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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: EmilyRyan on March 08, 2016, 11:36:27 PM

Title: Something has to give
Post by: EmilyRyan on March 08, 2016, 11:36:27 PM
Dysphoria has gotten worse here lately to the point I can barely cope.  I cry every night and basically hide my depression from my family since they don't care.  The fact I can't afford healthcare on my own and even the simplest places like McDonald's won't hire me worsens the situation. 

Is there any healthcare facility that will bother to see me I currently have over $700 to my name is there a clinic anywhere that'll take me in.  Please I need to get on hormones and soon before my dysphoria get's bad enough to the point may just decide to take my life because I can't afford healthcare.
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: DAWN MID GIRL on March 09, 2016, 08:57:32 AM
Hi Emily , I need to know where you live to help I'm prity good at finding things on the net.

BY FOR NOW
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 01:49:26 PM
Hey thanks for replying

I live in Tennessee just about an hour south of Nashville.
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: Stevie on March 09, 2016, 02:25:55 PM
Is there a planned parenthood clinic near you?
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: BeverlyAnn on March 09, 2016, 02:53:35 PM
Emily, there are two Planned Parenthood clinics in Nashville and one in Chattanooga.  You might look them up and give them a call to see if any of them offer HRT.  Many of their clinics are doing that now.
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: KarlMars on March 09, 2016, 03:18:44 PM
Here's a good link for the job part.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/corporate-equality-index_us_564cdd76e4b00b7997f8cac9 (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/corporate-equality-index_us_564cdd76e4b00b7997f8cac9)
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 05:34:03 PM
Thanks for the suggestions ya but I doubt I can even afford to go to a planned parenthood clinic and as for jobs I applied sooo many times to McDonald's and what not it's a wonder I haven't gotten a restraining order for bothering them so much (yeah I even called to check after I would apply).   
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: Adchop on March 09, 2016, 05:39:38 PM
Have you considered temp agencies? Also, there are tons of factories/warehouses south/southeast of Nashville. Have you applied?
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 05:42:58 PM
Unfortunately I have no way of getting to Nashville since I can't drive.  And yeah I have tried temp agencies for around closer to my area and for six months now I feel like all my applications go ignored just like everything else in my life. 
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: Adchop on March 09, 2016, 07:38:54 PM
Quote from: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 05:42:58 PM
Unfortunately I have no way of getting to Nashville since I can't drive.  And yeah I have tried temp agencies for around closer to my area and for six months now I feel like all my applications go ignored just like everything else in my life.

Why do you think they ignore you? Any reason you can think of?

With the summer coming soon, there should be plenty of seasonal jobs available at places like Lowe's, Walmart, Home Depot, or even a local landscaping/garden supply place
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 07:53:11 PM
Quote from: Adchop on March 09, 2016, 07:38:54 PM
Why do you think they ignore you? Any reason you can think of?

The fact I never get a call back after applying and when I do check I either get told that I'm not qualified or to try again and when I do I get told the same thing over and over again  Or I simply get "brushed off" by being told there's no positions available like they know I'm not qualified for much.

As for the summer work I did that last summer at walmart and got let go within two months due to apparently being incompetent despite having a good work ethic and attitude the whole time I worked there and it apparently went against me trying to get a retail job elsewhere because Lowes even refuses to hire me even got told by the interviewer as to why they won't hire me and it was due to why I got fired from walmart. So yeah I'm not good at anything either.
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: Adchop on March 09, 2016, 08:17:11 PM
Quote from: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 07:53:11 PM
The fact I never get a call back after applying and when I do check I either get told that I'm not qualified or to try again and when I do I get told the same thing over and over again  Or I simply get "brushed off" by being told there's no positions available like they know I'm not qualified for much.

As for the summer work I did that last summer at walmart and got let go within two months due to apparently being incompetent despite having a good work ethic and attitude the whole time I worked there and it apparently went against me trying to get a retail job elsewhere because Lowes even refuses to hire me even got told by the interviewer as to why they won't hire me and it was due to why I got fired from walmart. So yeah I'm not good at anything either.

Do you think your sexuality factors into it? How old are you if you don't mind me asking? In my early 20's, it was difficult to find a job. I remember having a panic attack at 22 because I was out of work for 1 month. Thankfully Home Depot gave me a job. So I completely feel your pain.

