Today I go to court where I most likely will be served with a 72 hour order to vacate my apartment for nonpayment of rent. I have nowhere to go and nowhere to store my possessions. The fight for disability benefits is ongoing, but I don't have a solid plan for how to get caught up on my rent.
I cant believe I will be homeless again. The lack of a safety net for people who are unable to work is appalling. Life shouldn't be like this. Life shouldn't be this hard. I don't know how much more I can take before I break.
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Hold on and just do what you can now.
It will get better.
One day you will be on your peak again.
Just see it through ...
one more day ...
The economy will get better eventually ...
look at falling gas prices ...
its completely impossible and the first time in recorded history that prices for all resources dropped while there is more and more paper printed ... its simply not possible ...
there are people who try to fix the economy ... it will work eventually ... just hold on and see it through ... have some hope ...
There is a chat on susans if you want to talk to people ...
and you can call here:
www.translifeline.org
big *hugs*
Big hug! Ditto on the hotline. Being homeless is a temporary problem, don't throw a permanent solution at it. We need you around. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
You are a good person and the world would be a worse place without you here.
This is just some temporary difficulty that you WILL overcome. There is always a way. Find that way.
Please don't choose suicide as an option. Please don't give up on yourself. Please don't let some temporary issue have that kind of power over you. This is just a low point in your life that will eventually pass.
You have come much too far in life to give up now, and you have much to offer the world. You still have many things to see, do, and experience in your life.
You can get through this. Have faith and confidence in yourself.
Stay strong.
Losing your home is definitely scary, but there are publicly funded programs that will help you find temporary shelter. Stay strong, and you will get through this! Best wishes 😊
I'm on disability and social security and it is poverty. I live myself with each day worrying about paying rent because I live in the apartment that I have had for 20 years and had a job which I no longer can work. I've been using my savings to supplement the social security , but my savings are coming to an end and I'll probably have to find subsidized housing which has a long waiting list. I'm alright for a while , but my fear is real. There are homeless in my area that I see everyday that live off there disability checks , but can't afford housing and I'm constantly thinking about it. My social worker has helped me tremendously . If you can connect with social workers or government agencies that would help.I know where your coming from with the suicide option, the golden parachute, It's really not an option though because that one more cup of coffee and the one more story that you read on the internet or the one more person that smiles at you each day is so much more worth it than giving up. also hospital emergency rooms are great places to connect to help. That's how I did it.
Quote from: allisonsteph on March 10, 2016, 07:58:30 AM
Today I go to court where I most likely will be served with a 72 hour order to vacate my apartment for nonpayment of rent. I have nowhere to go and nowhere to store my possessions. The fight for disability benefits is ongoing, but I don't have a solid plan for how to get caught up on my rent.
I cant believe I will be homeless again. The lack of a safety net for people who are unable to work is appalling. Life shouldn't be like this. Life shouldn't be this hard. I don't know how much more I can take before I break.
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That is incredibly unpleasant, to say the least. As someone who has been (and still is) homeless, however, I can attempt to give you some advice on how to manage things if you care to PM me. Please at least try to manage... Don't give up now.
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I'm so sorry for what's going on right now, my heart goes out to you.
Please....... get help if you need it, call the lifeline or whatever you need to do. Like others have said: It's a permanent (and terrifyingly final) solution to the problem at hand.
Your life has so much more value than that, please please please do take care of yourself. The world would be a lesser place without you in it.
I would be lying if I said I had never had those thoughts before myself, because I have...... a LOT. One thing that always pulled me back was realizing that I'm stronger than whatever it was and that I was just too damn stubborn to let anything break me that badly.
Please take care, big hugs!
Is your Landlord pure business & by the book... or do they have a soft heart?
Depending on what kind of Landlord you have, an honest one-on-one may help... to at least buy a bit more time?
