If there was no transphobia anywhere worldwide, then would you prefer to be cisgender over being transgender if you could magically become cisgender?
Any thoughts on this?
Nope, I like being trans. If there was no transphobia then I would have had an easier time being open about it and getting on with my life would have happened sooner. Cis is not synonymous with easy life. Trans is a wonderful thing to be. If I were alone in the world I would still be a trans woman.
Transphobia or not I would rather have been born CIS, one way or the other.
I think I would have had a much easier life being cis. Growing up, I never know why I didn't fit in with the guys. My adult years were lonely because friendships were really hard. I didn't piece the puzzle together until I was 50. Had nothing to do with transphobia. My family would have been accepting and I would have embraced my gender. I was just too clueless to figure it out.
I wish I could have been a cis woman.
However, being a trans woman is infinitely preferable to being a cis man.
What the...
Dude I'm not trans, because I'm reacting to how other people see me. I'm trans because of how I see myself.
EDIT: Meh, I wont speak for anyone other than myself here.
cis all the way. i still dream about being pregnant and thats the only way i could be pregnant
Quote from: suzifrommd on December 02, 2015, 04:32:43 PM
I wish I could have been a cis woman.
However, being a trans woman is infinitely preferable to being a cis man.
Absolutely.
No I would still want to be as I am. Lack of transphobia would just make it easier.
I can't honestly say which I would want to be. Being cis would be great but I think being trans kept me out of a lot of bad situations. I think I might be a better person being trans than if i were cis. If I had been a cis woman I might have been the kind of teen who liked to party too much and I don't know where that would have lead.
Huh, this is actually an interesting question for me. I tried to pick a cisgender to be born into -- it'd be nice to fit in, right? I failed to pick one. I've been identifying, more or less, as bigender recently. I'd like to fit in with men and women... and I really can't decide which way I'd go. Makes sense, I guess. I wonder if this label will stick or if I'll have to learn a new one next month.
I would still be trans because that's who I am.
:) ;)
Well it would certainly make for an easier life, but an easy life didn't make me who I am...
I would absolutely choose the cis experience.
I would much rather be BORN cis, but since we didn't really specifically mention that I would say no. Besides, a lot of the time being trans seems a lot more fun than being cis in some ways (at least to me).
I have a feeling it wouldn't of mattered in my case. I would of been bullied either way. I just never fit in the social world. I would of liked to have kept holding my boyfriends hand when I was 6 and gone to the prom with him, but what you going to do.
Would prefer to be cis regardless. This stuff is expensive.
While there are definitely physical things that a cis male has that I want and currently have no way of obtaining, I'd probably say no. I am who I am, and there's nothing wrong with me.
yes, dilating sucks, so does eating pills everyday
I am what I am, I'm just changing the outside to match the inside.
If I could magically become a biological woman I would do it in a heartbeat, less than that I would do it in an attosecond. I'll just have to wait for rapid cloning and brain transplants.
I would not want to change what is inside to a cismale personality.
Quote from: Sarah82 on December 03, 2015, 07:28:57 AM
I am what I am, I'm just changing the outside to match the inside.
If I could magically become a biological woman I would do it in a heartbeat, less than that I would do it in an attosecond. I'll just have to wait for rapid cloning and brain transplants.
I would not want to change what is inside to a cismale personality.
Same here. Especially and
definitely not cismale -- I'd take an encounter with Cthulu over that. (Apologies to the T-men here.)
I don't really want to give up my history, though, but I would happily go for a less soul-destroying growing-up.
You mean would I chose to have more money, return of the feeling I lost in my face and downstairs, a body that more closely matches how I feel and the ability to have babies as well as much more support to raise them?
Yes.
Quote from: Futurist on December 02, 2015, 04:22:54 PM
If there was no transphobia anywhere worldwide, then would you prefer to be cisgender over being transgender if you could magically become cisgender?
Any thoughts on this?
Magically become a cisgender woman? In a heartbeat. A cisgender man? Not so much.
Quote from: Sarah82 on December 03, 2015, 07:28:57 AM
If I could magically become a biological woman I would do it in a heartbeat,
You can. It's called transition.
Much of my biology is female, and I was born a woman so I am a biological woman.
I assume you mean cisgender woman. Cisgender is an important word.
Quote from: Futurist on December 02, 2015, 04:22:54 PM
If there was no transphobia anywhere worldwide, then would you prefer to be cisgender over being transgender if you could magically become cisgender?
Any thoughts on this?
Male or female, transphobia or not, I'd rather be cisgender. To have always had a mind and body agreeing on what parts and chemistry I should have would be amazing. If the time since starting HRT is any indication of what a cis brain feels like, I feel like I have been robbed of something very precious my entire life; true harmony in existence.
Would things be easier without transphobia? Heck yeah. But I wouldn't wish my internal experience of life upon anybody.
I'm not worried about other people's phobias. I wouldn't trade my unicorn status for anything in the world. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on December 03, 2015, 09:59:59 AM
I'm not worried about other people's phobias. I wouldn't trade my unicorn status for anything in the world. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
I don't really think you have to worry about safety issues where you are. Elsewhere, it's different.
Two words: Rita Hester. Killed in Boston and the reason we have Transgender day of Remembrance. Nowhere is safe, but I won't live in fear. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
Absolutely not. I am who I am because I'm transgender. To take that away would make me into someone else.
hmm that is a tough question. i don't know. lol. i want to be trans because this is who i am. i've been fighting to get to where i am now. and i deserve it all the way.
but if it didn't make me feel like killing myself for half of the time and depressing the other half, of course i'd like to be cis. that doesn't mean it makes it any easier, but at least it would be in my end. it doesn't matter if the world is transphobia or not.
All other things being equal, there is no doubt in my mind that I'd rather have the XX chromosome set. I can't dwell on that though. It's a pointless exercise. My life is what it is. I've built it block by block and I have few regrets.
Cindi
Nope, I'd settle for billionaire though.
It depends, for me it isn't about cis or trans it's about the kind of woman I am. As long as I'm beautiful, motivated, successful, and happy then I don't mind which. Let's remember that just because you are cis doesn't mean you are all of those things I listed. I'm sure we can find pros and cons for both. I would love being cis because I won't have to worry about guys not accepting. I don't want kids so giving birth doesn't matter to me, I won't have to worry about getting knocked up lol.
It's always been a fantasy of mine to be XX, and not XY, because I am trans. Transphobia has nothing to do with it.
Though, if I could have chosen to be born cis, I would have done that. I would have also chosen to be born to a wealthy family and have a very well to-do life, (like be a rocket scientist AND a rockstar) and die in a pleasant way, and yet before then, I would have also cured cancer, mediated world peace, landed and pioneered space travel to distant systems, and be a world class chef--but that isn't how reality works.
So, I'll just choose to be the best me that I can be right now :)
<3
Audree
Quote from: audreelyn on December 03, 2015, 11:24:20 PM
It's always been a fantasy of mine to be XX, and not XY, because I am trans. Transphobia has nothing to do with it.
Though, if I could have chosen to be born cis, I would have done that. I would have also chosen to be born to a wealthy family and have a very well to-do life, (like be a rocket scientist AND a rockstar) and die in a pleasant way, and yet before then, I would have also cured cancer, mediated world peace, landed and pioneered space travel to distant systems, and be a world class chef--but that isn't how reality works.
So, I'll just choose to be the best me that I can be right now :)
<3
Audree
;) Yeah, I've always wanted to change the world after I changed myself. I feel that I've made some significant contributions. After transition, we get to try to live a "normal life," however we choose to do that.