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Title: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: AnamethatstartswithE on October 28, 2015, 04:16:49 PM
I was wondering what the physical sensations were without a "male appendage" down there. I'm not talking about emotional changes, or sex. Does doing things like walking, sitting, wearing tighter clothes feel different? And if so, how so? I've been wondering this since junior high school.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Jenna Marie on October 28, 2015, 05:56:19 PM
It does, but sometimes it's not so much what it feels like not to have one as what it feels like to have something else, if that makes sense. :) Yes, wearing panties without testicles creeping past the elastic edges is great, and so is wearing tight jeans without feeling them crushing stuff. But in the first few weeks the sensations post-op were all so weird and different that I started to lose track of what it was like to have *anything* that wasn't a super tender swollen surgical site... and now it tends to be more about "oh, my crotch is getting weirdly humid and warm again" or "shoot, I think my labia are stuck together" and whatnot.  I can feel my labia rubbing slightly when I walk, and I was definitely startled to discover that I now sit right ON my genitalia - as in, can feel it all squish against a chair or bicycle seat, especially if I lean forward - although it's not painful or anything, just odd. And now those tight jeans have a seam that gives me a wicked crotch wedgie instead!

Uh, sorry, not that I'm not thrilled to be shaped correctly; I am. But day to day at 3+ years post-op it's less of an immediate delight unless I actually stop to think about how horrible it all felt before.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: pretty pauline on October 28, 2015, 06:09:12 PM
30 years post op, I forget what it was like having male junk, I can cross my legs in the tightest of space very comfortable without the pain and discomfort of squeezing male junk.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Serenation on October 28, 2015, 06:29:46 PM
Jenna said it pretty well, I'm almost 6 months post op now. You are sitting on it, and I'm sure it gets more comfortable later on. Labia can feel rubby and chaffy sometimes when walking and swaying your hips helps with that, so maybe next time you see a woman walking that way she might not be trying to be sexy, her labia might just be bugging her.

I don't feel a huge difference in wearing clothes though it's nice to never have to worry about things, and yeah you can wear gstrings easy being probably the only exception.

I shaved and had some pretty skimpy lace underwear on and it was freaking me out a bit, I kept getting the sensation my fly was undone, but it wasn't.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: cindianna_jones on October 28, 2015, 06:33:37 PM
28 Years post-op. It's like it was never there. Don't miss it. Urinating feels the same. That was a big question I had. It turns out that feeling comes from your bladder and not in the you know what. My weird dreams of it popping back out from time to time ended about 12 years ago. I don't mind sitting down to pee. Uhm what else? Oh... hiding the package. I was ALWAYS worried about that. Geez, that took me a while to remember that one.

I do have the equivalent of a wet dream from time to time. Don't know what triggers that. I just wake up feeling in the mood and with a smile. I never remember what the dreams are when that happens.

In terms of arousal, not as much. Thankfully. But it is a sensation that is satisfying without a partner or any further action. I know that doesn't make sense but it happens.

I can't think of anything else.

I'm sure everyone has different sensations. It just depends on how you are wired.

Cindi
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: suzifrommd on October 28, 2015, 08:12:12 PM
Quote from: AnamethatstartswithE on October 28, 2015, 04:16:49 PM
I was wondering what the physical sensations were without a "male appendage" down there. I'm not talking about emotional changes, or sex. Does doing things like walking, sitting, wearing tighter clothes feel different? And if so, how so? I've been wondering this since junior high school.

Oddly enough, very little difference. Because they don't really cut anything away (other than the testes themselves), it still feels like it's all there. It feels like I did a really good job of tucking. The VJ itself has no sensation unless something's going in or coming out. Otherwise I'm not aware it's there.

However, I can receive a jolt of sensation by crossing one leg tightly over another and then squirming around. It feels kind of good.  :o
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Joi on October 28, 2015, 10:56:00 PM
Not post-op yet, but I always had a feeling that when I saw a woman with her legs crossed and gently rocking the free leg that she might be enjoying some interesting sensations from her girly bits.  Do you think I was right?  I often do it while tucked and in the same position and it feels good even though my "junk" is being crushed.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Sammym on October 29, 2015, 04:17:57 AM
I'm slowly reaching 2 months post op. It certainly is interesting getting a hang of the  new anatomy.

