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Title: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: stephaniec on March 20, 2016, 03:20:25 PM
I'm pretty lucky in the sense that I'm older and a lot of life has past by so I don't worry about marriage or careers. I'm just trying to exist each day and accumulate as many nice dresses as I can. If I was just starting out in life I'd probably think of surgeries and what not. I'm really happy with what HRT is doing , but I know if I was 18 I would probably be going crazy trying to be perfect. What do you think would be the most essential thing besides GRS that you need done to make yourself happy.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Ms Grace on March 20, 2016, 03:31:53 PM
Is there a surgery that would fix my sister's attitude towards me? I'd be up for that.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Devlyn on March 20, 2016, 03:36:24 PM
Quote from: stephaniec on March 20, 2016, 03:20:25 PM
I'm pretty lucky in the sense that I'm older and a lot of life has past by so I don't worry about marriage or careers. I'm just trying to exist each day and accumulate as many nice dresses as I can. If I was just starting out in life I'd probably think of surgeries and what not. I'm really happy with what HRT is doing , but I know if I was 18 I would probably be going crazy trying to be perfect. What do you think would be the most essential thing besides GRS that you need done to make yourself happy.

My mom met her second husband when she was 67, he was 77. They held hands everywhere they went.
Never too old for love, Stephanie
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: stephaniec on March 20, 2016, 03:37:46 PM
good to know
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: stephaniec on March 20, 2016, 03:39:58 PM
Quote from: Ms Grace on March 20, 2016, 03:31:53 PM
Is there a surgery that would fix my sister's attitude towards me? I'd be up for that.
well, there is hope, My niece came back after I thought I lost her, the only problem is she dragging her mother along trying for some kind of peace pipe thing.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Shiratori on March 20, 2016, 04:26:34 PM
Possibly my face, as I don't know how I'll look after hormones and beard removal yet. This is the ugly mug that stares back at me from the mirror right now:

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FbeBxfh0.jpg&hash=a62dc6d6a36893080297d935bde80f89b355b8eb)
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Devlyn on March 20, 2016, 04:29:00 PM
All I see is a great smile and an awesome dog, and that's the foundation for All Things Great!

Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: MeghanMe on March 20, 2016, 05:04:19 PM
Shiratori, I absolutely love your avatar picture. I used to be crazy for that show.

The top three things I need to change are my face, my face, and my face. And maybe my hips. But no, really it's the face.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: KayXo on March 20, 2016, 05:27:23 PM
My mind's chattering and self-hatred. Hormones help with this, only to a certain extent. When the mind is fixed (or silent), all things become incredibly clearer, love emerges and makes things right. You just know where to focus and what to spend your energy on and what is totally useless.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: DanielleA on March 20, 2016, 05:38:50 PM
I would like to change my chin to neck area. I love my chin as it isn't prominent but because my hormones moved fat to my face, it is a little difficult to differentiate were the neck stops and my chin starts. If I could, I would also make my feet smaller. I have size 9 to 10 women's feet but I get a little sensitive over them sometimes.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: stephaniec on March 20, 2016, 05:41:17 PM
I could use smaller feet
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: KarlMars on March 20, 2016, 07:12:27 PM
I'm pre T and eventually I'll want bigger muscles and my face to be more masculine. I've got an ultra feminine face naturally. I hope I get my brother's square jaw.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: KyleeKrow on March 20, 2016, 08:12:34 PM
Hairline for me....I guess it isn't terrible, but it drives me nuts.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Deborah on March 20, 2016, 08:27:08 PM
My waistline.  But I'm working on it.


Sapere Aude
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: NataliaDoll on March 20, 2016, 08:31:49 PM
I was gonna say ffs and boobs but I'm getting those eventually so if I had to pick another surgery like anything I would choose my voice I talk feminine but the pitch is just too low for me personally.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: stephaniec on March 20, 2016, 08:33:34 PM
Quote from: Deborah on March 20, 2016, 08:27:08 PM
My waistline.  But I'm working on it.


Sapere Aude
yea, I have to add this one.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: IdontEven on March 20, 2016, 09:38:57 PM
Voice, jaw, chin. In that order. The voice just destroys me. The jaw and chin make the mirror and pictures painful, but those can at least be avoided for the most part.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Valwen on March 20, 2016, 10:41:00 PM
Slowly working on laser/electro, hate my voice but when I am honest with myself it's not awful. I have lots of little issues with my body but if I could fix one thing it would be my weight...or rather weight distribution, if my stomach fat was in my chest and bottom I would have far less issues with it.

