This isn't specifically trans related but I felt it was relative to our experiences and struggles, and provided some positive insight...
8 Toxic Beliefs Most People Think Are Normal (http://www.marcandangel.com/2015/01/21/8-toxic-beliefs-most-people-think-are-normal/)
http://www.marcandangel.com/2015/01/21/8-toxic-beliefs-most-people-think-are-normal/
by Marc Chernoff/ via HackLife http://www.marcandangel.com/
When I was in my late teens and early twenties, I had tunnel vision and expected life to be a certain way. I studied my failures until I lost sight of my successes. I surrendered my dreams to feel a sense of comfort. I held tight to my fears and shielded myself from love and happiness by refusing to put myself out there. And as I did all of this, I sat back and wondered why life was so miserable. Obviously, I was very lost. My own toxic beliefs and ensuing behaviors had gotten the best of me.
I like these a lot. Thanks Grace.
What a brilliant article. It's one of those that seems so obvious but actually so brilliant. This should be handed out in high schools
I feel a lot of people are drowning in self inflicted misery, it's bad enough we have to deal with the prejudice of others without also doing things to ourselves that compound our distress.
Quote from: Ms Grace on January 03, 2016, 03:45:39 PM
I feel a lot of people are drowning in self inflicted misery, it's bad enough we have to deal with the prejudice of others without also doing things to ourselves that compound our distress.
Thanks for that. I just read the article on marcandangel you cited and found it quite helpful. I'm trying to take it heart and feel more free to be myself and not let others control my life.
Number 7. I think that one is a good one to think about as a trans person. Many people are afraid of being clocked, looked at funny, looked at with disapproval, having people question them about their trans status... and I know some trans folks who get a funny look from someone in a store or something and go home and worry about it all day and night.
Realized number 7 is the key to feeling much better about that. Those people - they're gonna spend like a few seconds to a few minutes maybe thinking about you, and then they're going to forget about it. They might even talk about it when they get home because wow, trans people. But they'll still forget about it and in the grand scheme of things it means very, very little. So why worry all day about something someone is going to think about for a passing moment and means almost nothing to them. They don't care, why should you?
2 and 5 resonate with me – especially for where I am at the moment.
Great article - I think it will help me to come back and re-read it every so often