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General Discussions => General discussions => Topic started by: Lady Smith on November 21, 2015, 11:35:46 AM

Title: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: Lady Smith on November 21, 2015, 11:35:46 AM
I've just had a guy who is younger than my son try to chat me up on Faceplant.  I think he has  a visual disability too because he said I was beautiful, had lovely lips and had a nice figure.  It has been a very very long time since anybody told me I was worth looking at and I'm inclined to hope that nobody will do it again for a long time.  I knew there was a good reason why I should stay away from social media and I think I will from now on.

Earlier on today a rather distinguished looking civil engineer with a goatee beard who was around my own age was chatting with me and that was mostly Ok; - but fanboys younger than my son no thank you  :icon_pissed:
Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: Katiepie on November 21, 2015, 12:43:33 PM
Maybe he did have that special feeling toward you, or maybe he was being nice.

Either which way, I have stayed away from most social media, at least these modern day ones. I did have one back for like a month or so, way back when xanga was introduced, otherwise that is lost and buried in the past. Never looked back on it, and never once decided to check what I had written there that long time ago.

Kate <3
Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: Lady Smith on November 22, 2015, 09:02:23 AM
Well I ended up blocking the fanboy, BUT the distinguished civil engineer is proving to be someone I'm finding it hard to ignore.  Despite all my efforts I'm finding myself liking him and I'm enjoying chatting with him.  Will wonders never cease!  My daughter is much amused, but also pleased for me that I am actually in a space where I can enjoy talking with a man of my own age and be open to the possibility that doing so might lead to something more.
Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: barbie on November 22, 2015, 09:51:55 AM
Facebook is a great place for transgender people. People are more accepting and open-minded than in the real world. I have a lot of Facebook friends who can accept and sometimes praise me.

Yes. Nearly every day, I receive friend requests, but I keep the maximum number of friends below 500. More than that, I can not read all posts from friends.

barbie~~
Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: Tristyn on November 22, 2015, 10:34:18 AM
Facebook is a very annoying place. :-\

I only use it now to make money in connection with my youtube channel, which has merely garnered about 3 or 4 cents so far since October, which is so lame but its a start. I guess if it were easy, everybody would do it. Yeah, I tell myself things like that to help ease my severely low self-esteem. Yup. :P

~Nixy~
Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: Kylo on November 25, 2015, 11:02:52 AM
I've never had a problem with Facebook, other than the incessant stream of baby pictures, food pictures and political memes from other people. . .

Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: Lady Smith on November 26, 2015, 02:10:11 PM
I made the civil engineer disappear by telling him I was TG and now I've got lonely widowers with poor eyesight telling me I'm beautiful.  :laugh:
Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: Tysilio on November 27, 2015, 12:46:07 AM
Might wanna change yer privacy settings....
Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: Ms Grace on November 27, 2015, 04:35:21 AM
Quote from: Tysilio on November 27, 2015, 12:46:07 AM
Might wanna change yer privacy settings....

I think so. Mine's on ultra private. Actual friends only.
Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: Lady Smith on November 27, 2015, 04:49:12 AM
Being nearly a complete luddite I didn't know how to set faceplant to private so it's wonderful now that I've done so  ;D
Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: Tysilio on November 27, 2015, 11:14:18 AM
Congratulations!  I won't say "welcome to the 21st century," because I'm not that keen on it myself, but it's useful to dip a toe now and then.   (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fthefiringline.com%2Fforums%2Fimages%2Fsmilies%2Fwink.gif&hash=fd49c1687b59c0ea097a7b4f1ed562a996fdaf5c)
Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: barbie on November 27, 2015, 03:14:28 PM
Quote from: Lady Smith on November 26, 2015, 02:10:11 PM
I made the civil engineer disappear by telling him I was TG and now I've got lonely widowers with poor eyesight telling me I'm beautiful.  :laugh:

I have got many female Facebook friends. Their ages are from 20s to 50s, mostly 40s. Some of them admire me. Of course, there are a few men who like me, but my admirers are mostly women.

And think about the power of smartphone. You can not easily show your computer screen to your friends or spouse, but it is very easy to show the smartphone screen to anybody beside you. When I post a photo in Facebook, the number of viewers is far greater than I expected based on the number of friends. Each friend can share the photos with other people who may not use Facebook or even smartphone.

And the impact of posting my bikini photos... It became out of control.

barbie~~


Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: gennee on November 27, 2015, 05:51:24 PM
It's a mixed bag on Facebook. I have some really good friends there. On the other hand, many men have tried to hit on me. Some I'm old enough to be their parent or grandparent.

:)
Title: Re: Facebook is a very strange place.
Post by: Lady Smith on November 27, 2015, 11:13:18 PM
What annoys me is that they all ask the same stupid questions and have nothing intelligent to say  >:(
Being hit on when you're asexual is boring beyond belief.  I fail to understand what these guys hope to get out of these kinds of interactions.  The civil engineer guy did actually have some intelligent things to say and could hold a conversation which was Ok, but he turned out to be a complete rarity and certainly wasn't typical.