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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Angélique LaCava on February 25, 2016, 09:18:11 AM

Title: I broke up with him.
Post by: Angélique LaCava on February 25, 2016, 09:18:11 AM
I realized this morning that he is a total jerk. He lied to me about how many transgenders he's been with, he said 1 wen we met and then last night he told me he's been with like 13. He said "the reason I didn't tell you the truth about how many I've been with was because I knew you wouldn't want to talk to me anymore.". This morning I told him "I wished you hadn't told me cause I'd rather have not known because now I'm having mixed emotions about you" and he said "good then. Now leave me alone" so I broke up with him.
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Post by: Denise on February 25, 2016, 09:22:48 AM
You are way better off!  Good riddens.
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Post by: stephaniec on February 25, 2016, 10:54:12 AM
better now then when a lot more was invested
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Post by: CalmRage on February 25, 2016, 01:12:59 PM
good choice. from what you posted, he sounds like a complete, t-word-chasing, manipulative, potentially dangerous scumbag. now it's best to keep well away from him the way it sounds.

oh, and he's out there, don't worry,

you are young and there's time.
Title: Re: I broke up with him.
Post by: amberwaves on February 25, 2016, 01:17:58 PM
I agree that you are better off with out him.  He sounded like a ->-bleeped-<- and a manipulative d-bag.  He has already shown that he will lie and prey upon your insecurities. 
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Post by: itsApril on February 25, 2016, 02:00:45 PM
The right thing to do.  If a boyfriend isn't your friend, he isn't your boyfriend.
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Post by: Emjay on February 25, 2016, 02:07:09 PM
I think you're way better off without him, he sounded like a total jackass.  I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
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Post by: KyleeKrow on February 25, 2016, 02:55:20 PM
Yay! :D You deserve better than that!
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Post by: Kitty June on February 25, 2016, 02:59:56 PM
I'm happy to see that you finally decided to dump him. You should always listen to your instincts.
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Stevie

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Title: Re: I broke up with him.
Post by: Laura_7 on February 25, 2016, 05:56:21 PM
*hugs*

Well I'd say be a bit sad for a day or two ... try to process and then forget ...
and move on ...

try to have some self confidence, you look really nice in your avatar pic ...
I'd say simply be yourself, and look for some decent people...
people who are nice and treat others well...
and where you have a good feeling and a feeling you can sometimes lean on them and they will hold you...


*hugs*
Title: Re: I broke up with him.
Post by: OCAnne on February 25, 2016, 06:51:26 PM
Can I have his number?   Just kidding.  :P

True TransAmorous guys can be hard to find.

EOM
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Post by: Colleen M on February 25, 2016, 06:57:02 PM
Good for you!  You deserve better.  You can settle for somebody who forgets to load the dishwasher, but never, ever settle for somebody who doesn't respect you and everything that makes you unique and wonderful. 
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Post by: pink_cotton on February 25, 2016, 07:14:23 PM
You're better off without him. ->-bleeped-<-s are the worst.
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Post by: Wednesday on February 25, 2016, 08:20:39 PM
I think you made the best choice here. The guy raised a bunch of red flags.

Anyway I think you should avoid comparing yourself to other ts girls. Imagine you were born cis, would you be expecting to find a guy who never dated another cisgirl? If you think of it that way, it would be pointless (and maybe not a good idea after all).

Also keep in mind, just for probabilty reasons, if you're not the first tgirl a guy is more or seriously dating... that means this guy may take tgirls for serious and not just as a curiosity or a sexual interest.
Title: Re: I broke up with him.
Post by: Ms DeeDee on February 25, 2016, 10:10:27 PM
I'm so sorry you had to deal with this and I'm happy for you that it's over.  You're a beautiful girl Angélique, take care of yourself.

Hugs,
DeeDee
Title: I broke up with him.
Post by: Steph7 on February 26, 2016, 01:48:21 AM
Sorry to hear - but given what you have told us it was the right decision.

Breakups are always bad - especially if you love the idea of the perfect relationship. Often I find I fall in love with the idea of the relationship and then get disappointed when it isn't what I hoped for.

There will be the right someone out there for you -  but it might get take a few goes to find them.

Take care
Cass
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Post by: starting_anew on February 26, 2016, 09:03:50 AM
Sorry to hear this Angelique.  I agree with the rest though that he sounded like not a very nice person.  You deserve somebody who will you respect you and treat you well.

I also agree with Wednesday that for a man to have been with trans girls isn't *necessarily* terrible in and of itself.  It just depends on whether they can respect you for who you are.  If the guy is respectful, his trans dating experience can actually be an asset - you have way less to explain and/or educate them on.

My bf's only dated cis women in the past, but he acknowledges he's always been attracted to trans women as well.  He's asked me tons of (appropriate) questions and has done a lot of his own reading on things like language use, etc, but I feel like if he hadn't been that dedicated to learning, things wouldn't have been smooth sailing for us given his lack of trans dating experience. 
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