One problem Ive been running into a lot is that I know I feel more like a guy, and have already started transitioning a bit but the thing is I feel like a want to be well, kinda a pretty boy for lack of a better word. It makes it really hard to pass and stuff but I just don't feel comfortable having super short hair, taking out my piercings, etc, even though I identify more as a male. Its very confusing and I feel like there isn't a super large group of people out there that feel the same way so when i try to explain it I've even had people shut me down and tell me I just shouldn't bother transitioning if i feel comfortable with a fairly feminine appearance, despite the fact that i get incredibly dysphoric and anxious and just plain uncomfortable when i have to be a female around family etc.
anyone else have this problem or any advice? Maybe some people have the same issue but with transitioning mtf? I'm feeling a bit ostracized and very down so any help would be greatly appreciated.
Just be what you wanna be. If you feel like a feminine man or boy, don't let anyone else tell you you can't be.
Personally I prefer the androgynous/boyish look to the beefcake. I certainly won't be aspiring to be Arnold Schwarzenegger when I transition.
Same here and there doesn't seem to be many of us (or maybe people are afraid to admit it). I kind of want to look masculine but still have the option to be feminine when I want too. I'm already growing out my fringe (I have an undercut) and have just bit the bullet and bought some womens clothes. And would like to get both ear lobes pierced so that I have the option of putting in two earrings when I feel like I need to be fem or just one when I feel like I need to be masculine.
But I'm still glad I'm on T because I feel dysphoric seeing my body as female and other people misgendering me by referring to me as female.
I think I'll always be seen as an outcast for being like this but I spent too many years caring what other people thought. I need to do what I need to do to be happy.
I'm going through something similar. I don't like to do super feminine things, like makeup and hair and fashion.
Fortunately, just like cis people, we're allowed to be whatever kind of male/female we are.
I've sort of started to look at myself as butch in a lot of ways. I still like dressing up sometimes, doing my nails, makeup etc but I still like working with my hands, watching football and so on. And if I ever choose to transition or present as female at all I don't think I'll ever be a skirt/ dress or traditional "cute" girl (for lack of better wording) but I'll still be a lot more androgynous, wearing a mix of my favorite t-shirts etc just with more feminine elements like painted nails etc, which I'm still too anxious to do in public as of right now. To paraphrase my favorite trans woman Laura Jane Grace; I'll have (and kind of already do have) a don't ->-bleeped-<- with me and I won't ->-bleeped-<- with you style and attitude. I guess my point is like others have said on this thread, just be you, do what makes you happy. People are going to talk crap and judge no matter what you do, so just be true to yourself.
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I would be super girly if it weren't the fact I'm totally country, don't mind getting my hands dirty, and throw trees around.
Kate <3
I identify as a trans tomboy. I was amab but I don't wear makeup or pluck my eyebrows and wear masculine leaning women's clothes. Heck, since Hrt has changed the texture/pattern of my arm hair I have been growing it back out. Haven't shaved my legs in months. I love my hairy arms and my hairy feet too! There are elements of feminine expression that I love but there are masculine things I like too. I think I saw someone say this up thread but one of the great things, especially if you are trans, is that there are no rules. My transition is all about relieving my dysphoria. I do not care about gender rules and standards.