Serena
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: SophiaW on March 21, 2016, 02:51:20 AM
Everything is fine apart from hair.
Had one hair transplant and now need another...people in the real world always seem to look at hair first, and everything else second, so yes...hair :)
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Mariah on March 21, 2016, 02:52:50 AM
Nothing that isn't already changing over time on it's own. Breasts and hair. hugs
Mariah
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: akegia on March 21, 2016, 03:26:56 AM
I feel like I would like to see more changes to my Face, so FFS for me.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: SanaRinomi on March 21, 2016, 03:37:34 AM
Quote from: KyleeKrow on March 20, 2016, 08:12:34 PM
Hairline for me....I guess it isn't terrible, but it drives me nuts.

I know that feeling... I inherited my fathers huge forehead and that drives me nuts!

                                                                      Love, Sarina!
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: ToniB on March 21, 2016, 04:34:36 AM
bigger boobs and smaller waistline ,shallow I know but what do You expect I am a girl after all LOL
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: SophiaBleu on March 21, 2016, 05:01:33 AM
FFS, I think.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: KarlMars on March 21, 2016, 05:24:02 AM
Quote from: NataliaDoll on March 20, 2016, 08:31:49 PM
I was gonna say ffs and boobs but I'm getting those eventually so if I had to pick another surgery like anything I would choose my voice I talk feminine but the pitch is just too low for me personally.

You look great and very natural.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: LizK on March 21, 2016, 06:05:37 AM
I can't have FFS, so the next thing for me would be my hair which I am going to fix with hair transplants....oh yeah and of course my voice but hoping a speech therapist might help with that. :)
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: kelseygal on March 21, 2016, 10:39:14 AM
I am surprised to be the first to mention taking down the adam's apple :) mine is/will be a huge problem, so it will be going right around the time I am ready to be full time.

J
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: NataliaDoll on March 21, 2016, 12:29:50 PM
Quote from: alienbodybuilder on March 21, 2016, 05:24:02 AM
You look great and very natural.

Thanks I had a nosejob
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Andie73 on March 21, 2016, 02:29:41 PM
Voice..  though because I use it a lot for my career, that's probably a big part of motivation. 

Otherwise, I could really use a magic de-wookiefier.  Each day I get more and more annoyed at whiskers, chest, and back hair.   >:(  Saving for a Tria atm.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: .Christy on March 21, 2016, 02:40:15 PM
it's pretty much 90% hidden but i NEED TO HAVE MY ADAM's APPLE SHAVED DOWN!! it's the only thing that's bugging the ->-bleeped-<- outta me right now, ugh! if only i could put on a little more weight then i wouldnt need to have it done  :-\ :'(
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: RobynD on March 21, 2016, 02:51:14 PM
Zapping the facial hair away would be next for me, followed by my voice. - i am pretty happy about the degree of feminization my body has experienced.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Andie73 on March 21, 2016, 03:24:27 PM
*facepalm*  Thanks, Christy... I had almost forgot about that thing.   I thought I saw an option to get that done when they retune the voice somewhere. Time to research =)
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: lisarenee on March 21, 2016, 05:13:15 PM
1) Breasts -- Still holding out hope they will grow a cup size or two from the hormones, but nothing so far.

2) Body Fat -- I still have some weight to lose and will probably have to have some loose skin removed. I want to look amazing in a bikini.

3) Voice -- I haven't heard great things about VFS (e.g. "It doesn't work"), but would love to be able to speak effortlessly feminine.

4) Body Proportions -- I want a waist to hip ratio < 0.7. I'm currently at about 0.87, which should improve with weight loss. My lowest ratio was 0.84 in 2004 and it rebounded slightly after I dropped below 22% body fat as subsequent weight/fat loss seemed to come from my hips.

5) Body Hair -- I want everything except that on top of my head gone. Unfortunately, full body laser is so d***ed expensive.

Things I would like to change, but there currently is no surgery for them --

1) Height -- I'm 6 feet tall. Now, I know 3 or 4 ciswomen who are at least that tall, but I would still like to be shorter. It would also help with #2.

2) Foot Size -- The cutest shoes all seem to only come in size 7-8. Of course, my entire body would have to shrink (see #1) to keep things proportional.

3) Internal Plumbing -- All the internals needed to get pregnant the regular way (in bed with a man).
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Cheska on March 21, 2016, 05:19:16 PM
Quote from: kelseygal on March 21, 2016, 10:39:14 AM
I am surprised to be the first to mention taking down the adam's apple :) mine is/will be a huge problem, so it will be going right around the time I am ready to be full time.

