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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Wild Flower on February 18, 2016, 08:12:00 PM

Title: I will have my first date.
Post by: Wild Flower on February 18, 2016, 08:12:00 PM
I honestly did not expect a guy to ask me for dinner and movies for a Monday night (popcorn too), but a guy I met last weekend bought me 3-Bloody Marys ask me out.  We spent the whole night together (no sex). Hes not rich. Hes a bartender, but he makes great money and is a science fiction nerd. We have general interests.

Im not going to keep my hopes up, but this being my first date, would you consider him wanting a relationship with me serious??? Other guys talk bull, but hes serious.
Title: Re: I will have my first date.
Post by: stephaniec on February 18, 2016, 08:20:08 PM
congratulations
Title: Re: I will have my first date.
Post by: Mariah on February 18, 2016, 10:53:18 PM
Sounds like a relationship with him has potential. I wouldn't consider it serious until after a few dates. Hugs
Mariah
Title: Re: I will have my first date.
Post by: Harley Quinn on February 19, 2016, 11:02:35 AM
The trick is to take it one step at a time. But it sounds like a good start! Congratulations!
Title: Re: I will have my first date.
Post by: Angélique LaCava on February 20, 2016, 08:18:49 AM
Bartenders are whores so i would say no.
Title: Re: I will have my first date.
Post by: teri on February 20, 2016, 08:22:42 AM
what is it really like to date a guy?  is dating as a woman so much different than dating as a boy?
Title: Re: I will have my first date.
Post by: Wild Flower on February 26, 2016, 12:43:36 PM
It was a nice date and all, but true love will not be found here. I saw the ending when I realize he is most likely just wants a friend with benefits as far as with me. (we didnt have sex)

I sent him a text and he ignore it. Its been 3 or 4 days. He probably thinks Im boring.

I shouldnt have high expectations. But it was worth the thrill of being on a legit date.
Title: Re: I will have my first date.
Post by: stephaniec on February 26, 2016, 01:01:20 PM
its progress
Title: Re: I will have my first date.
Post by: itsApril on February 26, 2016, 01:12:03 PM
Quote from: Wild Flower on February 26, 2016, 12:43:36 PM
I shouldnt have high expectations. But it was worth the thrill of being on a legit date.

Cis women go through this all the time.  It's no surprise that trans people do, too.  You deserve a lot of credit for putting yourself out there and giving it a try.  Don't be discouraged!  You never know how the next person might turn out!
Title: Re: I will have my first date.
Post by: Adchop on February 26, 2016, 01:19:07 PM
Quote from: itsApril on February 26, 2016, 01:12:03 PM
Cis women go through this all the time.  It's no surprise that trans people do, too.  You deserve a lot of credit for putting yourself out there and giving it a try.  Don't be discouraged!  You never know how the next person might turn out!

Very true statement. Cis & TG women are no different in terms of the same issues when it comes to dating men. Testosterone turns men into "a dog in heat".

I think on some level the good and bad guys are the same. They all want sex & want into your pants, it's just that some men actually want the loving relationship that goes with it, while others just want a quick fix like a drug addict. You just have to take the time to sort through each person to find out which category they fall into.
Title: Re: I will have my first date.
Post by: Ashey on February 26, 2016, 04:16:14 PM
Quote from: itsApril on February 26, 2016, 01:12:03 PM
Cis women go through this all the time.  It's no surprise that trans people do, too.  You deserve a lot of credit for putting yourself out there and giving it a try.  Don't be discouraged!  You never know how the next person might turn out!

This. We can't expect dating to be any better than it would be for a cis woman, lol. There's a lot of bull->-bleeped-<- to go through with guys. I went on a date last month, and things were great. Suddenly he stopped talking to me, for no reason. Ladybruhs, keep in mind... men are frustrating!
Title: Re: I will have my first date.
Post by: Dankster on February 27, 2016, 12:42:21 AM
Quote from: Angélique LaCava on February 20, 2016, 08:18:49 AM
Bartenders are whores so i would say no.

This. Worked in a big hotel with a few bars. Got to know and party with the bartenders. They really are whores. Just keep that in mind. Also, congratulations!