Hi! i'm Rory, i'm 19 years old and agender (they/them pronouns, please). I'm in college getting my AFA in visual arts, and then i plan to transfer and get my BFA in illustration, possibly with architecture as a second major.
I only recently truly accepted my gender, but i've been in serious conflict about it for five years now. Looking back, I can see that dysphoria has had a huge impact on me for my entire life, especially once I hit puberty. I first came across the concept of transgender people when I was 13, and it instantly resonated with me, but i wasn't sure how. Looking more into nonbinary genders when I was 14 solidified this connection, and i think i knew deep down that i was agender from the moment i learned about what it was, but i struggled a lot with the concept of living as a nonbinary person in a society based on the gender binary. I went in and out of deep denial for years. The dysphoria and general dissonance of hiding who i am always catches up with me eventually, and i end up back here, wanting to transition but worried that it will be too hard. After going through the process of trying to find another option and seeing none, I feel like it's time to be honest with myself and work towards a happier me :)
I'm not out at all yet, but i'm thinking about telling my girlfriend. She's a very accepting person, and i trust her more than anyone so it seems like a good place to start.
anyway! I'm looking forward to meeting new people and getting involved in this community! :D
Welcome to Susan's Place. You have come to a good place to explore yourself and while the non binary isn't as active as some of the other areas, there is still a large amount of information to draw upon. If the question is general in nature, other areas will get you a quick response. If there is anything I can help you with, let me know.
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Hi Rory :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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