To begin with, nerves are still randomly firing as things are healing. I'm sure that will settle down, but it's strange to see where all the nerves are now. Certain things are in the same spot,  some things are very different. And some bits have no feeling.

I read about this before the op, but it's true. The nerves to tell you that you're urinating aren't there any more, but sometimes those phantom nerves fire. It feels strange, especially during dilation.

Otherwise it does take some getting used to sitting. Especially when there's some air in your bits that kinda bubbles about. A very odd sensation.

And it's nice to have no extra appendage grossing me out. The shape of having no male bits is just perfect.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: OCAnne on October 29, 2015, 07:32:20 AM
Hello Everyone, predictably the bulge-less, hassle free smooth look in fitted clothing is outstanding.  But what I have found most interesting is going without underwear.  Feels nice to be completely free under skirts and dresses.  Never thought or dreamed going panty less prior to SRS.  Honestly it's a completely unexpected plus. 

By far the best unexpected feeling is moving forward into a headwind with your dress/skirt pushing back between your legs.  That look and sensation is one that's best experienced.
Thank you,
Anne

Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Karen5519 on October 30, 2015, 03:53:09 PM
I have been post-op for 13 years now and for a long time everything has felt very natural.  It is far more comfortable especially when wearing a skirt or dress.  As others have said.......the smoothness across the front you get in a pair of jeans is very nice..  But there is a trade off............for a woman there are things that you have to be cognizant about that men do not. 
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: cindianna_jones on October 30, 2015, 04:05:45 PM
Uhm, I don't know why but I have to ask this question for other post ops.... hard to approach actually. Does anyone have a VJ "fart" from time to time? Sorry for that word, but I can't explain it in any simpler terms. No it doesn't stink and it doesn't really make much noise.... But has anyone else had them? I suppose air gets trapped in there somehow and needs to get out when you move. I've never had to be embarrassed by one and it does feels kind of good.

Blush
Cindi
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Girl Beyond Doubt on October 30, 2015, 04:17:14 PM
I am way too tight for any air to become trapped in my VJ. Air between my labia is a completely different, tickly, bubbly thing, though. Weird but funny.
This is now officially my favorite thread ;-)
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: AnamethatstartswithE on October 30, 2015, 04:29:08 PM
Thank you ladies, you've given me a lot to think about. All of the bubble talk has brought out more questions. WHat happens when you swim/go in the tub. Does water "Get in," does this have health implications?

Quote from: Karen5519 on October 30, 2015, 03:53:09 PM
...for a woman there are things that you have to be cognizant about that men do not. 

such as?
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: cindianna_jones on October 30, 2015, 04:42:25 PM
Quote from: AnamethatstartswithE on October 30, 2015, 04:29:08 PM
Thank you ladies, you've given me a lot to think about. All of the bubble talk has brought out more questions. WHat happens when you swim/go in the tub. Does water "Get in," does this have health implications?

such as?

Of course water gets in! No, you can't use a dime between your knees either. That is one of the such as things. Also, you must clean yourself every day, often several times because if you don't you get a "fishy smell." You can also get bladder infections and you won''t really know you have one until you realize one day that for two months you've the feeling you always have to go. Bladder infections are such sneaky things.

You can't aim your stream. It goes where it wants to go. Sometimes right in your face. I'm not joking.

In addition to those, you get to pay a lot more for clothing that doesn't last half as long. You need to wear a different outfit every day for a month. You won't get paid as much. You pay three times as much for a haircut. Your beauty products will cost as much as a week's worth of groceries. You end up in endless conversations about babies and cooking and managing your guy and.....

There's probably a hundred more that are skipping my mind right now.

Stuff like that.

Cindi
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Laura_7 on October 30, 2015, 05:15:14 PM
Quote from: Cindi Jones on October 30, 2015, 04:42:25 PM
Of course water gets in! No, you can't use a dime between your knees either. That is one of the such as things. Also, you must clean yourself every day, often several times because if you don't you get a "fishy smell." You can also get bladder infections and you won''t really know you have one until you realize one day that for two months you've the feeling you always have to go. Bladder infections are such sneaky things.


You could have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,190342.msg1695485.html#msg1695485


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Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: cindianna_jones on October 30, 2015, 08:00:18 PM
Quote from: Laura_7 on October 30, 2015, 05:15:14 PM
You could have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,190342.msg1695485.html#msg1695485


hugs

Oh I didn't mean douching. I meant washing the outside so it stays clean. I should have made that point more clear. I've never used a douche kit. It seems as though they aren't as popular as they were two decades ago. I think it was one of those publicity creates demand things that just didn't pan out.

