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Title: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: lonewolfcorey5 on February 26, 2016, 05:01:47 PM
Hey guys im looking for any advice I can get. I'm not looking for a relationship or anything serious but want to be prepared I just turned 21. I have an emisl prosthetic but could use tips on how to stay stealth with that and if anyone has had experiences with it being stealth and how well it works in a harness or adhesive. Thanks in advanced.
Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: Ms Grace on February 26, 2016, 06:09:08 PM
Be very careful about becoming intimate with someone and not revealing your status. They may react quite badly if they find out.
Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: Matthew on February 26, 2016, 06:37:35 PM
I'll second this. While prosthetics / packers are good, I wouldn't rely on them feeling like the real thing to someone who doesn't know.
Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: Tysilio on February 26, 2016, 06:43:01 PM
Quote from: Ms GraceBe very careful about becoming intimate with someone and not revealing your status. They may react quite badly if they find out.

And with some justification, IMO. I think there are some real ethical problems with this, as deception and as a betrayal of trust.
Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: FTMax on February 26, 2016, 07:36:07 PM
Relationship or one-time deal, I think it is incredibly immoral to deceive someone you're being intimate with.
Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: Mariah on February 26, 2016, 09:39:37 PM
Coming into transition I had set my mind on being stealth in any relationship, but when it came down to it I chose to not be. The reason behind that is the foundation of any relationship is trust. If your hiding something from them (your past), then it is hard to build the relationship on trust and sets you up for problems later. Anyway that is my two cents. Hugs
Mariah
Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: harlee on February 29, 2016, 03:34:11 AM
I've not tried having stealth sex with a prosthetic but I feel it might be a little difficult if it's not dark and she's not drunk :P I have easily gotten away with being "rubbed" with clothes on and I don't believe that sort of thing is harmful. As long as your clothes stay on, it could work but I know its no fun :(
Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: haeden on February 29, 2016, 02:51:36 PM
From what I've heard adhesive doesn't work too well during that and I don't really see how you could be stealth with a harness on. I've never tried it and don't own a harness yet but I really don't see how it will work.
All power to you but I agree with the others even if she's just a hit it and quit it a girl who is down for a one night stand most likely knows what dick feels like wrapped or raw. She may be very confused and if you can't keep up the stealth that will go south fast

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Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: Laura_7 on February 29, 2016, 06:28:36 PM

Well what are you looking for ? A relationship ?

You might tell her ...

what about a short sentence you were born with a birth condition and use an enlargement...


hugs
Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: lionheart on March 06, 2016, 02:52:05 PM
Moral obligations aside, I really don't think you can get away with having stealth sex with any prosthetic. Not only would it likely not be normal human temperature, but you'd have to come up with an excuse as to why you can't produce male ejaculate.
Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: kira21 ♡♡♡ on March 06, 2016, 03:09:35 PM
Quote from: Tysilio on February 26, 2016, 06:43:01 PM
And with some justification, IMO. I think there are some real ethical problems with this, as deception and as a betrayal of trust.

I think there are some real ethical problems with labelling having sex without disclosing trans status as a deception that is a betrayal of trust.
Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: Tysilio on March 06, 2016, 04:20:35 PM
Quote from: kira21I think there are some real ethical problems with labelling having sex without disclosing trans status as a deception that is a betrayal of trust.

Sorry if I wasn't clear; my point has nothing to do with "disclosing trans status." Rather, I'm talking about a person's right to consent to what sexual activities they want to engage in. It's quite possible that someone might consent to being penetrated by a biological penis, but not to being penetrated with a foreign object. It's vital that they have the information they need to make this decision.

Even (perhaps especially) in the BDSM community, informed consent and respecting people's boundaries around this sort of thing are seen as essential for ethical "play." It's a standard which everyone should adhere to.

And in any case -- why are there ethical problems with expressing an opinion? 
Title: Re: Need help with being stealth while intimate
Post by: Mariah on March 06, 2016, 04:34:03 PM
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Considering we have seen this before and the point has been made in regards to Stealth sex. Thread locked.