Just hang in there... please :)
Quote from: allisonsteph on March 10, 2016, 07:58:30 AM
I cant believe I will be homeless again. The lack of a safety net for people who are unable to work is appalling. Life shouldn't be like this. Life shouldn't be this hard. I don't know how much more I can take before I break.
And to top it off, you won't get health benefits until you've been on disability for a year. Yes, it does indeed seem as though the world is conspiring against you. While you still have phone service, call every food bank and rescue place in the book. Ask them if they can help. Offer to do whatever you can do to help them. I don't know. I did lose a place to lay my head once in my life and slept in my car. But I had a job and quickly worked myself out of it. Now that I'm on a fixed income, I have no clue how I'd handle it.
Please seek help! I am new here and I already view everyone here as a friend you and the other people have helped me so much! There is always a way! Life is worth fighting for!!!! Please seek help, other people have posted links please use them!
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UPDATE:
The court ordered a warrant of eviction as requested by my landlord. The judge informed me that the entire process does take about ten days, I have to be served with the warrant and given 72 hours to vacate. So I do have a little more time than I had previously thought. I am in a bad situation and at the moment still have nowhere to go. I may be able to get emergency housing, but I need the warrant of eviction to be served upon me before they will. I have done everything I can do, and have been turned away at every request for assistance. I don't know where to turn from here.
Thanks for the update! That's ten days to come up with a plan and/or look for assistance. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
Do you have any friends / aquaintants / people you know you could ask for a place to sleep for a while ?
Offering services in return ... like housekeeping / repair works / tutorial of children with homework ?
Have you asked social workers ? It might be necessary to ask a few times ...
Do you have any relatives you have not contacted in a while ?
*hugs*
Received my eviction notice. I need to be moved out by Wednesday March 16. Right now it's 50/50 between taking what little money I do have to move my possessions into storage and buying a shotgun and blowing my head off.
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If you are unable to locate help through the normal government channels, check with your church if you have one or with the police station. Both may be able to locate temporary help or connect you with the agency who can help you.
You know what, I'm truly sorry this has happened . The worse case you'll be out on the street until your disability comes through. The weather is manageable right now. I live in an area where there is a group of homeless that pan handle and have survived in Chicago weather for the past 20years. No, it's not fun and I've been there. It's not the most comfortable position to be in but it's doable until you can get help from the state.
In Ardua Tendit (She attempts difficult things)
Now is when we really need you to apply this. I've lived outside. Living inside, I've had my utilities shut off and had the water in the toilet freeze. I hated it, it made me feel like I failed. But we haven't failed as long as we keep putting one foot in front of the other. Give your circumstances the middle finger and tell them you're not stopping yet.
Hugs, Devlyn
Wouldn't be possible to add more visibilty to this kind of posts/requests and help build something like an emergency support network in Susans?
For example, putting it somewhere in the website/forum making the thing more noticeable and giving location and contact data for the people who could offer their help to her.
Sorry to hear about your situation Allison :(
Maybe you could try Trans Housing Network? (http://www.transhousingnetwork.com/)
It's usually for just temporary situations but you might be able to find something that works for your situation if you look enough/make a post. If you do make a post, it usually takes a couple days for them to screen it so time is of the essence.
I wish you the best of luck!
Hi Alison,
please hang in there, you will get though this.
May I suggest starting a crowd funding page.
there have been 500 views so far, so if everyone could donate $2 to help your situation that may help buy you some time to get a plan together.
Life is worth living and we are here for you xxx
Mod Edit- fundraising and is against TOS
I get homeless sometimes and I sometimes get suicidal over it. Your reaction is totally logical but I think people here would like you to bite the bullet and figure out how to get stable housing. You can't kill yourself if people need you to not do that.
If you're in or can get to the Pacific Northwest you can stay with me until the landlord notices. From what I hear that's never less than a couple months.
As it turns out because of past mental health issues, I am forbidden to own a firearm anywhere in the United States. Huh, apparently the system does work from time to time.
