So another question I have is dealing with morons. First let me say that 90% of people I pass in public are either so wrapped up in their own world (I passed a woman so caught up in whatever was on her smart phone that I could have been a ten foot green troll and she wouldn't have noticed) or just don't care one way or the other. They may even speak to me if the need arises. However....
The other 10% are the morons. The ones who have to let you know one way or another that you are different. Sometimes soon after you pass them they will start to laugh or sometimes they will turn tail and go the other way avoiding you all together. How do you make peace with this and not let it bother you? As for the ones who run I kind of worked out a scene in my mind where I chased them down yelling "It's contagious!" while breathing in their face. I wouldn't actually do that but it made me laugh thinking about it.
I think I am even more twisted than you are. How about the image of you approaching them and saying did you know there is another book about the word of god called the bible. It's about a man name Jesus who walked the earth 2000 years ago spreading the message of peace and love of your fellow man.
If they are still around after that, you have their attention. if not, you are rid of them.
I do not know if this is good to do but this is what I do. I do not look at them. I look down the street or at a shop but not at them. In the summer when the sun is shining I wear sun glasses and that for some reason helped a lot when I first started to express without a winter coat on. I guess in time as you get comfortable with yourself I find myself not caring what others think.
I don't run into them often. If they don't confront me, I don't confront them. When someone gives me a nasty look, I usually smile at them.
A cashier at our grocer once gave the most sour look when she saw me coming into her line. When I got to the front I said, "You look unhappy. Have you been having a bad day?"
Since my coming out party in Apr '15 a few of our friends? have decided that they cant deal w/ me becoming a girl. Even my GF/mentor Vikki's stepsister Sheri has decided to never came Bridget. She thinks that she is hurting me by calling me Jim. A few of our friends who work w/ Sheri have stayed friends w/ us & I think it is causing friction between them & Sheri. Vikki & I want to be friends w/ Sheri but if she is going to be narrow minded, then so be it. A bunch of our friends say that I am a lot calmer & happier as Bridget then I was as Jim. Maybe HRT or my body is now in synch w/ my mind? who knows. If 10% of the people are going to narrow minded, thank the 90%.
Quote from: suzifrommdA cashier at our grocer once gave the most sour look when she saw me coming into her line. When I got to the front I said, "You look unhappy. Have you been having a bad day?"
Perfect! Well done.
I would just ignore the morons. The idiots make up a small percentage of society and most of them are helpless and incredibly ignorant. I always told myself that their doing that was like my initiation into a terrific club called womanhood! If it is any consolation, things improve dramatically the more you move through transition as you continue to learn and adjust to the "new" you and the hormones and anti-androgen start to alter your overall looks. Just know that there are more "good" people out there than morons. Good luck and keep pushing forward!
Quote from: Christy76 on November 14, 2015, 08:55:52 AM
So another question I have is dealing with morons. First let me say that 90% of people I pass in public are either so wrapped up in their own world (I passed a woman so caught up in whatever was on her smart phone that I could have been a ten foot green troll and she wouldn't have noticed) or just don't care one way or the other. They may even speak to me if the need arises. However....
The other 10% are the morons. The ones who have to let you know one way or another that you are different. Sometimes soon after you pass them they will start to laugh or sometimes they will turn tail and go the other way avoiding you all together. How do you make peace with this and not let it bother you? As for the ones who run I kind of worked out a scene in my mind where I chased them down yelling "It's contagious!" while breathing in their face. I wouldn't actually do that but it made me laugh thinking about it.
I feel exactly like this when I am out in public also. I think idiocy is a contagiously, epidemic disease because so many humans are too ignorant to even desire to be educated the facts surrounding transsexuality/->-bleeped-<-.
My bro, me and even my mama feel those same uncomfortable feelings of paranoia when passing by random people outside who just bust out laughing as soon as you're within range of their useless existence in that moment.
You not gonna like this, but the best thing you can do is to move on. And you mentioned one really great way to do that; laugh. :D
I ain't gonna lie to you though, I get angry or annoyed like anyone else cause at the end of the day, we all human. But to remain in this state of mind is very stressful and will do us very little good.
I'm not Christian or anything like that, but its funny how Christians never seem to explain that everything really does "come to pass," like the Bible states a multiplicity of times all throughout its text. And so shall the rain come to pass and the sun will shine again. :D
~Nixy~
Remember, however you deal with them don't allow yourself to fall to their level. They'll beat you with experience at being a moron every time.
Morons tend too leave me alone,something about me makes them have second thoughts.I did run into some morons once when out with my wife and I ignored them,the wait staff told them too leave us alone or they would have to leave,they shut up.
Hi Christy,
That's terrible. If I felt 1 out of 10 people I met were morons, I would probably move. In the city I live in, there is an area where most people are LGBT. At night, it's so beautiful to watch. Recently, I was in this area, and I felt like I was in the middle of a parade of hand holding LGBT couples, and in each couple there was a trust and intimacy, incommensurable to any place I have been.
Of course, Shangri-La does not exist, but the point I'm obliquely trying to make, is that in order to deal with what you are going through, I think you should surround yourself with like-minded people. I think with support, you slowly getting more comfortable with yourself and becoming inured to these types of encounters, eventually when you see the morons, they will be the strange ones.
I thought I was meeting a moron today...
I was walking home and some slightly drunk tall man walked up next to me and asked me "can I ask you a question?" at first I said no, then I said shoot...
he asked where did I find the courage to just be myself :P
ok, I don't think I pass, but I also am a bit extreem punk-glam, so even if I did pass people would still stare, but this guy was genuine.
I do get some comments though, and I mostly ignore them, I'm ok with me and dont' really care much what others think. :)
but I must admit, I'm waiting for someone to say "what the @#%! are you!?!" to which I will answer "your worst nightmare".
xox, Candi
Quote from: cheryl reeves on November 14, 2015, 02:10:40 PM
Morons tend too leave me alone,something about me makes them have second thoughts.I did run into some morons once when out with my wife and I ignored them,the wait staff told them too leave us alone or they would have to leave,they shut up.
Is that the length of 4x2 timber you have in your hand at the time though that makes think again. :)
Sophie