Cindi
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Laura_7 on October 30, 2015, 08:22:19 PM
Quote from: Cindi Jones on October 30, 2015, 08:00:18 PM
Oh I didn't mean douching. I meant washing the outside so it stays clean. I should have made that point more clear. I've never used a douche kit. It seems as though they aren't as popular as they were two decades ago. I think it was one of those publicity creates demand things that just didn't pan out.

Cindi

The douches are nor recommended by many surgeons after the first few months of srs.

Quite a few people found this helpful:
"I then got from a health food store a probioitic designed for the vagina and is inserted into the vagina.  It will fix the vagina flora. You'll get some discharge after from the pill dissolving, and you'll use it for a few days, laying down and inserting it at night.

That pill made a huge difference. I smell and taste amazing. I feel healthier down there and all over. I self-lube better. And I haven't had any re-occurring yeast infections or BV.  I swear by this product! I've read on other forms about it, which other people also swear by -- I've read stories of women having problems for 10 years and taking a vaginal probiotic stopped it."
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Jenna Marie on October 30, 2015, 09:35:28 PM
Cindi : Yes, that air in there thing happens enough that cis girls have named it a "queef." :) You're quite right about what causes it, too - unlike a fart, it's just normal air getting trapped and then escaping later. Sex/dilation can do it, but so can just shifting around in just the right (wrong?!) way.

Now, one thing I did NOT expect was how actual farts (as in, I know they started out from my butt) will sometimes creep and bubble into my labia and kinda get channeled out and up through there instead. That is a *weird* feeling.

If I take a bath a little bit of water will get in, but not very deeply, and trickle back out when I stand up. It's not nearly as bad as the gush of lube after dilation, which is annoying as heck and also felt really strange at first. And Cindi's also right about washing the outside but not douching; I occasionally use a baby wipe for extra touch-ups in summer or after wearing tight pants, but other than that a quick wash of the labia with gentle soap in the shower is all I need.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: mfox on October 31, 2015, 11:19:44 AM
Quote from: Laura_7 on October 30, 2015, 08:22:19 PM
The douches are nor recommended by many surgeons after the first few months of srs.

Are douches the only way you can exfoliate?

This is one of my bigger worries.  With penile inversion, don't you still have the top layer of shedding, dead skin cells on the epidermis? Instead of a living layer of vaginal mucosa (mucosal epithelium).   I know some people claim the skin becomes mucosa-like, but I don't know if that's really possible.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: cindianna_jones on October 31, 2015, 12:17:10 PM
Quote from: mfox on October 31, 2015, 11:19:44 AM
Are douches the only way you can exfoliate?

This is one of my bigger worries.  With penile inversion, don't you still have the top layer of shedding, dead skin cells on the epidermis? Instead of a living layer of vaginal mucosa (mucosal epithelium).   I know some people claim the skin becomes mucosa-like, but I don't know if that's really possible.

Dilating takes care of that.

Cindi
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Jenna Marie on October 31, 2015, 12:34:50 PM
All I can really say is that Brassard said the vagina would become self-cleaning, and it has. The smell and feel/texture of the vaginal walls is very similar to my wife's (she has more ridges in there, but that's a matter of some personal variation anyway) and stuff definitely does work its way out on its own. Possibly a bit more slowly, since there's also some gentle muscular contractions in cis vaginas that are less common in ours, but I've never had to make a special effort to remove even the lube from dilation. As for shedding dead skin in there, well, I obviously don't know for sure what's happening, but little nasty clumps of dead skin and whatnot came out in the bath/shower for a while immediately post-op and then... stopped. 

The gyno who does my checkups for insurance says it's more or less the same as the menopausal women she examines - somewhat more dry and a bit less elastic than the vagina typical of a younger fertile woman, but within normal range nonetheless. And the swabs my GP has taken suggest that the bacterial balance is also basically normal.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: thegirlinblue on November 08, 2015, 06:24:18 PM
So interesting, I have been thinking about this for a while now and wondered what it would actually feel like.

Did anybody else feel unsure about going through with the surgery?

