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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: averyali on March 08, 2016, 01:29:02 PM

Title: Young children...
Post by: averyali on March 08, 2016, 01:29:02 PM
Anyone have to tell a young child that you are now daddy rather then mommy? Was it confusing for them,  or do they get it.  My son seems to be getting it, but I feel slight guilt since his bio dad passes away when he was 16 Mos old. He is now four and when I told him I was now going to be his daddy rather than his mommy. Maybe it's just confusing for adults,  not children...
Title: Re: Young children...
Post by: Alexthecat on March 08, 2016, 02:44:43 PM
It's easy to tell young kids. It is about the same and saying it is sunny or rainy out. They just accept it and move on. Four is a great age to tell him as it can get harder the older they get. For example some teenagers may feel embarrassed when a parent is at the start of their transition due to peer pressure. If he is fine with you being daddy now and is calling you daddy I would not worry about it.
Title: Re: Young children...
Post by: Dex on March 08, 2016, 05:12:52 PM
I am a step parent (though very very involved with my kids). They were 11, 8, and 6 when we told them I would be transitioning. They all handled it very very well and we have had no issues. In fact our oldest said "huh... Yeah that makes a lot of sense".

Kids usually have an easy time with it, especially young kids. Making the switch now eliminates a lot of the confusion with friends and other parents as your son probably hasn't really started school yet.

So, yes, I think it's easier for kids to understand as they do not have years of societal imprinting telling them what is "different".