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Community Conversation => Youth talk => Topic started by: PastyPrincess on October 22, 2015, 10:54:09 PM

Title: Never really felt any different after coming out
Post by: PastyPrincess on October 22, 2015, 10:54:09 PM
Right so after coming out about a year ago i never really felt "liberated", like i've read from other people's stories. I heard that it feels great among doing so but with the way my mom's been acting i actually feel kind of worse. I've always ended up feeling detached from the outside world, like i am really just simply "incomplete", for the lack of a better term. I really just don't know what to do
Title: Re: Never really felt any different after coming out
Post by: Lady Smith on October 22, 2015, 11:10:41 PM
It's only your first year so it's still early days.  As you grow more into being yourself you will discover the magic starting to happen.
Title: Re: Never really felt any different after coming out
Post by: cindianna_jones on October 22, 2015, 11:12:18 PM
It may be hard. It may feel bad. It may suck. But it's not bottled up inside you now. That is the freedom. Now people must deal with it on their terms. Don't let them cower you into a corner to deal with it on your own. That's what we are here for.

Chin up and all that,
Cindi
Title: Re: Never really felt any different after coming out
Post by: ThaliaNyx on October 25, 2015, 09:35:42 PM
It was the same for me right after I told my mom. I was worried she'd start acting really different around me, but she didn't. Everything sort of just goes back to the way it used to be, I think. It's just that one more person knows your secret. The big changes don't happen until you change how you act or dress. I'm still working on being more feminine, but that's the impression I get.
Title: Re: Never really felt any different after coming out
Post by: LaneD on October 28, 2015, 08:01:45 PM
Same thing here. When I came out to my mom she was depressed and didn't get out of bed for 3 months.  So while it was a relief to tell her I felt awful that I was the cause of this.  Eventually everything went back to normal and I didn't feel bad about it.  It wasn't until I came out to everyone and got surgery and started hormones little by little I got to the point where I am 'liberated' to be who I am.