I know that I want the surgery and the end product is exactly what I want but the thought of walking into a hospital in perfect health and then waking up in enormous amounts of pain is a little scary. Maybe it would be more odd if I wasn't a little worried!
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: suzifrommd on November 08, 2015, 07:01:00 PM
Quote from: thegirlinblue on November 08, 2015, 06:24:18 PM
So interesting, I have been thinking about this for a while now and wondered what it would actually feel like.

Did anybody else feel unsure about going through with the surgery?

I know that I want the surgery and the end product is exactly what I want but the thought of walking into a hospital in perfect health and then waking up in enormous amounts of pain is a little scary. Maybe it would be more odd if I wasn't a little worried!

I did feel unsure.

There was very little pain. The only really painful moments was when the surgeon removed the drain. The pain lasted about four seconds and then it was over. Other than that, I was generally comfortable throughout the recovery process. Any pain was more annoying than traumatic.

I have more pain during a half a session of electrolysis than during the entire surgical recovery process.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Jenna Marie on November 08, 2015, 07:02:13 PM
Thegirlinblue : No, I think that's absolutely normal! It's definitely how I felt; I was as sure as possible that I wanted it, but scared and worried about the recovery period. (For the record, at one point in the first couple days I did actually say "I came in here in excellent health and they broke me." I won't sugar-coat it : that experience you describe is entirely possible. On the other hand, I didn't have enormous amounts of pain...  I'd say it never exceeded the pain when I sprained my ankle, and usually much better b/c I got good painkillers.)
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: thegirlinblue on November 08, 2015, 07:36:53 PM
Thanks, that's really nice to know.

I am pretty tough, electrolysis never really bothered me and I broke my ankle once and that was only mildly painful.

I guess the whole going in healthy coming out damaged is the thing that freaks me out the most.
I feel pretty bad for my partner as well as I know that anytime I have had surgery it has been really stressful for her.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: suzifrommd on November 08, 2015, 07:52:33 PM
Quote from: thegirlinblue on November 08, 2015, 07:36:53 PM
I guess the whole going in healthy coming out damaged is the thing that freaks me out the most.

After a couple months I was completely back to normal (except one nagging issue, that was more wishful than problematic.) My sister took care of me for the six weeks that I couldn't carry stuff. She originally balked ("I can't be your nurse") but it turned out that other than carrying the laundry basket and grocery bags, there wasn't much else she had to do for me.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Aeirs on November 10, 2015, 09:47:49 AM
This is a very good thread it is answering a lot of questions I have had that no-one seems to know how to answer thank you everyone

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Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: cindianna_jones on November 10, 2015, 09:52:22 AM
Quote from: thegirlinblue on November 08, 2015, 06:24:18 PM
So interesting, I have been thinking about this for a while now and wondered what it would actually feel like.

Did anybody else feel unsure about going through with the surgery?

I know that I want the surgery and the end product is exactly what I want but the thought of walking into a hospital in perfect health and then waking up in enormous amounts of pain is a little scary. Maybe it would be more odd if I wasn't a little worried!

When I came out of surgery and felt myself without that awful thing... nothing will ever supplant that moment as the best thing that ever happened to me. Yes there was some pain and discomfort but it was nothing compared to what I went through before that day. I was very sure. I have no regrets about my transition.

Cindi
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: BridgetYvonne on November 10, 2015, 11:13:41 AM
Due to high T levels & reactions to my Estrogen, it was determined to castrate me :o. I still have my penis but it did feel a bit weird for awhile. But I got used to it. After 4-6 weeks I was retested & was put back on Estrogen. Around Mar '16 I will have my final operation. :-\ But I have decided to stay w/ my VERY full 34As, no boobjob. I would have had 34Cs like my Mom & Sisters but I started my HRT way past Puberty (24).  :laugh:       
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: thegirlinblue on November 10, 2015, 06:53:47 PM
Quote from: Cindi Jones on November 10, 2015, 09:52:22 AM
When I came out of surgery and felt myself without that awful thing... nothing will ever supplant that moment as the best thing that ever happened to me.

Haha, I guess I would have to say that I am not one of those girls, having that thing down there is annoying sure and it doesn't feel like it's the right thing to have but it hasn't ever bothered me that much. Even less so after being on hormones, it's been pretty dormant for a long time now.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Karen5519 on November 13, 2015, 04:58:23 PM
Quote from: Karen5519 on October 30, 2015, 03:53:09 PM
I have been post-op for 13 years now and for a long time everything has felt very natural.  It is far more comfortable especially when wearing a skirt or dress.  As others have said.......the smoothness across the front you get in a pair of jeans is very nice..  But there is a trade off............for a woman there are things that you have to be cognizant about that men do not.