J

I was going to say the same. My Adam's apple, facial hair and voice are my top three. Genitals are pretty low on the list to be honest.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: mac1 on March 21, 2016, 11:10:53 PM
Genitals definitely first, they must go.

Next, great breasts would be nice.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Amanda_Combs on March 21, 2016, 11:39:06 PM
The only thing I'd really change is boobs.  I wants big knockers.  But, that's not happening.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: stephaniec on March 22, 2016, 12:05:57 AM
Well, if I had the money I'd do my face just for the hell of it.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Mermaid on March 22, 2016, 02:30:05 AM
I'd like a big butt...

>:(
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Karlie Ann on March 22, 2016, 05:01:21 PM
Definitely my face.  It screams boy.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Mallory on March 22, 2016, 11:02:41 PM
My weight.  I desperately want to lose 20 lbs.   :(
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: noleen111 on March 23, 2016, 02:34:25 AM
My feet.

I don't have huge feet, but I am on the bigger side for a women and I dont always get the cute shoes I want in my size. I am limited to the styles of shoes I can wear. I wear a lot of heels to make my feet look smaller.

also i think I have a big "big toe" and does not look very feminine and I do get a little self conscious when wearing sandals. I have found wearing nail polish helps make my feet look very feminine.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: MichaelaLJ1972 on March 23, 2016, 07:27:57 AM
I'm pretty dysphoric about my waistline and EXTEMELY dysphoric about my body hair and the hair on my head. If I could just magically get rid of all the hair on my body I'd be pretty happy... and then a hair transplant to fix the top of my head, heaven it would be :)
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: SofiN on March 23, 2016, 11:38:02 AM
Facial hair being killed off is my #1 want right now. Hopefully soon the NHS can help fund me with that.

Other than that I guess adam's apple? It isn't that large but it would give me some peace of mind if it wasn't so visible.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Wild Flower on March 24, 2016, 01:57:11 AM
My voice. I think its more important than any specific beauty feature.

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Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Wild Flower on March 24, 2016, 02:02:47 AM
On the plus, knowing my body proportions are nearly identical to Kate Winslet doesnt make me feel as dysphoric anymore. Same shoe size, similar height, and based on pictures... She looks like she has a similar head shape to me.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: MichelleZelda on March 29, 2016, 11:19:59 AM
Body hair. Causes me no end of grief, even though I'm not terribly hairy

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Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: allisonsteph on March 29, 2016, 06:32:16 PM
First my face, then bigger boobs and a smaller waist. Getting the downstairs plumbing remodeled is actually pretty low on the list. If I could go to sleep tonight and wake up in the morning with the proper equipment with no surgery, no pain, no complications, and no dilation I'd be a happy girl. My desire to be properly equipped does not outweigh my fear of surgery. Hell, I'm afraid of getting a bad haircut, and that will grow back.


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Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Kimberley Beauregard on March 29, 2016, 06:47:19 PM
I think the main one is migration of upper body fat to my hips and arse and slight reshaping of my face. I can mostly deal with the rest.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: KayXo on March 30, 2016, 04:34:47 PM
Quote from: allisonsteph on March 29, 2016, 06:32:16 PM
If I could go to sleep tonight and wake up in the morning with the proper equipment with no surgery, no pain, no complications, and no dilation I'd be a happy girl.

The pain was minimal in my case, there were no complications except some hair inside my vagina that is purely aesthetically annoying and I haven't dilated in years (still deep enough). I have orgasms, self-lubricate. So, it's really not that bad at all and worth it, in the end. These days, the risks are quite low with this type of surgery.

Quote from: Kimberley Beauregard on March 29, 2016, 06:47:19 PM
I think the main one is migration of upper body fat to my hips and arse and slight reshaping of my face. I can mostly deal with the rest.

Just to clarify, fat does not "migrate" from one place to another but rather body fat is less likely to deposit in some areas (abdominal, with estrogen) and more likely to deposit in other areas like the hips, butt, thighs, face, upper arms, breasts. Over time, these hormonal changes change the shape of your outer body. Upper body muscle will somewhat shrink but it takes time, especially if you started with a lot and sometimes, changes are negligible. 
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: mac1 on March 31, 2016, 05:37:26 PM
Quote from: allisonsteph on March 29, 2016, 06:32:16 PM
First my face, then bigger boobs and a smaller waist. Getting the downstairs plumbing remodeled is actually pretty low on the list. If I could go to sleep tonight and wake up in the morning with the proper equipment with no surgery, no pain, no complications, and no dilation I'd be a happy girl. My desire to be properly equipped does not outweigh my fear of surgery. Hell, I'm afraid of getting a bad haircut, and that will grow back.


