Wow 2015 flew by so fast,its been a little over a year since i finally accepted long repressed feelings and came out to a close friend as transgender,ive been seeing a therapist for a while now and decided to finally transition, i have my endocrinologist appointment the 1st of feb. Im still concerned if eventually ill be able to pass,ive reduced ,much of my facial hair to the point electrolysis shouldnt take too long,any feedback is welcome,the bottom photo was taken last march,the top a few months ago,amd the middle just today http://m.imgur.com/a/I3VkA
I see nothing in your face that would prevent you from passing, but then I've seen trans women who have lovely faces that don't seem to do all that well. From your voice to your walk, there are many factors that must click before you'll "pass." More than anything else, attitude and self confidence work. Yes, your beard right now is your worst enemy.
Cindi
I think anyone can pass with effort. It's up to you. Get rid of the facial hair, train your voice, grow your hair out and let HRT do its work. Passing should be within reach. It's hard to tell usually from pre everything pics as things change.
Quote from: iKate on January 02, 2016, 08:11:18 AM
I think anyone can pass with effort. It's up to you. Get rid of the facial hair, train your voice, grow your hair out and let HRT do its work. Passing should be within reach. It's hard to tell usually from pre everything pics as things change.
Hmm, now lets see..
Hair removal? Nope, hasn't happened.
Voice training? Oops.
Hair? Grew it out and then cut it short again..
HRT? Except for the mental health benefits, I may as well have not bothered.
Funny thing is, I pass most of the time.
I pass as myself to myself now, and that is what is most important to me. Everything else is just gravy.
If haters clock me, then by merely existing, I proudly serve as the middle finger they deserve. BTW- Thanks for empowering me to destroy what you hilariously describe as the "moral fabric of society" as well.
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Im not really sure if I would consider myself passable or not. One thing a can vouch for is Im happy regardless. Excited to have my first meeting with my gender therapist wed. stay beautiful Everyone!!!!! [emoji1] [emoji1] [emoji1] [emoji1] [emoji1]
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Still haven't gone out yet but I'm scared I'm 6'3 270 any advice?
Quote from: Daphnelove on January 03, 2016, 01:05:41 PM
Still haven't gone out yet but I'm scared I'm 6'3 270 any advice?
I was in your shoes about a week ago. im 6'2 240. I would suggest you get dressed up and go to an all gender friendly bar. there you will feel more comfortable around people in general.
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Thank you and congrats! There is a bar I could go to but not sure I'm quite ready yet. Baby steps
Hey All
The best part for me is when I look in the mirror I see a women and that is what I am.
Lyndsey
Thank you all for the posts,i forget that me being me is whats important ,i just get anxiety sometimes honestly,after repressing this for, most of my life everything is just happening so fast for me,i know i shouldnt worry about it yet really,thank you all
so many girls make the mistake of concentrating on the advantages of passing and don't concentrate on an even bigger advantage of transitioning - actually living as one's true self in one's own body instead of just in one's mind. i am learning how it is truly amazing.
Quote from: Jane Emily on January 04, 2016, 09:14:09 AM
so many girls make the mistake of concentrating on the advantages of passing and don't concentrate on an even bigger advantage of transitioning - actually living as one's true self in one's own body instead of just in one's mind. i am learning how it is truly amazing.
omg jane i fully understand what you mean. the first time i put on makeup and my wig i looked in the mirror and i instantly fell in love with myself. never felt that way looking at myself in the mirror as a guy. The beginning of 2016 was the first time i started being my true self. I've been hiding it all along and now when it gets to the point where you just don't care what people think about you is when you really truly find out who you are. It all happened so suddenly it's not like I have been secretly dressing up as a woman in my house and then going to transgender clubs or what not months. I had a strong urges couple months ago to start buying bras and panties after which am I would put on makeup. That was about it then December 31st I said the hell with it I went to a female friend that was comfortable with me dressing as a female she help me find clothes and shoes. I have went out at night a couple times as a woman but I was headed straight to a community that accepted me for who I was and that was the transgender club. After the first I decided to not care what people felt about me or how I looked. So I have my first true test yesterday I went out wearing my hair and makeup I had yoga pants one with flip flops my toenails painted and my painted. I got some odd looks from people but that didn't matter to me at the time because I was happy for who I was. But that was easy because I was with a female friend looking for female apparel. Last night was the biggest test of all I was alone by myself and I decided to go to the gas station I was dressed up as my true self and once I pulled in and parked I thought to myself oh s*** I'm a female it kind of had me worried because there were a lot of guys in the gas station at that time. I thought to myself can I really do this is this really who I want to be and who I want to be seen as and as I remember my new year's resolution they gave me the confidence to be my true self regardless of where I am after that I went into the gas station took my time getting my wine felt a couple of guys checking me out. I'm not sure if they knew I was I just try not to look in their direction as I went to the counter to check out the clerk asked me for my ID so I gave it to her and it was not the picture of a female that I am but she played it cool she still just continue with the transaction walking out of the gas station I feel so confident I actually accomplished a lot by staying true to myself and believing this is what's best for me.
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Quote from: crazycool86 on January 04, 2016, 11:26:23 AM
I actually accomplished a lot by staying true to myself and believing this is what's best for me.
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sorry i haven't checked back with this thread for awhile.
i get what you're saying. i went to walmart yesterday and i wasn't even in full cross dressing mode. just gender fluid. but it was enough apparently to get clocked really bad especially when i made the mistake of making eye contact with one young man accidentally. he looked daggers at me. it's called the stigma. it's his problem. i am following a psychologically healthy path and living my authentic personality. i've done nothing wrong that i need to feel ashamed about or apologize for. i'm just fighting for territory for my newly-accepted transgender identity to live in.