When you dream about yourself are you male or female? Most of the time when I remember myself in a dream, I am already female. The other times when I am male if there are sex relations involved she has the penis. Am I the only one here that does this or is this common to many of us?
Normally I don't remember much of my dreams. It's funny, Monday night I woke up sometime during the night really upset because I dreamed I broke a nail. Then Tuesday night I had an unpleasant "male" dream.
I rarely dream, but since I've been coming to terms with being trans I've definitely dreamt more. I often either don't remember them, or only remember specific parts. The funny thing is I usually don't see myself as male nor female in my dreams, I'm just me. I did have one dream recently where I wore some of my feminine clothes to an old job and everyone treated me the same. I don't fully know what it meant, but when I woke up and remembered it I found some comfort in that.
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Good question and it was one of the questions that helped me transition, I would always envision myself as a women not with breasts but in women clothing or somewhat androgynous with long hair and my usual "female" mannerism
I don't remember my dreams very often but several times recently i have woken up from a dream and remembered, in those cases i had very girly dreams and i felt very happy.
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Always female. Sometimes before I started transition too.
I almost never remember my dreams for more than a second or two. I don't remember having had a specific gender in my dreams.
Same for me. I almost never remember my dreams, and when I do I rarely have a gender.
When I dream, I often experience life as my post-transitioned self, rather than who I am today. Some days I roll over for an extra few minutes to experience a little bit more of that bliss. It's the greatest kind of dream.
I dream regularly about just normal day activities but in each one I am a woman. When I wake up I'm depressed all day. Since I came to accept myself all my dreams are either androgenous or I'm a woman.
I don't often recall my dreams either, but i am generally just me. Hmmmm...what does that mean? ???
I still mostly have dreams were I'm a boy, but when I am female it's totally awesome! I did notice that right before I go to sleep, I always re-imagine my whole day as getting to be the opposite gender.
Strange...I thought I had posted a reply, but I'm not seeing it. I hope I don't end up double posting.
Most of the dreams that I remember, I'm not really any specific gender, or that's not the aspect of the dream that stays with me, but I have been having a recurring dream where I'm post-transition, and with old friends I played music with, who knew me as male. In the dream, we're trying to put old bands back together or start new musical projects, and while my presentation as female isn't an issue to anyone at all, everyone in the dream does have a real problem with the tone of my bass and the style of my playing, both of which are really the same as they ever were in the past, in real life. They keep asking me to turn/tone it down, because it doesn't really fit with the music anymore.
There's probably some fairly rich stuff to mine there with my therapist, but I haven't brought it up to her yet.
I am always female in my dreams but, like in last nights dream, I offered someone a pad and I got questioning looks ect. So my being trans still is part of my dreams.
Oh the stuff of dreams. I worried myself a bit when first transitioning and still experiencing dreams as a male. I had some of those "maybe I'm not trans enough" doubts. I now consider that I had become rather expert at denial and repression after 60 years. Allowing myself to let go of the man act was such a profound relief and let me know how unconsciously hard i had worked to hide the truth, even from myself.
Eventually my dreams became like the rest of me, more consistent and congruent with my true gender identity. The flip side is now I have the occasional nightmare and daytime fear of slipping back because i ran out of meds or something nightmarish beyond my control. Time for an orchi!!! ;D
Dream on ;D
Hi:
Great question!
I often dream as me, Rachel, though sometimes as a male but often not as my old self. I also dream as a nondescript observer.
One of my transition markers was to note when I dreamed as Rachel as if Rachel has always been, i.e. Rachel had always been me. That occurred a few months after SRS and it's my typical dream state now.
TTFN,
Rachel
I dream of myself having my current, in early transit body. In the dreams I think of and treat it like a female body, despite appearances to the contrary.
Also sometimes I'm a tiger.
Let me preface this by saying that I dream and can remember my dreams every. single. night.
I dream in both genders and it sucks.
What's kinda interesting is that when I dream about stuff like high-school, being around old friends and such, I'm generally on the masculine side of identity. When dreams contain recent stuff and/or people/places/things that are fresh (i.e. don't exist), I'm on the feminine side of identity.
So what's going on I think is that when my dreams are based more on memory vs. creativity, my brain defaults to what is predominant and "normal", and after 35 years of living as a dudeguyman, it's still my brain's cruise-control setting for experiences that are older, more distant memories; I assume this makes more sense to my brain to piece together a logical story/flow to the dreams... to mirror a real-life experience.
...and no, I don't like dreaming as a dudeguyman :embarrassed: Brain, I am disappoint. >:(
In the majority of my dreams I don't have a gender, I am just "me." In some, I am not a first person participant, but a detached observer. But recently I had one so vivid I thought it was real life. In fact, within that dream I pinched myself twice to see if I was dreaming. In that dream, my father, who had a stroke six years ago, was still healthy, and denying that he ever had a stroke. I had long hair and an androgynous body, somewhat feminine, but without visible breasts, and I was dressed in female clothing with a bare midriff.