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Well said girl.  I have wished that for many years!
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Ashley Allison on April 01, 2016, 12:11:38 AM
Definitely my chest, for sure my chest.  I look down and see... My almost boobs, but really just because I have been slightly overweight to make it look that way.  Can't wait one day to have boobs of my own. 
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: stephaniec on April 01, 2016, 04:25:58 PM
yes , boobs help with balance
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Floritine on April 02, 2016, 12:08:07 AM
1 - my hairy legs hate having to shave then once a week, and having to shave my face and take a razor with me when I stay overnight when not at home,
2 - being over weight but being on Seroquel makes it hard to loose any,
3 - my big skies cause I cant go to normal shops and buy shoes that I like when I have shopping urges and the only way that would fix the problem is to lop of the toes,

Cheers Tracy
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Rachel_Christina on April 02, 2016, 12:36:45 AM
I have been lucky in that I would not say I'm terribly dysphoric! I alwasy new I was different, but delt with it! My mind is extremely clear!, and since I came out to my girlfriend life has been soooo good! And my mind even clearer!, I'm so lucky I kept my sanity through this horrid plight! I have no body hair, or back or arm hair, and my facial hair never really grew either!  HRT starts in July so i won't have to worry about any more masculinization of the body! Oh thats probably the only difference since I admited this problem to my girlfriend, wanting to start as fast as possible, trying to deminish T in anyway possible!
But to the question, the only part of me I find really bad is my voice, I hope that I can sort that out eventually! And maybe hips, but if I put on some weight when hormones start I should be ok!
Hugs, Christine.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: mac1 on April 02, 2016, 12:42:13 PM
Top three - all very important & desirable.

1. Loss of male appendage - female genitals would be nice.
2. Have nice breasts.
3. Elimination of facial & body hair.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Snöfrost on April 02, 2016, 07:27:59 PM
Fat fat fat fat fat...I need more bodyfat, espcecially on my hips, buttocks and legs. But it's hopeless.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: MichelleZelda on April 23, 2016, 02:20:43 PM
Face
Feet
Voice
Fat
Body/facial hair
Skin

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Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: HeatherR on April 23, 2016, 06:16:31 PM
My fat belly and my voice... those two things cause me daily grief.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: MelloYellowSurge on April 23, 2016, 08:39:18 PM
I'm pre-transition so for me it would be the following in (roughly) this order:

1) Body hair - It's worse on my face because I seem to have a shadow right after I'm done shaving my face. I also seem to grow hair everywhere else on my body at too rapid a rate for my liking. I also find myself a bit on edge about shaving my legs seeing as I have psoriasis on my knees. For now, I suspect I'm going to have to figure out the right kind of foundation to apply to my face. On the bright side, at least the hair on top of my head grows pretty fast too.

2) Fat and Muscle - For as long as I can remember, I've had this fugly beer belly that I'm afraid is going to leave me with a muffin top whenever I try on a skirt or a pair of jeans and I try to tuck in the top I'm wearing. I'm hoping HRT helps me there. I'm also not a fan of how big the upper part of my legs are and yet at the same time I seem to have no butt. Hopefully HRT helps me here too. I'll avoid going any further than that lest this become a dissertation on how much I don't like my far and muscle distribution.

3) Breasts - Despite how well this ties into the second one, I suspect that starting in my 30's won't leave me with a lot of growth in that department. I'd like to have C cup breasts but I suspect I'll be lucky just to pull off B's without implants once on HRT. I guess we'll see what happens once I've started.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: VivianB on April 23, 2016, 08:51:01 PM
For me it would be

1. Body hair. I am really hairy and I really hate it.
2. Breasts I would like to have C cup breasts.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: Cara_DarkCloud on April 24, 2016, 07:18:06 AM
Completing FFS is the most important to me then it would be (although its not possible shrinking) hands and feet as they are very manly and instantly noticeable.
Title: Re: Besides your genitals what part of your body do you most need to change
Post by: SashaGrace on April 24, 2016, 10:03:50 AM
My nose; it's crooked from being broken and reset a few too many times, culminating with a poorly executed closed rhinoplasty it's still wonky at the top but as the tip is OK and it doesn't run etc I'm loathe to go through with an open rhinoplasty to fix it. I know what I'm like, once I have one surgery I'm happy with I'll have them all and that's not something I can afford haha!