental health and GIC appointments and day to day things and we had a very happy relationship. Due to very high natural levels of T her E levels were very slow in rising and she stopped using Decapeptyl because of the side effects. It took 2 years for her E levels to reach a level that was considered normal, but shortly after this and earlier this year she ended our relationship. A few weeks before she ended things I became aware that she seemed to be isolating herself and doing nothing apart from gaming online. Old friends have been pushed to one side and she has no interest in anything at all apart from gaming. We still talk on the phone every day (her choice),we still text everyday and we see each other every one to two weeks. She is still affectionate in a non sexual way but her lack of interest in life in general worries me. I'm not sure whether this is due to hormones or maybe to low moods and as she finds it difficult to verbalise feelings and emotions and I don't want her to feel that I am prying I do not feel that I can ask her. Any advice would be appreciated.
Welcome to Susan's Place. You posted in the correct location and an introduction isn't required. The drop in T levels would reduce the sex drive but shouldn't reduce the social need. Something else is going on here and it worries me as well. It sounds like she may have lost here interest in life possibly because of depression or the transition just didn't turn out to be what she expected. Normally you try to build a new life while you are in transition but it seems she may not have and she has abandon the old life. You need to talk to her about this is possible or see if you can get her into therapy and bring this up to the doctor. It is unhealthy in the long run and can be a reason to have post surgical regret.
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After making the above post I was looking for more trouble and I ran across a new thread that is exactly what you need to see. I hope it helps.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,197777.0.html
Thank you so much. I was worried people might think that I was a paranoid ex or something. After we parted I booked a couple of tickets to events and have now invited her to come along and she has accepted. I am going to keep encouraging her to go out and to start taking more of a pride in her appearance again too. Thanks.
It's what we are hear for to help you in anyway we can. I'm glad your going to do that. I'm sure she will appreciate it. Hugs
Mariah
I'm MtF, post OP, almost 2 years on HRT.
My development was the exact opposite. More open, more outgoing, more sociable, more affectionate, full bloom.
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Thank you so much. I was worried people might think that I was a paranoid ex or something. After we parted I booked a couple of tickets to events and have now invited her to come along and she has accepted. I am going to keep encouraging her to go out and to start taking more of a pride in her appearance again too. Thanks.
Your welcome. What you described isn't healthy for anybody and your ex is lucky to have somebody who cares for her wellbeing as much as you do. Anything to get her into the world like dinner, a walk, shopping or a day out will do and you don't need to break the bank doing it. Your time is the most valuable thing you can giver her