I've worked tons of blue collar jobs over the years, but I've always presented as a masculine male. I started work at 14 as a busboy, & I have had a steady job for the past 20 years. It seems that the 90's where better in terms of finding jobs for young people. I remember working at Walmart in high school & there were about 5-6 of us in high school that also worked at Walmart. Walmart doesn't do that anymore.

http://www.tvals.org/medical-resources/

Check out this link. What you want to find is clinics that work on informed consent. They are cheaper and you can start hormones by your second visit in most cases.
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 08:44:50 PM
I'll go ahead and tell a bit more about myself maybe that can help.

I'm 24 years old still living with my parents as a dependent and my parents don't support and believe being trans is wrong.  I graduated back in May of last year from a community college with an associates degree in general studies (would've hoped that would help with getting a job) and still taking classes with hope that I would become an elementary teacher but turns out I'm not even good at that and ended up failing two of the main courses for the program.  This semester I'm still taking classes just to get credits toward a four year in general studies since its the only major I'm good at.  And I don't get any financial aid since I still live at home and my dad is considered as making too much.

I would love to move out but as long as I'm stuck in this cycle of no employer wanting to hire me it's never gonna happen sadly. 
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: Adchop on March 09, 2016, 08:52:46 PM
Quote from: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 08:44:50 PM
I'll go ahead and tell a bit more about myself maybe that can help.

I'm 24 years old still living with my parents as a dependent and my parents don't support and believe being trans is wrong.  I graduated back in May of last year from a community college with an associates degree in general studies (would've hoped that would help with getting a job) and still taking classes with hope that I would become an elementary teacher but turns out I'm not even good at that and ended up failing two of the main courses for the program.  This semester I'm still taking classes just to get credits toward a four year in general studies since its the only major I'm good at.  And I don't get any financial aid since I still live at home and my dad is considered as making too much.

I would love to move out but as long as I'm stuck in this cycle of no employer wanting to hire me it's never gonna happen sadly.

You sound like your really tough on yourself. Just remember that you can't appreciate success without failure.

I am currently an elementary school teacher & I would say that you would be better served if you went into a more in demand field that pays more. Some of the medical profession jobs like Nursing, or radiology would pay more than a teacher in Tennessee does. You could make more money & find more opportunities with a nursing degree from a community college than you could with a MA degree in Education like me. Something else to consider is that transition is expensive & having a good paying job makes it easier. So my suggestion would be to tough it out with your parents, ditch general studies, & pursue some type of medical degree at the community college your at.
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 08:56:59 PM
I would love to but I'm not good at the math and science that required I even failed high school pre-algebra and failed college algebra.  So any medical or STEM majors are out of the question sadly. 
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: Adchop on March 09, 2016, 09:09:48 PM
Quote from: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 08:56:59 PM
I would love to but I'm not good at the math and science that required I even failed high school pre-algebra and failed college algebra.  So any medical or STEM majors are out of the question sadly.

You should talk with the university about a tutor. Most colleges, even community colleges provide free tutors. The other option is just to find a friend that is good at math & pay them a small fee to help you with homework. I did that with my spanish courses.
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 09:18:03 PM
I've tried tutoring for math and it never worked for still ended up failing the tests.  I'm actually talking to someone about possibly having a learning disability considering the fact I have trouble with information retention and I'm particularly good with tests in general.  Also I was in special education from second grade till I graduated high school.
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: Adchop on March 09, 2016, 09:34:35 PM
Quote from: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 09:18:03 PM
I've tried tutoring for math and it never worked for still ended up failing the tests.  I'm actually talking to someone about possibly having a learning disability considering the fact I have trouble with information retention and I'm particularly good with tests in general.  Also I was in special education from second grade till I graduated high school.

I have a degree in SPED & it might be possible that you have a learning disability. You should look up the signs/symptoms for Dyslexia. Tennessee doesn't recognize dyslexia as a disability, but it might be possible that you could have it.

I grew up with sever ADD issues, but I have learned to cope with it over the years.

If you were in SPED then you should talk to disability services at your college. Many schools have help that they can provide. I took notes for a student during my Senior year at University of Memphis.
Title: Re: Something has to give
Post by: EmilyRyan on March 09, 2016, 10:25:16 PM
I'm already in the process and making progress the school was all my documentation and when I get back to class I'll what can be done.