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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: cymoril on February 15, 2016, 07:40:15 PM

Title: friends
Post by: cymoril on February 15, 2016, 07:40:15 PM
No matter what I do-- whether online or in person--  I feel forgotten.
Title: Re: friends
Post by: Devlyn on February 15, 2016, 07:51:04 PM
You gotta make a big splash to be remembered!  :)

Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: friends
Post by: Mariah on February 15, 2016, 08:08:48 PM
Sorry to hear that Cymoril. I hope things turn around that people start to show they remember you. Hugs
Mariah
Title: Re: friends
Post by: abd789 on February 16, 2016, 04:32:30 AM
I know how you feel....

Im the one that texts, chats, etc.. to make sure Im in their thoughts... yet they never go first and rarely even respond

and as far as making a big splash.... well, many of them dont like that either, some even telling me to chill out

I think alot of it is in our heads and the way we view the world, unfortunately it still hurts
Title: Re: friends
Post by: Harley Quinn on February 17, 2016, 09:40:09 AM
There's no real secret to making friends, it will just happen. Some will be close friends, some more of acquaintances. The more you are out there in the world, the higher your chances of meeting good people who may in fact become a friend. Bars and the Internet are notoriously the worst places to meet new friends. I haven't met too many honest people who actually want to be seen outside of social media. The current trend is for people to get a bazillion people to click like for an ego boost then go about their daily lives. Have no fear, you'll meet real people when you least expect it.
Title: Re: friends
Post by: stephaniec on February 17, 2016, 12:57:08 PM
I just deal with it, I've been alone all my life and I've tried my best as far as I know to change that , but it hasn't happened so I find peace within and move on.
Title: Re: friends
Post by: cymoril on February 18, 2016, 07:40:54 PM
Thanks y'all for all the great words.  But I'm starting to figure out more about myself.  I think what's happened is that I've expected too from the girls I've met.  Most of them have transitioned a long time ago, while I've been living as a woman for less than two years.  I am also shy.  Plus I am in a wheelchair and I've found a lot of people have pretty negative opinion about us.  And then I'm an agnostic- atheist.  So, I got a few dark spots on my resume, but I know I'm a good person.  Presently, I am back in school aiming to get an associate's degree in LGBTQQI studies at San Francisco Community College and parlay that into a BS in sociology with a minor in LGBT studies.  So I really want to help our community.  Anyway, if there's anyone from the Bay Area and I haven't put them off, please think about PMing me.  I hope I haven't broken any rule.  I'm really glad this site is here, and I ask questions or post something and be respected as long as I am respectful of everyone.  Thanks much.  Much love, Steph
Title: Re: friends
Post by: stephaniec on February 18, 2016, 07:54:37 PM
just the fact your taking classes is a great opportunity to make friends. I live across the street from a University and even though I don't take classes , I've met a lot of people . It's the college atmosphere