Poll
Question:
1-10 impact on being trans ,
Option 1: 0-2 minimal
votes: 1
Option 2: 2-4 causing friction
votes: 2
Option 3: 4-6 quite noticable
votes: 2
Option 4: 6-8 destuctive
votes: 0
Option 5: 8-10 very destructive
votes: 1
I think for myself it was extremely destructive to all my relationships. I don't take full blame for my siblings. Mostly in acquaintances and possible partners. One of the reasons I ended in the psyche ward was a lifetime of not being able to get close to any one. I don't think it totally my fault , but it sure didn't help.
For me it is minimal at best as my transition and surgery was a long time ago. My parents have passed on......my sister and I have no relationship and the overwhelming majority of my friends and acquaintances, excluding those also trans, a few cis women and a handful of persons in my line work who knew me prior to transition, have any idea about my past. I am fortunate that three years after transition I moved. In the city I now reside I am just another woman going about her daily life.
Great question Stephanie!
In terms of friends and how I am treated socially, this is the scenario right now: I am in my early 20s, live in California, and without a doubt belong to an extremely open-minded and the most politically correct generation/age group that has ever existed.
For this reason, I feel the fact I am trans has caused people to walk on egg shells around me. It is difficult to find friends who won't treat me as anything other than a walking political and social experiment, if you get what I mean. You know how the majority of young people decades ago were transphobic and homophobic? Yeah, the complete opposite is true now, and most everyone is threading very lightly around me as a result.
In a post-Caitlyn Jenner society where trans is slowly but surely becoming the new "gay rights," my gender identity has superseded all other aspects of my identity. It seems people are only ever interested in talking or becoming friends with me because I am transgender, as they are "fascinated" they are getting to talk to a real, breathing, passing trans person. I have this label put on me and while every single person in my life has treated me extremely (and tbh overly) nice because I am trans, it is annoying at times knowing that is all people ever think of me.