Sitting and how you sit.....especially if you are wearing a skirt!
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: OCAnne on November 13, 2015, 07:14:45 PM
Quote from: Karen5519 on November 13, 2015, 04:58:23 PM
Sitting and how you sit.....especially if you are wearing a skirt!
...without panties.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Aeirs on November 28, 2015, 11:16:55 AM
I can't wait to be able to wear a skirt with out panties ;)

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Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Roberta W on November 29, 2015, 07:03:07 PM
I'm also 30 years post-op, and i can barely remember having those appendages down there.  I agree that wearing tight-fitting panties is the most comfortable (with a cotton lining), no testicles or scrotum squeezing past the elastic ... But I also have to say that when it gets hot, it's nice not having sweaty wet things down there as the testicles like to hang lower to stay cool ... If you have them.  The other sensation is that of arousal ... The same muscles that used to work on the outside, for me at least, are now constricting on the inside.  That really feels different.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Aeirs on November 30, 2015, 09:59:31 AM
No sweat in tuck that sounds phenomenally nice probably one of my least favorite parts next to actually having the thing there to begin with

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Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Laura_7 on December 01, 2015, 02:32:17 PM
Quote from: mfox on October 31, 2015, 11:19:44 AM
Are douches the only way you can exfoliate?

This is one of my bigger worries.  With penile inversion, don't you still have the top layer of shedding, dead skin cells on the epidermis? Instead of a living layer of vaginal mucosa (mucosal epithelium).   I know some people claim the skin becomes mucosa-like, but I don't know if that's really possible.

With estrogen influence, the neovagina can turn into a mucosa.
Here are references:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,149304.msg1682002.html#msg1682002

I wouldn't be too concerned...
dilation and gravity take care of things being expelled...

Many surgeons recommend douches only in the first few weeks. Afterwards a natural flora might be disturbed.


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Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: LizMarie on December 08, 2015, 04:45:04 PM
My OB-GYN was adamant that I NOT douche. Dr. Chet had no opinion and said to ask my OB-GYN, so I don't douche at all. She said with my regular dilations that moisture was good there, no bad smells, and it seemed to be healing fine. That was in September, a few weeks after I got back from Thailand and maybe 6 weeks post op.

As for sensations, I can't remember. I chatted with my therapist about this and she suspects that I've wanted this so long that my brain "self edited" such memories away. She said they're probably there but tucked away in a corner somewhere. I told her those memories can stay in that corner.

What I feel now feels utterly natural and I am so pleased at how clothes fit and I never have to worry about anything popping out. In fact, the one "worry" is cameltoe and I had that happen recently and I and my cisgender girlfriends laughed about it. I told one, "I worked hard for my cameltoe!" We laughed and laughed. :)
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: diane 2606 on December 08, 2015, 11:24:36 PM
Quote from: Cindi Jones on October 28, 2015, 06:33:37 PM
I do have the equivalent of a wet dream from time to time. Don't know what triggers that. I just wake up feeling in the mood and with a smile. I never remember what the dreams are when that happens.

I always wondered if that happened to someone besides me. I wish it happened more frequently. ;)
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: AnonyMs on December 09, 2015, 12:10:02 AM
Quote from: LizMarie on December 08, 2015, 04:45:04 PM
My OB-GYN was adamant that I NOT douche. Dr. Chet had no opinion and said to ask my OB-GYN, so I don't douche at all. She said with my regular dilations that moisture was good there, no bad smells, and it seemed to be healing fine.

Suporn says to do it after dilation to get rid of the lube.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Laura_7 on December 09, 2015, 04:41:23 AM
Quote from: AnonyMs on December 09, 2015, 12:10:02 AM
Suporn says to do it after dilation to get rid of the lube.

Well for how long ? Only a few weeks after srs ?
And with what ? Soft betadine solution with isotonic salt level ?
Concerning lube quite a few people use organic coconut oil after a few weeks..


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Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Sandy on December 09, 2015, 07:02:26 AM
As others have mentioned, many years on, I have to remind myself that I wasn't always this way.  I think that is a good thing.

Yeah, I get queefs and they are another reminder that being a girl is fun!  Peeing is something else too.  True, you can't point your stream, but you can reduce the amount of spray on your bottom if you lean forward a bit.

