Hi all
In some ways, I've always hated the way I looked and felt. Until about 8 years ago when I was told that the male reproductive parts that I have didn't work properly and the idea of having a family should be forgotten about.
I think to most men, this would have been devastating, but to me it felt like a high weight had been lifted from me!
At this point I decided that I wasn't happy with how I looked, the though of being covered with hair was totally foreign to me and it had to go. I started 2 years ago having laser hair removal, at this point I have very little body hair to contend with, I've just ordered an epilator to try and get rid of the last few annoying bits.
This until recently felt like I was getting somewhere, but the thought of having male parts is now starting to depress me, I heard so much recently about grs but I don't know if it's for me, after all, I'm slim, 41 and 6'5" tall and I have reservation of how people would react.
I'm not sure what to do next or who to ask for help. I've considered going to my doctors, but do I ask to see any dr, will they see me as, I do know....... I'm sure quite a few people have had these thought, so I thought it best to search you out and try and find some information without embarrassing myself Can you help
Welcome to Susan's Place. I can hep you so post any questions you might have on this thread where I will see them. I am 6'2" at 170 pounds and had surgery in 1982. I have been accepted as a woman and I think if I can do it, you can do it. Most of the time, a year of hormones and a year of cross living are required before reassignment surgery in order to ensure you will be comfortable in your new life. We can help you with any information you may require and if I don't know something, somebody else will step in with a reply. Hair removal is a good start but you need to find a gender therapist with the goal of starting hormones and documenting your transition for the surgeon. When you are ready, you will move into the feminine role and start your year of cross living.
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You say you are 41, 6'5" and slim. I knew someone a few years ago who was around 6'7", slim and 44 when she started transition. If you saw her after two years of hormone therapy and didn't know her, about all you would think is she must play for someone in the WNBA. Like Dena said, first step is to find a gender knowledgeable therapist.
You're in the right place :). Ask anything.
I'm 39 and had the same feeling about hair and am very glad for it to be gone, but after hair for me I also then found I needed to go another step, then another. I feel like if I don't keep moving forward I start to get very angry, anxious, and depressed. I've found it very helpful to have a plan on paper of what path I want to take.
If you're not comfortable asking some things in the open please feel free to PM me or others here.
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Sami
I am 6'3" and 53 years old. I started HRT 2 years and 8 months ago. I have a little over 2 months RLE and scheduled my GCS the day after going full time. I need some work face, voice and hair work and all in time. I am fully accepted at work.
I hear at work from both males and females how woman pay a lot of money to get the curls I have naturally :) . I can not wait to get some correction to my hair to be fully comfortable with my hair. I have to wear a bra at work and the gym. The thought use to scare me but now it is just the way it is.
I have been going to a gender therapist for 3 years and group 2 years. I am doing things I though I could never do and doing it without a thought now.
One day at a time. Do not plan years ahead, just one thing at a time. Have fun and breath.
Quote from: Spookie on January 22, 2016, 05:28:56 PM
I'm not sure what to do next or who to ask for help. I've considered going to my doctors, but do I ask to see any dr, will they see me as, I do know....... I'm sure quite a few people have had these thought, so I thought it best to search you out and try and find some information without embarrassing myself
Hi, Spookie! I agree with the folks who answered above. The primary question you're working with right now is about your gender identity and which direction (if any) you want to go with it. That's not really a medical question, though there may be medical questions later along the way if you decide to move forward along a transition path. For this reason, it seems like the best person to talk to initially is a therapist who has experience with gender identity issues rather than a doctor.
If you don't have a therapist in mind, a good starting point is to contact a local LGBT organization or center (there's one in just about every area these days) and ask if they can recommend some experienced gender therapists.
And by the way, don't worry about "embarrassing yourself." Experienced therapists have heard it all. Remember, the therapist works for you. And by the ethics of her/his profession, she/he is obligated to keep your secrets and to act in your best interests.
At least you are thin. I'm the same height, not long legged and not thin. It makes finding clothes difficult and I don't even consider the idea of passing/stealth. Just do the best you can, love yourself and live as you please.
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Thanks everyone. Your response has been extremely helpful. I think my first move should be to find a local gender therapist. I'm in the uk though and it's not easy to work your way through things here, most things have to go via a GP unless you have bottomless pockets
I think my first port of call should be to contact my local LGBT group
And by the way people wearn't kidding when they said epilator get would hurt but that's the least of my problems.
Thanks ladies
good luck
Quote from: Spookie on January 23, 2016, 03:16:53 PM
Thanks everyone. Your response has been extremely helpful. I think my first move should be to find a local gender therapist. I'm in the uk though and it's not easy to work your way through things here, most things have to go via a GP unless you have bottomless pockets
I go to a medical clinic with about 15 doctors. There was just one who stood out to me as the one I wanted to talk to, so I went to see him, and he's been fantastic. Very caring, attentive, and very skilled. He doesn't have much experience with transgender issues but when I came back for my second appointment he had obviously been researching and that's when I knew I was in the right place.
My GP has been so helpful in helping me coordinate therapists and other specialists. When therapists have been difficult to contact, he's contacted them at a professional level and got answers for me. I know some manage to do this without a GP, however having the right person in this position has been so much help coordinating things and having someone medical to talk to when I'm sort of in between other appointments.
xx
Sami