Hi Everybody
My Girlfriend has been through a lot in life and has begun her transition this year in February 2015.
She has had the colon version of the M2F surgery and the results are not as she was expecting.
After the surgery she has fallen into a heavy state of depression and cannot seem to accept that her body will never be "fully" a woman's body. I accept her fully and love her unconditionally but it seems that the struggles she has been through in life has taken too much of her life essence. She used to be a very driven person always defying anyone who tells her she cannot do something. I just want to find out a few things from someone who has had this surgery done and how I can help her get over her complex with her body or at least learn to live with it. Before then let me just give a quick description of her journey.
When she was 19 she realized that she was not gay but was simply trapped in the wrong body. She decided to start living fully as a female at the age of 22 where she has been constantly struggling with the world never giving her a gap. a Few guys have attempted to rape her but only got to touching her in different stages, but usually started beating her up when they found out she had a penis. Well the penis is gone now and the hurt remains.
The Dr she has been seeing is apparently one of the best in this field globally and I cannot seem to agree.
He told her the surgery is in three stages.
Stage 1 Removal
Stage 2 Make a hole
Stage 3 Make the clitoris
She is now at stage two of this process and has anyone had a similar process??
There is a rather large gap of skin between where her clitoris now sits and where the cavity starts ( 6cm) where it is just remaining skin from what i think to be her scrotum. Will this be fixed in phase 3?? will her cavity and clit be joined again?
The point is she doesnt even want to do the last surgery because she wants to die. I do not know what to do??
Help please!!!!
This is our conversation we had this morning.
She said to me. -> Even if they get my body 80%. It's still 80%, I can still not get children, will never be able to masturbate, my hands will always looks big, I will always have wide shoulders, a big face and never get my childhood back, my voice will always be ->-bleeped-<-ed, my vagina does not feel or lubricate right. Everything is a mess and I do not have the will to fight this any longer.
Please help me somebody. I love her with all my heart but I do not know how to help her.!!!!!!
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