As it stands right now I need to be out of my apartment by Wednesday 03/16/16 (today is Monday 03/14/16). I will have enough money to rent a storage unit and a truck so I can move my belongings into storage once a check I deposited on Saturday clears the bank. I am certain that the Department of Social Services will provide me with emergency housing (they have before). What frightens me is the next step. If it works like the last time I will be expected to seek permanent housing while I am placed in emergency housing. The maximum stipend they provide is $400 per month. Even in an area as economically depressed as this one is there are no housing options for under $400 a month.
I would like to thank everyone for their love and support. Even in my darkest days it is nice to know there are people who understand and care. A couple of people have mentioned setting up a crowdfunding campaign. I do have a gofundme campaign set up, but I am hesitant to ask for help. I just don't know if it will help at this point. I hate to see people throw their money away on a lost cause like myself. The campaign can be found here:
Again, thank you everyone for your kind words and support.
Mod Edit - fundraising is against TOS.
I know 3 people in my neighborhood that get disability checks and sleep for a couple of hours at a time in the library or sandwich shops in the area. There are also a few churches in the area that have rotating days for meals. I know the ones that I know that live on the street also stay clean so There are shelters where you can was up. There are also churches that offer temporary shelters.
Quote from: allisonsteph on March 14, 2016, 06:27:45 AM
As it turns out because of past mental health issues, I am forbidden to own a firearm anywhere in the United States. Huh, apparently the system does work from time to time.
As it stands right now I need to be out of my apartment by Wednesday 03/16/16 (today is Monday 03/14/16). I will have enough money to rent a storage unit and a truck so I can move my belongings into storage once a check I deposited on Saturday clears the bank. I am certain that the Department of Social Services will provide me with emergency housing (they have before). What frightens me is the next step. If it works like the last time I will be expected to seek permanent housing while I am placed in emergency housing. The maximum stipend they provide is $400 per month. Even in an area as economically depressed as this one is there are no housing options for under $400 a month.
I would like to thank everyone for their love and support. Even in my darkest days it is nice to know there are people who understand and care. A couple of people have mentioned setting up a crowdfunding campaign. I do have a gofundme campaign set up, but I am hesitant to ask for help. I just don't know if it will help at this point. I hate to see people throw their money away on a lost cause like myself. The campaign can be found here:
Again, thank you everyone for your kind words and support.
You're making the right choice. I'm only sorry I can't afford to give more.
Allison, though I don't recall ever interacting with you, I have been concerned about your situation and I wish I could offer more than words. I'm just glad you aren't going down the more permanent route.
UPDATE:
I was able to get all of my belongings into storage, and I am currently in a VOA Women's Shelter.
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Quote from: allisonsteph on March 16, 2016, 07:58:08 PM
UPDATE:
I was able to get all of my belongings into storage, and I am currently in a VOA Women's Shelter.
I'm so happy to hear this. I truly have been thinking of you and your plight. You have been in my thoughts for several days. You'll get through this somehow.
I'm also happy to hear this is going well. I couldn't find the right response to your situation. But in my own feelings, this goes well beyond a transgender issue or a women's issue and it's just plain humanity. I've been very close to homeless a couple of times, to the point where it's always in the back of my mind, "What am I going to do when I'm homeless?"
The truth is, I really REALLY wish to see this work out okay for you. A lot of people need to know that there is space in the world for everyone.... It will be empowering to a lot of other people just to see when you have surpassed all of this. I know it is empowering to me that you have gotten as far as you have.
Your fight is for all of us. By "us" I mean "humans." It really does mean a lot to other people that you haven't checked out permanently and that you have a place for now to reassess everything and find a direction to move in.
--Lyra
Thank you everyone for your kind words. Being in a women's shelter is an experience to say the least. I am sharing a room with one Cis woman. In an odd sort of way it is validating, knowing that I'm accepted as a woman. I'm not being segregated, I'm being treated like everyone else.
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Use that to find the strength to carry on.