My desire for love is going to nill, its because gay guys tend to be flaky and straight guys flake when I tell them I dont pass or crossdress. I am not looking to complete myself with a guy or get approval anymore that I am attractive. I am wasting A LOT of time... Better spent focus on my career.
Has anyone go into a suspended decade without love at all and just focus on your career?
I should be used to this, but I always had a partner, but I fear diseases and just think its safer to wait until I pass. It would be nice to say looks do not matter, but they do matters.
I do not want to date a guy out of desperation either or give sex freely anymore without a date (at a restaurant) Its risky and degrading for myself.
I want a man to ask me out as a normal woman, and not use the internet and hit the sack.
I haven't been in a (sexual) relationship for about 15 yrs. & most of those yrs. I was married. Did I miss it? Yes! But it wasn't worth the trouble to pursue an illicit affair. Having been in transition for just over a yr., it hasn't really been an issue lately thanks to the hormones and the experience of being true to myself for the 1st time in my life. Am I looking for a relationship? Not really right now. What I have learned is that seeking out a relationship is likely to yield disastrous results. If someone comes into my life and something happens, both of will know it. It'll just happen and will play itself out the way it's supposed to.
Hugz,
Joi
Dating and lasting intimate relationships are hard for anyone in this day and age... that's why there are so many companies making millions with dating services these days. Always take care of yourself first and foremost. All the rest comes in time.
I'm scared of being single. I'm also scared of going into a new relationship. What's a girl to do? I may just end up single and that's fine with me.
I've found dating to be extremely exhausting as a trans woman. Because of your trans status, the pool of potential dates goes WAY down. Even being pansexual myself, I feel like options are limited and online dating is very daunting.
It's bad enough online dating is already extremely dicey at best in terms of finding a good match, when you throw in the trans part, it makes it very difficult.
I sort of like the philosophy that Harley Quinn said. If you are looking to hard for it, it never happens. I really believe in this, because whenever I met people who were important to me, it was always by random chance, and never something I was seeking.
I've never looked for or gone out of my way to find relationships, but I've never gone short. They just found me. I don't date people, as such, I tend to get to know friends or coworkers very well before I will get involved with any of them (I'm picky and wary) but if it can happen to the likes of me I'm sure it can happen to anyone. I think it's best to just not seek and look and strive, but just focus on friendships and building them. That's how I met my partners. And they're all good people, present or ex I'm all on good terms with.
For me it was much a case of "don't look and you'll find." You'll naturally filter out all the jerks that way too. Maybe not as exciting as conventional dating, but I found good people.
Honestly I'm very young but at this point I don't really bother with relationships. I do however have a partner of sorts that helps me and I help him. Our relationship is emotionally monogamous but sexually we do and will pursue others. I've had a lot of experiences where relationships have forced me into a ultra feminine roll I don't want to play so I kinda have given up but also moved past relationships in the traditional sense. Although I will admit I do miss it occasionally because my pseudo relationship is not nearly the same.
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I've been single all my life and I'm quite tired of it. I don't mind being single, but I'd like to try out the out side of the coin.
I was married for 23 years before I really accepted that that life was over one way or another, when I first started going out after several years of figuring me out. mostly gay guys would want to be with me, then once I started hrt and transition then they dropped way out, I am now having a wonderful relationship with an old friend who she and I have known each other for several decades. I am only 1 month out of surgery so our activity is dropped to nothing until the swelling and discomfort pass but she has known me as a married male, a gay male and now a fully transitioning female, we just really enjoy our time together and it gives us both comfort. I guess for me I was happy alone more than being a victim of someones conquest and the rejection from straight guys really was a trigger, but it all worked out really well. i guess you never really never know what life will put us into