It has never really occurred to me that I am kind of "unattractive" to the average gay guy, sure I may have an attractive face, but it typically stops there. It's never an "oh my gawd" effect. It's not a desiring, or lustful eyes.... I attract bisexuals strongly for the most part, and straight guys are usually fond of me (my personality). I am even basing my looks, a gay guy told me I had feminine eyes, and a cisgender woman once told me I had girly eyes (more than once). I think people see a girl in me, and it changes how they react to me. Like right now, I think I have the effect on this guy, and he wants to help me on even buying a car. I don't ask for his help though, and he is even willing to drive me to work this past week until I get a car (but he has a girlfriend, I don't find him attractive, and we talk about girls like normal guys... I kind of go along with it).
In the summer of my most experimental days, when I dress slightly feminine, I see lust in men eyes (and not from gay guys). It's a whole 90 degrees difference. Also, I don't think it's coincidental, I think something biologically gave me feminine features. And I don't act feminine.
I made a craigslist post, "t4m", in the romance section, and I had 10x amount of replies that I normally do for a gay romance add. I usually get none in fact. I been searching for love for so long, and it seems love is far more easier for transwomen than it is for gay men (or maybe it's just my luck?)...
It kind of makes no sense, since that was my greatest fear that transwomen can't find love, when it's the opposite all along.
Can anyone relate with me on this???
Guys who are attracted to me usually like me because I'm smart and funny.
I'm average or just okay looking I'd say. Probably not even that.
But the ability to be someone to actually be with and have fun with is my greatest asset.
Problem is I keep attracting them, yet I'm by no means ready to date. So I "friend zone" a lot of them... oy.
Quote from: Wild Flower on November 16, 2015, 11:44:40 PM
I made a craigslist post, "t4m"...
...my greatest fear that transwomen can't find love, when it's the opposite all along.
Are you sure those guys on craigslist are looking for
love? I've heard several transwomen complain of being fetishized, of guys wanting to keep you a "dirty little secret," or married guys. Those are not respectful, loving relationships. Those are guys trying to use transwomen for sex. Don't get me wrong, you might actually find an awesome guy on craigslist who wants a long-term thing and has an open mind about gender. But they're definitely in the minority.
Now... if by "love" you mean
luvin' then yeah, you should find no shortage of interest. If all you want is sex, their testosterone is your best friend.
Craigslist sounds super scary... Be very careful.