hello all, i just wanted to know if any of you have had an experience similar to mine
before i knew i was transgender i was still wearing makeup and feminine clothes, the idea of me being trans had never even crossed my mind and i just thought i was a feminine gay person? i have since learned that this is not the case, after i came out and started my transition i started to realize that my dysphoria was tricking me into thinking i wasn't interested in other women
so i was just curious to see if anyone had an experience like this or if i was just making it all up?!?!
From what I've seen it's a fairly common occurrence - society often wants us to think we're gay because it seems more obvious and comfortable for them. There are also gay men who're pressured into feeling like they're trans P: I've also heard that sometimes later in transition people become more fluid in their sexuality because they're less dysphoric and insecure.
Personally, I identify as bi, but I was attracted to girls before I was attracted to other men and identified briefly as lesbian. I just didn't want to be with a girl as a girl - that's one of the things that helped me realise that I'm trans. Now I actually much prefer men, but that could be dysphoria + because I've been in a relationship with a man for so long.
I think it's pretty common. All through high school and college, everyone thought I was gay. Internally, I knew it was more than that. But externally, what people saw was a thin, slightly swishy boy who sometimes wore makeup and women's clothing and had sex with guys. They didn't know that inside I was a woman struggling to emerge.
My grandma for the longest time (privately) thought I was gay just because I hung out with girls all the time as a child, teen, and up until now. It's just part of the societal norms that someone who acts too femme, or even hangs around girls (a male who does these things) is just gay, which is many times not true at all. It just happens that I AM trans and gay but that wasn't what she was talking about.
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I never thought of myself as gay. I did not have the attraction to males. However, like many of the other posts, I was drawn to more effeminate styles. Many family, friends and of course those around me thought I was gay.
Not until I have embraced the idea of being a trans woman have I thought I could be aroused by a male. However, all the other tendencies sort of make sense now.
So, long story short. I don't think it is about making up anything.
Joanna