Also, early on, I was quite swollen and peeing was much like holding my thumb over a garden hose.  It took a few weeks for things to settle down.

Sitting, standing and walking are all much simpler now.  I no longer have to "adjust" myself when doing those simple things because that thing isn't swinging in the breeze.

Yes, it can get a little fishy down there if you don't wash regularly, but don't wash too often or use harsh soap.  You'll dry your skin out and it can get inflamed and irritated.

I did go through a period of phantom limb syndrome.  I could swear that I felt my full, painfully erect, penis sticking straight up through my pants.  It was most distressing, even looking or touching myself would not reduce the feeling.  The sensation abated after several weeks and I felt the feeling of erection become smaller and smaller and finally center itself where my clitoris is now.  My surgeon said it might happen and I was one of the few she had ever met who had it happen to them.  These days the sensations quite normal, for a woman, and I do get a feeling of swolleness when I am aroused, but nothing like before.

-Sandy
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Nicole on December 16, 2015, 03:42:54 PM
After all these years its hard to remember life before hand.

I'll break it down into points to make my reply easier
Clothes:
It means I can wear what I want, if I want jeans, a skirt, gym wear or even a bikini or shorts, I can wear anything without the worry of movement or sight down there.

Toilet:
I was never someone who "needed to sit" before hand, now its just nature for me.

Sexual arousal:
No real difference other than I don't get that growth feeling and hard.
I still get butterflies, I still get that nice feeling all over my body, I do have different levels of arousal, sometimes I need something inside (normally when I'm with a guy), other times I need to be just touched.
I would now say theres a difference before horny and turned on.
Horny is that feeling that you'll like sex, turned on its you need and want it now.
Horny, no real wetness, turned on, well its a broken tap ;)

Sensitivity:
I have 2 places that if you touch you'll end up with a broken nose because I'll jump.
the first is my feet, they cannot be touched at all
the second is my clitoris if I'm not ready.
I jump, it feels nice, but too nice. After I'm warmed up it feels great


Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: ScramBrain on May 18, 2019, 06:27:43 PM
Quote from: OCAnne on October 29, 2015, 07:32:20 AM
Hello Everyone, predictably the bulge-less, hassle free smooth look in fitted clothing is outstanding.  But what I have found most interesting is going without underwear.  Feels nice to be completely free under skirts and dresses.  Never thought or dreamed going panty less prior to SRS.  Honestly it's a completely unexpected plus. 

By far the best unexpected feeling is moving forward into a headwind with your dress/skirt pushing back between your legs.  That look and sensation is one that's best experienced.
Thank you,
Anne
As someone who has significant genital dysphoria as a male, this post covers pretty much everything that I am particularly excited about if/when I get to make the transition! Smoothness in tight shorts and leggings, being able to go commando, the feeling of wind between the legs! These were all things I've been wondering about, but wasn't sure if I was starting to imagine extra feelings that don't happen in reality. Thank you for being so open to talking about these sensations that I hope to get to experience myself!

Some of the other posts of pre-op individuals are expressing exactly my frustrations with these genitals, the biggest reason for me to want a transition.

I'm not quite sure if I'm breaking some unspoken rule about bringing threads back from the dead, but here I go! Let me know if I shouldn't be doing so.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: HappyMoni on May 18, 2019, 07:40:14 PM
Quote from: ScramBrain on May 18, 2019, 06:27:43 PM
As someone who has significant genital dysphoria as a male, this post covers pretty much everything that I am particularly excited about if/when I get to make the transition! Smoothness in tight shorts and leggings, being able to go commando, the feeling of wind between the legs! These were all things I've been wondering about, but wasn't sure if I was starting to imagine extra feelings that don't happen in reality. Thank you for being so open to talking about these sensations that I hope to get to experience myself!

Some of the other posts of pre-op individuals are expressing exactly my frustrations with these genitals, the biggest reason for me to want a transition.

I'm not quite sure if I'm breaking some unspoken rule about bringing threads back from the dead, but here I go! Let me know if I shouldn't be doing so.

Your search for knowledge is perfectly legitimate. If you relate to this, that is fine. I'm almost two years post op. It occurred to me today that I am forgetting what having a penis feels like. I love the fact that when I get excited, nothing moves down there now. I can be as horny as I want and no one needs to know. If you have any questions, I'll be glad to try to help.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Mendi on May 18, 2019, 10:15:45 PM
I´m 10 months post-op and honestly, I cannot remember exactly how it was before. This feels just natural and the way it has always been.

