Hey everyone,
I'm 16 from Aussie and I recently stopped kidding myself and let myself accept that I am a trans male. I was just hoping if anyone has any tips for someone who has just realised and wants to learn more. I've only told my best friend so far so any tips on coming out would be good too.
Thank you :)
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Like Dena said, there are lots of good resources here on the forums and the Wiki. YouTube has a lot of great channels by transmen that I enjoy. I also like Hudson's FTM Resources.
Hi and welcome to Susan's. I have always tried to use evidence from my past to show them and also anything you can share that helps explain things better couldn't hurt. Otherwise just tell them like it is and why. I look forward to seeing you around the forums. Good luck and Hugs
Mariah
I hope to find a good gender therapist soon but I haven't even told my parents so it may be a while. Thank you so much everyone for your messages :)
Good luck with telling your parents. Also FtM from Australia here. I'm 17 and I came out to my parents around last September and will be going on T in April already. Would've actually been sooner but I have to be 18. If you live in Sydney I can help you out with where to go. :)
You can just tell your parents you're questioning your gender and ask to go to a gender therapist (even though you're fairly certain you're male) then have the therapist confirm it to your parents. Or just tell them straight up that you don't feel like a girl, and you feel male. You don't really have to say the exact term 'transgender' to them, I didn't. I just told my parents I don't feel like a girl and I never have. They were really confused at first as they weren't educated on the topic and they thought my therapy was going to convince me I am a girl. But, after they educated themselves they were very accepting.
I've only told one person and that's because he told me a huge secret about his life. So we had this trust in ourselves. I have others I could tell that I do deeply trust (one that I just know won't judge me because she has a ftm friend already) I don't want to tell anyone else until I speak with a specialist about who I really am. You say you know you are trans (I still have doubts about myself) but talking to a therapist will help you further understand yourself so that you know how to let other people in your life know who you truly are
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