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Hello,

I'm agender, DFAB.
I would like to have a male chest and started wearing a binder a few weeks ago.
Until now i wore loose clothes. But i'm changing that.
I'd like to be able to pass as male by changing my clothes and hair.

Last week i accidentally kinda came out at my improvisation theater course.
After playing we talked, but not everyone of my group was there.
A few girls didn't like that other players always gave them female roles, they wanted to play a male sometimes to.
Then i said: " I find it easier to play male roles than to play female roles."
Then our teacher said " If you identify as a male or identify with male roles while playing you should play males until you're good at playing before you start to play females."
I didn't even knew i had been that clear.
I like what he said.

So now i want to come out to the improvisation theater group.
I'm thinking of telling them something a long this lines:

"I don't identify as female.
I find it easier to play male roles than female roles.
Apart from that i don't know what label to use.
But labels don't matter.
It's about the things you want and feel good about.
Some of the things i want are things trans men want."

But i'm insecure about that last sentence...
Is it okay to use that sentence?
If anyone have an idea how to say that in a different way it would be awesome.
So please help me with that if you can.
I can't say that i identify as a male because i don't.
There isn't really a good word for passing in my native language.

Cheers,
Funshine

Welcome, Funshine.

Let me start by saying that you have balls, no matter your gender, because you're working on a way to walk an authentic path. So to me, you're 90% there. You are willing to put yourself on the line to be honest to the world. I salute your strength.

I can't help you with words. People and communication is not my thing. But you definitely have my respect. It will go well, no matter what happens, because of your authenticity.

All the best,
-- Sue

Hey ya if was me i would just leave the trans bit out and say what i want , when i came out mtf i told my work friends and there all male and im the only female and they all snikered but were suportive in the end they just saw it was something i had to do  i think as long as ya dont chuck it down there throats and leave ppl wriggle room they get behind ya just my 2c worth best of luck  April xo


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Quote from: DogSpirit on March 22, 2016, 06:53:09 PM
Welcome, Funshine.

Let me start by saying that you have balls, no matter your gender, because you're working on a way to walk an authentic path. So to me, you're 90% there. You are willing to put yourself on the line to be honest to the world. I salute your strength.

I can't help you with words. People and communication is not my thing. But you definitely have my respect. It will go well, no matter what happens, because of your authenticity.

All the best,
-- Sue

Hi Sue,
I read your reply before i got to improvisation theater.
Thank you very much for your support and for kind words.
They really helped me to be brave enough to talk about it.
(Although i didn't say as much about it as i had planned)

Quote from: April_marrie on March 23, 2016, 02:33:38 AM
Hey ya if was me i would just leave the trans bit out and say what i want , when i came out mtf i told my work friends and there all male and im the only female and they all snikered but were suportive in the end they just saw it was something i had to do  i think as long as ya dont chuck it down there throats and leave ppl wriggle room they get behind ya just my 2c worth best of luck  April xo


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Hi,
I also read your reply before i went to improvisation theater.
Thank you very much for your advice.
I was planning to leave the transport out, but it went different than i thought.
I'm glad your friends from work are supportive.
My teacher is also supportive.

This is how it went:
I e-mailed the teacher first, asking if i could explain.
He wanted to talk first.
He did most of the talking,.
He assumed my gender is male, and i didn't correct him because that's fine.
I like being seen as male even though i'm agender.
I liked not having to say much.

He was fine with it and is glad that he knows.
He said that i don't have to tell my teammates because i don't owe an explanation to anyone.
He thought my teammates would be more careful with me, (trying not to emotional hurt me) while playing.
So i ended up not telling my teammates.
I want them to play with me as free as they can.

I think 2 of them know anyway but they didn't ask about it.
I'm gonna wear my binder and a t-shirt next week.
So that might be another clue to them.
I don't think the others will notice, because they won't see what they don't expect.

-Funshine Bear-