I'm worried that I'll have a sex drive and not be able to work on a job and have no outlet for it. Can a man's sex drive interfere with his work?
Non-asexual men work jobs every day? It's just a matter of self-control, like seeing a donut and not eating it. It can at times be difficult, but pretty much anyone can do it? You won't turn into a slobbering animal, you know?
Quote from: AlexW on March 19, 2016, 07:57:37 PM
Non-asexual men work jobs every day? It's just a matter of self-control, like seeing a donut and not eating it. It can at times be difficult, but pretty much anyone can do it? You won't turn into a slobbering animal, you know?
Thank goodness for your reply.
for all you know, your sex drive might not even go up. mine stayed about the same, others have even had theirs decrease. you'll be able to life your life normally.
Mine went up like CRAZY, but I am still capable of working, lol! The idea that men have sex drives so insane that they can't control themselves is nothing but a myth used to excuse rape or trick people into believing they "have" to sleep with someone because they "need" sex. I have seen teen boys in my classes distracted by their sex drives, but they are still capable of working and they have a much higher drive than adult men. It's just a myth.
Yeah I agree with everyone else, I mean I like sex a lot more, but working at subway doesn't turn me on too much! It's all about self control and being a decent person imo.
Quote from: invisiblemonsters on March 19, 2016, 09:05:42 PM
for all you know, your sex drive might not even go up. mine stayed about the same, others have even had theirs decrease. you'll be able to life your life normally.
I'm glad. Thanks for the reassurance.
Well, we are all different. Suppress? Not completely. But I did learn how to manage it and hold off until an appropriate opportunity arose to blow off steam. Pre-transition, I had a low T level even for a female, and my sex drive was correspondingly low. I started on a "full dose" of T straight out of the gate and became overwhelmed by my sex drive. People told me that the urges would decrease in about six months, but I needed more like a year before I saw a truly significant decrease.
During some of that period, I was working. My job requires intellectual effort; if I'd been back on the assembly line, I'm not sure how things would have gone. I sometimes found myself distracted, but I was fully capable of redirecting my thoughts when I realized that they were going astray. I just kept at it. When I got home, I took care of business. I could certainly hold off that long, although the experience wasn't exactly fun.
I suspect that I was a worst-case scenario or close to it, but I did just fine. So far, I haven't run across a trans man who wasn't able to manage.
Starting at a lowish dose and increasing gradually might be a good idea if you are concerned.
I had basically no sex drive pre-T whatsoever so having it now is... interesting, to say the least. That being said, while it was somewhat confusing at first because it was just so new and bizarre to me, now it's just another natural need like feeling hungry or thirsty and possible to ignore.
Short answer, no... it might be weird/unfamiliar and distracting, but it won't interfere with your life
My sex drive went down initially. Now it's back to where it was, but it's still considered fairly low for most people. I generally just don't have any desire for it, but wouldn't describe myself as asexual.
Even when I've been a little pent up, I've never been distracted by it or anything.
I'm well over a year on testosterone, and I have no increase or sex drive at all anyways, never had one and most likely never will. I still have sex though, as it's still enjoyable.
Oh well :) all case dependant if it concerns you, exercise helps.
I don't have much of a sex drive. Yeah it peaked shortly after starting but it leveled off and dipped.
Quote from: Skyler on March 20, 2016, 03:20:26 PM
I'm well over a year on testosterone, and I have no increase or sex drive at all anyways, never had one and most likely never will. I still have sex though, as it's still enjoyable.
Oh well :) all case dependant if it concerns you, exercise helps.
Thank you. I have an almost addiction to exercise already.
Mine went way up! Just take care of it every morning or night and you're good for working without thinking about it 24/7. Lots of guys have this problem but it's completely controllable.
Quote from: spro on March 23, 2016, 12:50:36 PM
Mine went way up! Just take care of it every morning or night and you're good for working without thinking about it 24/7.
Well, I wasn't! I would schedule time in the morning to take care of business--as soon as I woke up--and I would find myself wanting to masturbate again just before I left the house a couple of hours later. Even so, I had to work at "keeping my thoughts pure" while I was at work, and I would often masturbate two or three times before bed that day. I guess the urge would build and then dissipate slowly; the need became less and less intense every time I "did it." But as I said, I managed to get through work.
My days off were interesting, to say the least.
Quote from: spro on March 23, 2016, 12:50:36 PM
Mine went way up! Just take care of it every morning or night and you're good for working without thinking about it 24/7. Lots of guys have this problem but it's completely controllable.
In a female body I have that need more than 2x a day like clockwork and I fear having an erection and discomfort in the future.
Mine didn't really change, I just got more comfortable with sex. But, now, when I'm turned on I'm really turned on.
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Quote from: Ayden on March 23, 2016, 07:39:28 PM
Mine didn't really change, I just got more comfortable with sex. But, now, when I'm turned on I'm really turned on.
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Sounds good. Congratulations to you!
Ouch, twice a day already? Hopefully it doesn't go up top much. The point is, it's possible to keep your mind off it for the most part while working. If you have trouble concentrating in the first place, you may have a much worse problem. But people who are able to either take care of the urge often enough or who can concentrate well on work, there isn't usually an issue.
I'm with Arch. My time alone is definitely interesting.
I recently started talking to a guy who turns me on by just existing. I have to make sure I have time to jack off before we go out so I don't spend the entire time thinking about it. It lasts for maybe 2 hrs and then I've got an erection again and I'm trying not to stare at his lips. He doesn't help because he flirts like crazy.
Quote from: spro on March 24, 2016, 09:56:36 AM
Ouch, twice a day already? Hopefully it doesn't go up top much. The point is, it's possible to keep your mind off it for the most part while working. If you have trouble concentrating in the first place, you may have a much worse problem. But people who are able to either take care of the urge often enough or who can concentrate well on work, there isn't usually an issue.
I have adhd and bi polar disorder. It has nothing to do with thinking about sex, it's just an urge like clockwork. Thanks for the advice.