I´ve had one dream where I was touching the previous equipment and it was more or less like a nightmare, definitely my mind trying to scare me, because in the dream everything just went so over the top that it now makes me laugh  :D

Also about 3 months after the operation I surprised myself when I went to pee. I sat down and tried to grap and adjust the position of that thing...that wasn´t there anymore. That left me a bit confused, but I guess it was some old habit still kicking in.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Linde on May 18, 2019, 10:42:07 PM
Quote from: HappyMoni on May 18, 2019, 07:40:14 PM
Your search for knowledge is perfectly legitimate. If you relate to this, that is fine. I'm almost two years post op. It occurred to me today that I am forgetting what having a penis feels like. I love the fact that when I get excited, nothing moves down there now. I can be as horny as I want and no one needs to know. If you have any questions, I'll be glad to try to help.
I have the same none reaction with that little bit of penis I have left.  I have not have any reaction for several years now, my biggest dislike is the aesthetics, it just looks unfinished down there.  I can go commando and do anything one could do/wear after SRS, because of hardly anything there. 
I have to sit down for peeing since several years now, and have nothing to grab or adjust either, I can just pee!  All those things are not much different or me with that mini penis I have.

If the looks would be different, I would not need any surgery!
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: CynthiaAnn on May 19, 2019, 07:20:11 AM
It's all been said before, so I'll simply add things I like to do such as hiking and biking are absolutely wonderful  :)

Looking back at the effort to pursue GCS, is something that gives me deep personal satisfaction. In the grand scheme of things, nobody else cares, except perhaps a few curious folks here and the medical professionals I visit.

C -
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: AutumnLeaves on May 19, 2019, 11:12:26 AM
Quote from: suzifrommd on October 28, 2015, 08:12:12 PM
Oddly enough, very little difference. Because they don't really cut anything away (other than the testes themselves), it still feels like it's all there. It feels like I did a really good job of tucking. The VJ itself has no sensation unless something's going in or coming out. Otherwise I'm not aware it's there.

However, I can receive a jolt of sensation by crossing one leg tightly over another and then squirming around. It feels kind of good.  :o

This is my experience, too. I sometimes feel like things are just tightly squished back up in there, but of course when I look there is no more external penis. I am about 8 months post op and I still feel a bit swollen/sore if I cross my legs too tightly. I also still have a bit of a pulling/stretching feeling sometimes that I hope will continue to dissipate. I still have a few sore spots on my labia and they do tend to get irritated/rubbed the wrong way at times.
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Roberta W on May 29, 2019, 10:27:34 PM
I think it's all been said, all I can say is that it's wonderful not having that stuff getting in the way down there riding a bicycle, a horse, crossing our legs, etc.  Mine's been gone for over 33 years ... Almost half my life, so in once sense you could say that my memory of having it down there has faded away ... Yet I still love it this way!
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Lilis on January 27, 2025, 02:07:44 AM
Nice, I'm years away for this if ever, but I never know what's next. Bookmarked.... Thanks ❣️
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Sarah B on January 27, 2025, 08:14:59 AM
Hi Everyone

These are my thoughts and feelings in regards to this issue.  They can be found here in Sarah's Story. (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247190.msg2291758.html#msg2291758)

Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
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Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: Lilis on January 28, 2025, 03:50:06 AM
Quote from: Sarah B on January 27, 2025, 08:14:59 AMThese are my thoughts and feelings in regards to this issue.  They can be found here in Sarah's Story. (https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,247190.msg2291758.html#msg2291758)
I truly appreciate reading about the way you reflect on your journey, it's incredibly moving. I love how you shared how the transition and the physical changes you underwent brought you peace and a deep sense of wholeness, giving us all a beautiful glimpse into your feelings and experiences over the years.

Sarah, thank you so much for keeping this conversation updated by sharing your thoughts and feelings on this topic. 🙏🫂💕



~ Lilis
Title: Re: What are the physical sensations of not having your "you know what" down there?
Post by: davina61 on January 28, 2025, 05:03:31 AM
Dont miss it, in fact it was annoying as never felt right. Maybe its from my "past life memory" that pops in my brain (or do I just make that up?)