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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Midnightstar on March 10, 2016, 02:34:27 PM

Title: Dysphoria
Post by: Midnightstar on March 10, 2016, 02:34:27 PM
For some strange reason i have started getting dysphoria over my thighs
after i started thinking a little to much and noticed how different mine where to other men.
Comparing myself yep it got me. I can't stand it anymore! I need a way to cover it up i don't know if its possible but is there any way to make them look for masculine besides just clothing? Because i can wear baggy clothing all day but i know whats underneath, and if i could just mask it that would be great.
Title: Re: Dysphoria
Post by: Laura_7 on March 10, 2016, 02:40:41 PM

Well a lot is in the head.

You might look up pics of men at beaches.

There are many who have delicate and not too masculine looking feet.

It also depends on how they are built.

So ... there is a lot of variation, maybe that could soothe you.


*hugs*
Title: Re: Dysphoria
Post by: Elis on March 10, 2016, 02:45:11 PM
You could look at the underworks website. I think they do long elasticated boxers for this kind of thing. Or take up cycling or running. Apart from that you have to accept men come in many different body shapes. Some are curvy, skinny whatever.
Title: Re: Dysphoria
Post by: Midnightstar on March 10, 2016, 02:51:49 PM
Quote from: Elis on March 10, 2016, 02:45:11 PM
You could look at the underworks website. I think they do long elasticated boxers for this kind of thing. Or take up cycling or running. Apart from that you have to accept men come in many different body shapes. Some are curvy, skinny whatever.

It's hard to do because everything is like a trigger lately i normally listen to music or game
but i end up thinking about still or can't focus. And then when i try thinking about how far i come i feel frustrated because i don't feel like it's that far and in a way i'm still confused.
And when i try thinking positively about how our bodies are all different, i think of all the negatives like why can't i be shirtless, why couldn't i have grown up like the other boys. Why can't i this or that and all these crazy thoughts that rap into problems. I just don't know what to do anymore it's been about 3-4 days and i have no anxiety about it but i have this deep triggering feeling and this feeling of numbness and wanting to sleep constantly. I probably just want to talk about things i bet that's some o the problem because i speak to very few people about things ever sense i lost some friends and i started avoiding 90% of my problems iv'e just felt like i'm following a road to the lighter side but walking on the road with extreme numbness along with being blond folded. Then i found myself snapping a couple of nights ago and here i am today online speaking about it because i just can't keep it locked up.
Title: Re: Dysphoria
Post by: DAWN MID GIRL on March 10, 2016, 03:02:19 PM
Hi Midnightstar, I have learned my body is different than others so I can't compare it to other people's body's I have to love my body the way it is, that is what you need to learn and you will be fine.

BY FOR NOW
Title: Re: Dysphoria
Post by: Midnightstar on March 10, 2016, 03:04:09 PM
Quote from: DAWN MID GIRL on March 10, 2016, 03:02:19 PM
Hi Midnightstar, I have learned my body is different than others so I can't compare it to other people's body's I have to love my body the way it is, that is what you need to learn and you will be fine.

BY FOR NOW

How do you love something that should have never existed i guess that's what i don't get.
Title: Re: Dysphoria
Post by: Elis on March 10, 2016, 03:15:09 PM
It's taken me two years since discovering I was trans to accept and maybe almost like my body. So I get where you're coming from and remember those feelings I wishing it would all go away. My body is a male body because I am male. I just have gynaecomastia and an innie instead of an outtie. Every night I look at myself and simply focus on the parts of my body I like. I'm thankful for those and that I could have looked a lot worse.
Title: Re: Dysphoria
Post by: Midnightstar on March 10, 2016, 03:21:41 PM
Quote from: Elis on March 10, 2016, 03:15:09 PM
It's taken me two years since discovering I was trans to accept and maybe almost like my body. So I get where you're coming from and remember those feelings I wishing it would all go away. My body is a male body because I am male. I just have gynaecomastia and an innie instead of an outtie. Every night I look at myself and simply focus on the parts of my body I like. I'm thankful for those and that I could have looked a lot worse.

Yea, i don't know i don't even think its been a complete year sense i realized this and sometimes i still find myself questioning it so it's not over for sure.  I hope they'll be a day i can eventually understand and realize what people are telling me and learn to see my body as a problem but not the end.
Title: Re: Dysphoria
Post by: DAWN MID GIRL on March 10, 2016, 03:25:32 PM
Hi Midnightstar, I was referring to your first post here as for the things that should have never been I have that problem too it's very difficult to deal with alot of the time I can for a little while block it out of my mind but it stole comes back to anoy me so I don't know what to tell you about that.

BY FOR NOW
Title: Re: Dysphoria
Post by: Deborah on March 10, 2016, 03:32:09 PM
Powerlifting with barbell back squats and deadlifts will add tremendous muscle to your legs, as well as the rest of your body.


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