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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: TechGirl on January 07, 2016, 08:43:29 PM

Title: Talked to my neighbor
Post by: TechGirl on January 07, 2016, 08:43:29 PM
Ok,

I have finally accepted that I am transgendered.

And since I dress sometimes (neck down w/forms) and grill on my patio, I've been growing concerned that my neighbor just might notice something, especially since our backyards are catty-corner to each other and we see each other sometimes when out on our patios.

So I decided to take my son and talk to the wife over there (she likes to visit the baby).  This is the first person other than my S.O. that I decided to talk to (did go in drab).

I will admit I was very nervous.

But for no reason.

Of course she understood!

What a relief.  Just like many have said around this forum, most people don't really care.  Now my neighbor knows.  And she doesn't expect any issues from her husband or kids, so I don't have to hide when trying to run the grill :-)
Title: Re: Talked to my neighbor
Post by: Jill F on January 07, 2016, 09:08:30 PM
Why am I picturing the scene from Mrs. Doubtfire right now?

Anyway, so glad it worked out for you.

After not speaking with one of my neighbors for years, he came to the door looking to borrow a tool.

Neighbor: "Hi, I don't think we've met yet.  I'm J. from next door.   Is your husband at home?  I'd like to borrow the blower for a few minutes."
Me: "I don't have a husband..." *giggle*
Neighbor: "Is Greg here?"
Me: "Greg isn't around anymore."
Neighbor: "He died?"
Me: "No, I'm Jill now."
Neighbor: *jaw drop*, I'm outta here!"

My other neighbor drunkenly kissed me, but that's a story for another day.
Title: Re: Talked to my neighbor
Post by: TG CLare on January 08, 2016, 02:46:34 PM
That's funny Jill. I have a brand new neighbour and they have yet to meet Clare. Wonder how that's going to go?

I've also been kissed by someone who didn't know I was tarns. That was an awkward moment for sure as I wasn't remotely expecting it. He didn't know so it was a surprise to him too. Kind of strained our relationship after that.

Love,
Clare
Title: Re: Talked to my neighbor
Post by: TechGirl on January 10, 2016, 05:20:17 PM
Ok,

Update time here.  Took the neighbor thing to the next level, and this time with my wife.

Just had dinner over their house, dressed neck down tucked with forms. Both ok with me,  kids didn't ask anything,  mom-in-law no comments,  all a ok.

Feels so liberating!